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The Message Behind the Music-March 16

Inspiration Behind Fancy:

Bobby Gentry was the original writer of the country song Fancy. However, when Reba McEntire performed her version of this song, Fancy became a household name. The lyrics tell the story of a poor mother’s last act of generosity to give her daughter Fancy a chance for success in the future. Fancy’s theme points to sacrifices made so made by parents so that their children might be able to realize the American dream.

Biblical Application:

Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver, 2 Corinthians 9:6-7.

Exegesis of Fancy:

Well, I remember it all very well looking back
It was the summer I turned 18
We lived in a one-room, rundown shack on the outskirts of New Orleans
We didn’t have money for food or rent
To say the least, we were hard-pressed
Then mama spent every last penny we had to buy me a dancing dress

A teenager girl remembers a special moment from her childhood. Fancy’s mom wanted her prom night to be special, saving everything she had to buy a dress.

Well, Mama washed and combed and curled my hair
Then she painted my eyes and lips (lips)
Then I stepped into a satin dancing dress
That had a split on the side clean up to my hip
It was red velvet trim and it had fit me good
Well, standing back from the looking glass
There stood a woman where a half-grown kid had stood

Fancy’s mom did everything in her power to make this evening the best night of her life.

She said, “Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down”
She said, “Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down”

Fancy;s mother wanted her girl to make her proud.

Mama dabbed a little bit of perfume on my neck
Then she kissed my cheek
And then I saw the tears welling up in her troubled eyes
As she started to speak
She looked at our pitiful shack
And then she looked at me and took a ragged breath
She said, “Your Pa’s runned off, and I’m real sick
And the baby’s gonna starve to death”

Fancy’s dad took off, her mom is about to die and her younger sibling doesn’t have enough income to eat.

She handed me a heart-shaped locket that said
“To thine own self be true”
And I shivered as I watched a roach crawl across
The toe of my high-heeled shoe
It sounded like somebody else that was talking
Asking Mama, “What do I do?”
She said, “Just be nice to the gentlemen, Fancy they’ll be nice to you”

Fancy’s mother provides advice for her date.

She said, “Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down
Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down
Lord, forgive me for what I do
But if you want out, well, it’s up to you
Now don’t let me down now
Your Mama’s gonna move you uptown”

This mom’s dying wish is to make her mama proud, to find a man who will provide her Fancy better than her husband.

Well, that was the last time I saw my Ma
The night I left that rickety shack
The welfare people came and took the baby
Mama died and I ain’t been back
But the wheels of fate had started to turn
And for me, there was no way out
It wasn’t very long until I knew exactly
What my Mama’d been talking about

Through this tragic event, Fancy began to realize what her mom was trying to say.

I knew what I had to do, and I made myself this solemn vow
That I was gonna be a lady someday
Though I didn’t know when or how
But I couldn’t see spending the rest of my life
With my head hung down in shame
You know, I might’ve been born just plain white trash
But Fancy was my name

Instead of feeling sorry for herself, Fancy decided to make something out of her life.

She said, “Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down”
She said, “Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down”

The memory of Mom’s word motivated Fancy to be successful in life.

It wasn’t long after a benevolent man took me in off the streets
And one week later, I was pouring his tea
In a five-room hotel suite (yes, she was)
I charmed a king, congressman and an occasional aristocrat
Then I got me a Georgia mansion
And an elegant New York townhouse flat
And I ain’t done bad (she ain’t done bad)

This positive mindset led to good fortune. Fancy’s drive to make her mother proud paid off.

Now in this world
There’s a lot of self-righteous hypocrites that call me bad (bad)
They criticize Mama for turning me out, no matter how little we had
But though I ain’t had to worry about nothing for nigh on 15 years
Well, I can still hear the desperation
In my poor Mama’s voice ringing in my ears

Despite reaching new heights, the elite don’t like Fancy’s elevated status. This doesn’t bother Fancy, holding true to what her mother taught her.

“Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down
Oh, here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down
Lord, forgive me for what I do
But if you want out, well, it’s up to you
Now don’t let me down, hon’
Your Mama’s gonna move you uptown”
Oh, and I guess she did

When one or more parents believe in their children. girls like Fancy often end up living prosperous and successful lives. The support from mothers instill belief and confidence in their children.

