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The Message Behind the Music-February 23

Posted on February 23, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Inspiration Behind Can’t Help Falling in Love:

The 1784 French song Plaisir d’Amour inspired Elvis Presley to write Can’t Stop Falling in Love. Jean-Paul -Egide Martini composed Plaisir d’Amour which was written from a female’s perspective of love. The lyrics were altered by Elvis’ team to fit into the theme for the film Blue Hawaii from a male’s point of view. Can’t Stop Falling in Love has become a timeless classic, often played at weddings today.

Biblical Application:

For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. 17 For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but to save the world through him, John 3:16-17.

Exegesis of Can’t Stop Falling in Love:

Wise men say
Only fools rush in
But I can’t help
Falling in love with you

The lyrics read like a poem, perhaps referring to ean-Paul -Egide Martini. Elvis is so overwhelmed by what he feels for this woman that he doesn’t care about what wise men say. He is smitten by love.

Shall I stay
Would it be a sin?
If I can’t help
Falling in love with you?

Is he thinking about staying the night? Having sex with a woman he is not married to could explain the sin comment.

Like a river flows
Surely to the sea
Darling, so it goes
Some things are meant to be

Elvis is following his heart and his instincts, not his head. He believes this relationship is meant to be.

Take my hand
Take my whole life too
For I can’t help
Falling in love with you

Elvis wants to walk hand and hand with this woman. He is considering spending the rest of his life with this woman.

Like a river flows
Surely to the sea
Darling, so it goes
Some things are meant to be

The second chorus points to certain relationships are meant to be.

Take my hand
Take my whole life too
For I can’t help
Falling in love with you

For I can’t help
Falling in love with you

Elvis has been overwhelmed by love, unable to stop his desire to fall in love with this woman.

Final Thoughts:

Can’t Stop Falling in Love was played at my daughter’s wedding last summer. Despite the slower pace of music during this time period, Elvis’ voice has the ability to keep this song relevant. In life. love takes time as two individuals come together as one, learning to share their lives. Once the emotion of a honeymoon is over, love is hard work as couples need to put the needs of their partner above themselves. During this transition, feelings will be hurt and promises broken. This is where forgiveness is essential to keep love alive. If disagreements are not addressed, the root of bitterness will drive a wedge between a couple. Forgiveness is just the first step, forgetting past transgressions is even harder. This is what you should expect the next time you fall in love.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-February 16

Posted on February 16, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Inspiration Behind Endless Love:

Luther Vandross was searching for a song that would communicate profound, timeless and romantic love where you continue to discover the love of your life. Luther wants to acknowledge that he isn’t a player in these lyrics. Rather, this love is singular, investing his time and energy on the love of his life with the ultimate goal of having this love last a lifetime.

Biblical Application: (a duet of words between 2 people in love)

I am a rose[b] of Sharon, a lily of the valleys.

He

 Like a lily among thorns is my darling among the young women.

She

3 Like an apple[c] tree among the trees of the forest
    is my beloved among the young men.
I delight to sit in his shade,
    and his fruit is sweet to my taste.
4 Let him lead me to the banquet hall,
    and let his banner over me be love.
5 Strengthen me with raisins,
    refresh me with apples,
    for I am faint with love., Song of Solomon 2:1-5.

Exegesis of Endless Love:

My love, there’s only you in my life
The only thing that’s right
My first love (yeah), you’re every breath that I take
You’re every step I make

The opening stanza serves as a declaration of Luther’s love. Mariah responds with a mutual consent claiming that this is her first love. You are what I live for, always on my mind.

And I (and I)
I want to share all my love with you (hey, you)
No one else will do (mm-mm), you know it
And your eyes (your eyes, your eyes)
They tell me how much you care
Oh, yes, you will always be my endless love

Sometimes you reach a point in life when you find the right significant other. When you do, no one else compares to this special person. In this case, the feelings are mutual.

Two hearts, two hearts that beat as one
Our lives have just begun
And forever (forever)
I’ll hold you close in my arms
I can’t resist your charms
(No-no-no, no-no-no)

This couple is on the same page, sharing common goals, interests and a vision to be together. This bond has led to a special intimacy.

And love (and love)
I’ll be a fool for you
I’m sure (honey, I’m sure) you know I don’t mind
(Oh, you know I don’t mind)
‘Cause baby (baby, baby, baby)
You mean the world to me
Oh, I know I found in you my endless love

This relationship is unlike any that they have experienced. The fool comment is symbolic that I’m yours for a lifetime, I don’t care what anyone else says or thinks.

Oh, and love (love, love, love)
I’ll be that fool for you (for you, baby)
I’m sure (I’m so sure)
That you know I don’t mind
(You know, I don’t mind, I don’t mind) oh
And yes, you’ll be the only one
‘Cause no one, no one can deny
This love I have inside
And I’ll give it all to you

This stanza could serve as part of a marriage vow that declares a commitment to love for as long as they live.

My love
My love, my love (my, my, my)
My endless love
(Mm-mm) my, my

Words can’t express the love I have for you in my heart.

Final Thoughts:

The term generational sins are first introduced in the Bible by God in the Ten Commandments in Exodus 20:5. These commandments are centered around 2 calls to action. The first 5 center around loving God. The final 5 focus on loving others as a civil call to love outside of your home. When parents, grandparents or great grandparents make decisions to give up on love by seeking a divorce, you become more likely to follow in their