Final Thoughts:

My father was an immigrant to America after World War II. Subsequently, my parents lived paycheck to paycheck when I was a child. My parents did the best that they could until my father relocated to Delaware. While my parents weren’t perfect, they did everything in their power to ensure that my 2 older sisters and I had a foundation for success in the future. Happiness isn’t about money. Happiness comes from doing and working in positions that you were designed by God to do.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 14

Inspiration Behind I Hope You Dance:

I Hope You Dance was conceived from a moving experience between Tia Siller and her sick mother. Tia’s mother provided an inspirational message before departing, ” I hope you dance.” Tia’s mom wanted her to take a chance, by living life to its fullest. Upon completing this song, Lee Ann Womack debuted I Hope You Dance on an episode of Extreme Hope Makeover Edition after a needy family was given a new home to live in.

Biblical Application:

I am the gate; whoever enters through me will be saved.[a] They will come in and go out, and find pasture. 10 The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full, John 10:9-10.

Exegesis pf I Hope You Dance:

I hope you never lose your sense of wonder
You get your fill to eat but always keep that hunger
May you never take one single breath for granted
God forbid love ever leave you empty-handed

The opening stanza is a call for Carpe Diem, seize the day. Maintain your passion for life, never take anything for granted and take time to love others.

I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me that you’ll give faith a fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance

Enjoy the beauty of God’s creation. Stay optimistic when dreams and goals don’t happen right away. Give faith a fighting chance so you’ll be ready to dance when the opportunity arises.

I hope you dance (dance)
I hope you dance (dance)

Celebrate life.

I hope you never fear those mountains in the distance
Never settle for the path of least resistance
Livin’ might mean takin’ chances, but they’re worth takin’
Lovin’ might be a mistake, but it’s worth makin’

Don’t allow fear to narrow your options in life. Take the path less traveled, don’t be afraid to fail and pursue love even when it hurts.

Don’t let some hell bent heart leave you bitter
When you come close to sellin’ out, reconsider
Give the heavens above more than just a passing glance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance

Flee the root of bitterness. Never give up and slow down to reflect upon the beauty all around you.

I hope you dance (time is a wheel in constant motion)
I hope you dance (always rolling us along)
I hope you dance (tell me who wants to look back on their years)
I hope you dance (and wonder where those years have gone)

Make the most of the opportunities that you have in life. Stay present and live for the here and npw.

I hope you still feel small when you stand beside the ocean
Whenever one door closes, I hope one more opens
Promise me that you’ll give faith a fighting chance
And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance

Enjoy the wonders of this world. Stay grounded and be ready when new doors open.

Dance, I hope you dance (dance)
I hope you dance (time is a wheel in constant motion)
I hope you dance (always rolling us along)
I hope you dance (tell me who wants to look back on their years)
I hope you dance (and wonder where those years have gone)

Keep your head up, stay alert and seize the opportunities that God provides in life.

Tell me who wants to look back on their years (dance)
And wonder where those years have gone (dance)

Live your life without regrets.

Final Thoughts:

This song brought tears to my eyes when I first heard it on ABC as part of the Extreme Home Makeover Edition. Between the daily news cycle and social media, this world has become consumed with dwelling on what’s wrong, who is to blame and why we should hate them. I Hope You Dance serves as a welcomed change, calling listeners to make the most of their life. Instead of playing the victim card, stop living in the past so that you can start living the abundant life that God has designed for you.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 12

Inspiration Behind the House That Built Me:

The House That Built Me was conceived from personal experiences by Miranda Lambert and Allen Shamblin. This song was co-written by Tom Douglas and Allen Shamblin. These childhood memories combined with Lambert’s emotional response to the completed lyrics led Miranda to record this song for herself.

Biblical Application:

The proverbs of Solomon son of David, king of Israel: for gaining wisdom and instruction; for understanding words of insight; for receiving instruction in prudent behavior, doing what is right and just and fair;for giving prudence to those who are simple,[a] knowledge and discretion to the young—let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance—for understanding proverbs and parables, the sayings and riddles of the wise.[b] The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools[c] despise wisdom and instruction, Proverbs 1:1-7.

Exegesis of the House That Built Me:

I know they say you can’t go home again
I just had to come back one last time
Ma’am, I know you don’t know me from Adam
But these hand prints on the front steps are mine

Adults sometimes want to revisit their childhood by going back to where they grew up. Miranda wanted to walk through the house she grew up in one last time.

Up those stairs in that little back bedroom
Is where I did my homework and I learned to play guitar
And I bet you didn’t know under that live oak
My favourite dog is buried in the yard

With each step, memories flowed from her mind. Especially the tree where her favorite dog was buried.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
This brokenness inside me might start healing
Out here, it’s like I’m someone else
I thought that maybe I could find myself

These memories weren’t all positive. This home was associated with pain and suffering. Miranda thought that returning one more time would bring healing.

If I could just come in, I swear I’ll leave
Won’t take nothin’ but a memory
From the house that built me

The time spent living in this house helped shape who Miranda has become as an adult.

Momma cut out pictures of houses for years
From better homes and garden magazine
Plans were drawn and concrete poured
Nail by nail and board by board
Daddy gave life to momma’s dream

Although her parents didn’t have much, they did the best that they could.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
This brokenness inside me might start healing
Out here, it’s like I’m someone else
I thought that maybe I could find myself

Going back in time doesn’t always help. Brokenness takes time to heal, often longer than you expect.

If I could just come in, I swear I’ll leave
Won’t take nothin’ but a memory
From the house that built me

Miranda begs the current owners for one last chance to walk back in time.

You leave home, you move on
And you do the best you can
I got lost in this whole world
And forgot who I am

Miranda got so caught up in her busy schedule that she lost her way, forgetting who she was.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
This brokenness inside me might start healing
Out here, it’s like I’m someone else
I thought that maybe I could find myself

This visit didn’t produce the outcome that Miranda was hoping for.

If I could walk around, I swear I’ll leave
Won’t take nothin’ but a memory
From the house that built me

If these walls could speak, they would share the life lessons Miranda learned while growing up in this house.

Final Thoughts:

As an adult, I still have a photographic memory, able to recall fond memories. Growing up in New Jersey, I can remember my first homerun in baseball and being laughed out for not being able to read out loud in first grade due to severe stuttering. These are past events that helped shape me as an adult. The tougher the pain, the greater the opportunity for personal growth. These are the events that build and shape human beings.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 9

Inspiration Behind Hold On:

Hold On by Wilson Phillips provides an inside scoop of what was going on behind the scenes of her band. Lead singer Chyanna was battling substance abuse and a difficult relationship. The lyrics of Hold On serves as words of encouragement to hang in there until this tumultuous stage of life ends. The theme of Hold On urges listeners in a similar situation to make a change to avoid falling into a cycle of pain.

Biblical Application:

Do not quench the Spirit. 20 Do not treat prophecies with contempt 21 but test them all; hold on to what is good, 22 reject every kind of evil, 1 Thessalonians 5:19-21.

Exegesis of Hold On:

I know there’s pain (I know there’s pain)
Why do you lock yourself up in these chains? (These chains)
No one can change your life except for you
Don’t ever let anyone step all over you

Pain is a natural aspect of life. Yet how you respond to pain will dictate how quickly you recover. You need to take responsibility for your life and stop playing the victim. If you want to change, stop letting others walk all over you.

Just open your heart and your mind
Mmm
Is it really fair to feel, this way inside?
Whoa-oh-oh

If the human heart is your well spring to life, guard your heart as you open your mind to a new future free from pain. Don’t let the past drag you down.

Someday, somebody’s gonna make you want to
Turn around and say goodbye
Until then, baby, are you going to let ’em
Hold you down and make you cry?
Don’t you know?
Don’t you know, things can change?
Things will go your way
If you hold on for one more day
Can you hold on for one more day?
Things will go your way
Hold on for one more day

Change is possible, but your need to develop perseverance to press on. While you are waiting for circumstances in your life to change, hold on for dear life until things start to go your way again.

You could sustain
(Hmm) or are you comfortable with the pain?
You’ve got no one to blame for your unhappiness (no, baby)
You got yourself into your own mess (ooh)

Don’t let pain consume your life. You’ve got to be proactive in breaking free from your current situation. Don’t let these negative patterns continue.

Lettin’ your worries pass you by (lettin’ your worries), baby, (pass you by)
Don’t you think it’s worth your time
To change your mind?
No, no

Doubt and depression are holding Chyanna back. Once her mind believes that change is possible, healing can begin.

Someday, somebody’s gonna make you want to
Turn around and say goodbye
Until then, baby, are you going to let ’em
Hold you down and make you cry?
Don’t you know?
Don’t you know, things can change?
Things will go your way
If you hold on for one more day
Can you hold on for one more day?
Things will go your way (all things will go your way)
Hold on for one more day

Breaking free from self-destructive patterns can be extremely difficult. Yet until you truly want to change how you are living, you’ll continue down this painful road. Some people just need a spark of hope or a positive influence to usher in a season of change.

I know that there is pain
But you hold on for one more day
And you break free from the chains
Yeah, I know that there is pain
But you hold on for one more day and you
Break free, break from the chains

I know you are hurting, but you have to hang in there. Press on.

Someday, somebody’s gonna make you want to
Turn around and say goodbye (say goodbye)
Until then, baby, are you going to let ’em
Hold you down and make you cry?
Don’t you know?
Don’t you know (know), things can change? (No?)
Things will go your way
If you hold on for one more day, yeah
If you hold on
Don’t you know, things can change
Things will go your way
If you hold on for one more day

Wilson is encouraging Chyanna that she will see light at the end of the tunnel. Yet, for now, hang in there just one more day.

Can you hold on?
Can you hold on?
Mmm, can you hold on, baby
Won’t you tell me now
Hold on for one more day
‘Cause it’s gonna go your way
Don’t you know, things can change
Things will go your way
If you hold on for one more day, yeah
Can’t you change it this time
Make up your mind
Hold on
Hold on

This final chorus is like a prayer for a good friend. A glimpse of hope is better than the reality of pain and suffering.

Final Thoughts:

As a former youth pastor, teenagers can place themselves into difficult situations similar to Chyanna. All I could do was be an agent for change, providing words of hope. In the end, human beings have to want to change before hope has the opportunity to become a reality.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 8

Inspiration Behind What About Love?

What About Love was conceived out of a longing for an emotional connection and desire for unreciprocated love. The lyrics were spawn from band members who felt unappreciated by their former partners. The concept of love has become merely a word in many relationships, void of genuine acts of romance. Subsequently, once in a relationship, these women band members wanted to know what happened to love, where did it go?

Biblical Application:

 You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh[a]; rather, serve one another humbly in love. 14 For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”[b] 15 If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other, Galatians 5:13-15.

Exegesis of What About Love:

I’ve been lonely, I’ve been waitin’ for you
I’m pretending and that’s all I can do
The love I’m sendin’
Ain’t makin’ it through to your heart

This woman doesn’t like being lonely. When she finds someone, she is trying to get his attention. Yet, despite her attempts at affection, he either doesn’t notice or have mutual feelings.

You’ve been hidin’, never lettin’ it show
Always tryin’ to keep it under control
You got it down and you’re well on your way to the top
But there’s somethin’ that you forgot

Some guys try to hide their feelings in an attempt to remain cool. Instead, the man she has her eye on is focused on their career, seeking to reach new heights. However, he is missing out on love.

What about love?
Don’t you want someone to care about you?
And what about love?
Don’t let it slip away

The chorus is an open-ended question. God designed human beings to leave their parents and start their own family. This is what this woman asks, “don’t you want to share your life with someone you love?

What about love?
I only want to share it with you
You might need it someday

This opens the door to an intimate encounter. You are the one who I want to share my life with.

I can’t tell you what you’re feelin’ inside
And I can’t sell you what you don’t want to buy
Something’s missing, you got to look back on your life
You know something here just ain’t right

She is trying to break through to uncover what he is feeling. She refuses to give up, urging this man to consider what he is missing.

What about love?
Don’t you want someone to care about you?
What about love?
Don’t let it slip away
What about love?
I only want to share it with you

This chorus makes a convincing argument about love and the need for this to be shared.

What about love?
Don’t you want someone to care about you?
What about love?
Don’t let it slip away

Let me know. I know you have feelings of love. What are you afraid of? Act now or love will slip away.

But what about love?
I only want to share it with you
Oh no
Ohh ohh, oh what about love?

This woman is fighting to express her love, eager to convince the person she cares about.

Yeah
Ooh ooh hoo
What about love?
Love, love, love
What about, what about love?
Ooh hoo hoo hoo

Love is a driving force, especially when you meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with.

Final Thoughts:

One of the aspects not addressed in what about love is timing. Both individuals aren’t always ready for love. When the timing is off, love is not manifested. However, when the time is right, love between 2 people is conceived. This is the key element of love, where desire and timing co-exist.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 5

Inspiration Behind Material Girl:

Madonna’s Material Girl was inspired by the rapid spread of materialism in the 1980’s. Although Madonna possessed an internal desire for luxury and wealth, she addresses the superficial nature of people giving expensive gifts for something in return. After graduating from high school in Rochester, Michigan, Madonna moved to New York City to follow her dreams. The success of Material Girl propelled Madonna to become a legendary female singer.

Biblical Application:

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you,” Hebrews 13:4-5.

Exegesis of Material Girl:

Some boys kiss me, some boys hug me
I think they’re okay
If they don’t give me proper credit
I just walk away

Madonna doesn’t mind attention from the opposite sex. However, when she doesn’t receive a certain level of respect, she simply walks away.

They can beg and they can plead
But they can’t see the light, that’s right, that’s right
‘Cause the boy with the cold hard cash
Is always Mister Right

Madonna isn’t bothered by flattery or gifts. Yet someone with financial stability in his bank account is what Madonna is searching for.

‘Cause we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl
You know that we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl

Living in New York City as an aspiring singer wasn’t easy for Madonna. Subsequently, she became a material girl living in a world full of materialism.

Some boys romance, some boys slow dance
That’s alright with me
If they can’t raise my interest then I
Have to let them be

Madonna enjoys dancing and romance. However, the guy she is looking for must be impressive or else she’ll lose interest quickly.

Some boys try and some boys lie but
I don’t let them play, no way, no way
Only boys that save their pennies
Make my rainy day

Madonna doesn’t have any patience for liars and players. She is looking for prudent and shrewd individuals who possess a vision for the future.

‘Cause they are living in a material world
And I am a material girl
You know that we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl

Madonna had an intuition that material possessions would continue to climb in value, making this lifestyle hard to sustain.

Living in a material world
(Material)
Living in a material world
Living in a material world
(Material)
Living in a material world

This chorus drives home the foresight of being financially responsible.

Boys may come and boys may go
And that’s alright you see
Experience has made me rich
And now they’re after me

Life experiences have made Madonna popular and wealthy.

‘Cause everybody’s living in a material world
And I am a material girl
You know that we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl

This journey as a material girl elevated Madonna into the category of rich and famous.

Living in a material world
And I am a material girl
You know that we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl

Perhaps this repetitive chorus is meant to reinforce Madonna rise in pop culture.

A material, a material
A material, a material world

Once you reach this status of a material girl, the world expects you to stay here.

Living in a material world
(Material)
Living in a material world
Living in a material world
(Material)
Living in a material world

This became Madonna’s mindset.

Living in a material world
(Material)
Living in a material world
Living in a material world
(Material)
Living in a material world

Fame and fortune changed Madonna.

Final Thoughts:

As I entered high school, Madonna was seeking to become to next great female singer. Along the way to the top, Madonna continued to push the envelope in her lyrics and music videos. By the time I graduated from college, Madonna had gone off the deep end, losing touch with the Catholic girl growing up in Michigan. God gives human beings free will to do and live as they choose. Maybe, God willing, this prodigal daughter will come to her senses at some time before her singing career ends. As for now, Madonna has become the material girl from this song.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 4

Inspiration Behind Wasting Away:

The lyrics to Wasting Away would have fit into making New Year Resolutions, but this song addresses how people put off following their dreams. Instead of taking a chance to risk failure, fear is preventing action causing individuals to become idle. Tonight Alive attempts to inspire listeners to press beyond their emotional struggles to make their dreams comes true. This journey begins by setting daily goals that will lead an individual toward the desires on their heart.

Biblical Application:

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God—this is your true and proper worship. Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will, Romans 12:1-2.

Exegesis of Wasting Away:

And so the sky becomes a dream
I never dreamt, because I’m just too busy
Waiting for nothing and wasting away

The lyrics begin with a moment of reflection. This quickly vanishes as the fast pace of life is preventing time to dream. But the reality of this situation is the act of procrastinating.

Don’t tell me it’s too hard
You were never there from the start
I’m not about to give this up
Giving up was never enough, no

Excuses aren’t productive. You can’t say it’s too hard as you just got here. I’m not listening to your negativity. Giving up my dreams was never an option.

And so the sky becomes a dream
I never dreamt, because I’m just too busy
Waiting for nothing and wasting away
And so the sky, it watched my dreams
Fall to pieces right in front of me
‘Cause I’m just too busy
Waiting for nothing and wasting away

This extended chorus urges listeners to stop standing around and start following your dreams.

And I never wished for anything more
Than to find what I’ve been looking for
And I swore to myself, I wouldn’t lie to myself
How could I let this happen?
So I pull myself aside
Take the time you tell myself it’s alright
‘Cause you weren’t there to dry my eyes

Dallas is talking about a friend, family member or partner who hasn’t been with her as she has tried to follow her dreams.

And so the sky becomes a dream
I never dreamt, because I’m just too busy
Waiting for nothing and wasting away
And so the sky, it watched my dreams
Fall to pieces right in front of me
‘Cause I’m just too busy
Waiting for nothing and wasting away

Don’t just watch as your dreams are falling apart. Do something now, get involved and avoid useless excuses.

I’m wasting, wasting away
I’m wasting, I’m wasting away

Talking about wasting time isn’t helping your situation.

And so the sky becomes a dream
I never dreamt, because I’m just too busy
Waiting for nothing and wasting away

Slow down, set goals and start facing your fear of failure.

And so the sky becomes a dream
I never dreamt, because I’m just too busy
Waiting for nothing and wasting away
And so the sky it watched my dreams
Fall to pieces right in front of me
‘Cause I’m just too busy
Waiting for nothing and wasting away
Wasting, wasting away, away

Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again yet expecting a different result. Wasting away in idleness isn’t going to make your dreams come true. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and start taking action.

Final Thoughts:

I am a big believer in following your dreams. I’ve written 4 screen plays and have an outline for a fifth. Meanwhile, I am creating an outline to turn one of these movies into a book. While I may not find a producer or publisher in my lifetime, at least I can say I accomplished these works of art. Don’t be an observer; be an active participate.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 3

Inspiration Behind Love is a Battlefield:

Love is a Battlefield was inspired by the complexities of entering into a relationship when you are young. Pat describes love as a conflicting journey. Love is a Battlefield challenges traditional romantic beliefs about love. Pat refuses to paint a rosy picture about living happily ever after once falling in love. This song serves as a warning, detailing the struggles of two different people coming together as one. Love isn’t easy as emotional scars from your past can represent love as a battlefield for control, enter at your own risk.

Biblical Application:

Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live!  – Hebrews 12:7-9

Exegesis of Love is a Battlefield:

(We are young, we are young)
We are young (heartache to heartache)
Heartache to heartache we stand (we stand)
(No promises) no promises, (no demands) no demands
(Love is a battlefield) love is a battlefield

This music video features a runaway teenager searching for love. Young people tend to struggle with heartache moving from one broken relationship to another. To avoid getting your heart broken over and over again, Pat provides advice on avoiding making demands and promises. If you don’t listen to her advice, you’ll discover that love is a battlefield.

We are strong
No one can tell us we’re wrong
Searchin’ our hearts for so long
Both of us knowing
Love is a battlefield

Young people think they are indestructible. Unfortunately, the trial and error of searching your heart results in pain.

You’re beggin’ me to go, then makin’ me stay
Why do you hurt me so bad?
It would help me to know, do I stand in your way
Or am I the best thing you’ve had?

Love can make you emotional. Especially when the person you are with doesn’t know what they are looking for or want in a partner.

Believe me, believe me, I can’t tell you why
But I’m trapped by your love
And I’m chained to your side

Love can make you blinded in certain areas that you don’t realize that you are chained by their side.

We are young
Heartache to heartache we stand
No promises, no demands
Love is a battlefield

Pat is playing the role of a realist, trying to warn young girls what love truly involves.

We are strong
No one can tell us we’re wrong
Searchin’ our hearts for so long
Both of us knowing
Love is a battlefield

You can be strong and stubborn, but if you are not careful, love can break you.

When I’m losing control, will you turn me away
Or touch me deep inside?
And when all this gets old, will it still feel the same?
There’s no way this will die

When you are young, love is a feeling that goes up and down daily. Once you become mature, love is a way of life. The key to love is developing a will to love someone so that love never dies.

But if we get much closer, I could lose control
And if your heart surrenders, you’ll need me to hold

Pat touches on intimacy and support.

We are young
Heartache to heartache we stand
No promises, no demands
Love is a battlefield

True love takes time and effort, enduring emotional scars from your past.

We are strong
No one can tell us we’re wrong
Searchin’ our hearts for so long
Both of us knowing
Love is a battlefield

Love can be messy as a couple brings their emotional garbage into a new relationship. When these issues are swept under the preverbal rug, love does become a battlefield for survival.

Final Thoughts:

If Pat was a preacher, Love is a Battlefield would be the anti-Joel Osteen sermon. Instead of focusing on the positive, Pat doesn’t hold anything back. Love is complicated, painful and unexplainable at times. Love requires effort from two people or else arguments and battles for control will ensue. Finding a soul mate can be great, but it takes time, patience and persistence.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 2

Inspiration Behind Pressure:

As an adult, every day can be like being in a pressure cooker. Paramore wanted to capture this image within a song to help individuals struggling and suffocated by the pressure of time. The man and woman in Pressure’s music video each face emotional stress and societal strain. The young man is being micromanaged at a local fast-food restaurant while the other is a model with agents always watching their figure and weight. The lyrics convey a message of self-discovery where 2 people realize leaving a career or job would be better off for their future sanity and success.

Biblical Application:

Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything, James 1:2-4.

Exegesis of Pressure:

Well, tell me where our time went
And if it was time well spent
Just don’t let me fall asleep
Feelin’ empty again

From the time you wake up, to the time you go to sleep, you are on the clock. Whether it’s a day off or you are working, Hayley Williams doesn’t want to get stuck in an endless cycle of feeling empty.

‘Cause I fear I might break
And I fear I can’t take it
Tonight I’ll lie awake, feeling empty

The pressure inside is mounting on the verge of emotionally breaking. This is what Hayley is thinking about which leads to emptiness.

I can feel the pressure, it’s getting closer now
We’re better off without you
I can feel the pressure, it’s getting closer now
We’re better off without you

Sometimes employers can treat people like robots instead of human beings. Hayley gets the sense that she is replaceable.

(Now that I’m losing hope)
(And there’s nothing else to show)
(For all of the days that we spent)
(Carried away from home)

Countless individuals strive to live the American dream, but never to obtain it. This couple is living paycheck to paycheck, trying their best to stay out of debt. Yet working is keeping them from spending time together.

Some things I’ll never know
‘Cause I had to let them go
Well, I’m sitting all alone, feeling empty

Hayley is either referring to managers having to let workers go or breaking up with a boyfriend. Either way, this act results in loneliness.

I can feel the pressure, it’s getting closer now
We’re better off without you
I can feel the pressure, it’s getting closer now
We’re better off without you
Come on!
Without you

The pressure to perform can lead to exhaustion. Hayley appears to be about to make a decision about a job or person. She comes to the realization that she’ll be better off without this job or person.

Well, some things I’ll never know
And I had to let them go, go, go, go
Well, some things I’ll never know
‘Cause I had to let them go
Well, I’m sitting all alone, feeling empty

It’s hard to be the one in charge, to make the difficult decisions.

Set it off!

Perhaps this is referring to the music video where the emergency sprinklers are triggered.

Feel the pressure, it’s getting closer now
We’re better off without you
The pressure, well, it’s getting closer now
We’re better off without me

Tough decisions have to be made daily. Some are put off, but when you finally make a decision, you are better off in the future.

Final Thoughts:

No one likes to be the bad guy by enforcing the rules or telling someone no. Without clear and defined boundaries, chaos will reign. Instead of waiting around for someone else to lead, take a stand now by putting out some fires today so that they don’t ignite into social wildfires tomorrow.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 1: Celebrating Woman’s History Month by featuring Female Bands and Vocalists

Inspiration Behind Girls Just Want to Have Fun:

In a documentary entitled “Let the Canary Sing,” Cyndi Lauper initially rejected a request from her producer to sing Girl’s Just Want to Have Fun. This song was too masculine in its original version. Subsequently, Lauper refused to perform this song as is, leaning on her team of musicians to alter Girls Just Want to Have Fun. After recording a demo, Cyndi still wasn’t happy as she felt this song was missing something. Once Lauper realized this song’s arrangement could be made unique, she used her voice to hit different keys to take on a totally different sound. This alteration enabled Cyndi Lauper to become who she really is as a singer.

Biblical Application:

A person can do nothing better than to eat and drink and find satisfaction in their own toil. This too, I see, is from the hand of God, 25 for without him, who can eat or find enjoyment? – Ecclesiastes 2:24-25

Exegesis of Girls Just Want to Have Fun:

I come home, in the mornin’ light
My mother says, “When you gonna live your life right?”
Oh momma dear, we’re not the fortunate ones
And girls, they wanna have fun
Oh girls just wanna have fun

Cyndi was fighting the stereotypes of woman back in the 1980’s. There was a time in America where woman were expected to get married, have children and stay home to raise them. This is the mindset her mother was coming from. However, Cyndi was simply looking for a good time each day.

The phone rings, in the middle of the night
My father yells, “What you gonna do with your life?”
Oh daddy dear, you know you’re still number one
But girls, they wanna have fun
Oh girls just wanna have

Cyndi’s father shared at similar worldview of the role of women in society. Cyndi still loves and respects her father, but she isn’t afraid to express what she is feeling.

That’s all they really want
Some fun
When the workin’ day is done
Oh girls, they wanna have fun
Oh girls just wanna have fun (girls, they want)
(Wanna have fun, girls)
(Wanna have)

Following societal expectations for women may be fine for most, but Cyndi was a rebel, wanting to unwind after work. Spending time in some form of recreation helps renew your soul.

Some boys take a beautiful girl
And hide her away from the rest o’ the world
I wanna be the one to walk in the sun
Oh girls, they wanna have fun
Oh girls just wanna have

Cyndi doesn’t want to spend most of her life at home in a kitchen. She enjoys being outside, doing something fun in the sun.

That’s all they really want
Is some fun
When the workin’ day is done
Oh girls, they wanna have fun
Oh girls just wanna have fun (girls, they want)
(Wanna have fun, girls)
(Wanna have)

Cyndi is attempting to vocalize what many women think but are afraid to verbalize it.

They just want, they just wanna (girls)
They just want, they just wanna (girls just wanna have fun)
Oh girls, girls just wanna have fun
(Just want, they just wanna)
They just wanna, they just wanna (girls)
They just want, they just wanna (girls just wanna have fun)
Oh girls, girls just wanna have fun

The thought of working a typical 9-5 job bored Cyndi. She wanted to do something that would be fun and exciting. Cyndi was a visionary before social media existed.

When the workin’
When the workin’ day is done
Oh, when the workin’ day is done
Oh, girls, girls just wanna have fun
Everybody
Huh, huh

Going out to a bar or club dancing after worked seemed fun to Cyndi.

They just want, they just wanna (girls)
They just want, they just wanna (girls just wanna have fun)
Oh, girls, girls just wanna have fun
(They just wanna, they just wanna) when the workin’
When the working day is done (they just want, they just wanna)
Oh, when the working day is done (girls, girls just wanna have fun)
Oh girls, girls just wanna have fun

Women aren’t wired like men. Subsequently, what is fun for women may not be enjoyable for men.

(They just want, they just wanna)
(They just want, they just wanna)

Still, the girl inside of every woman just wants to have fun.

Final Thoughts:

My mother sacrificed the first 20 years of marriage raising 3 children, with me being the last. Once I reached high school, my mom began to excel in Real Estate. Meanwhile, she also could have been a professor bowler, averaging 165 per game bowling twice a week when the top women in the world were averaging 175 per game. Human beings make sacrifices throughout life to help family, friends and members of their community. However, when you find an occupation that you enjoy and excel in, you can have fun every day doing what you love.

by Jay Mankus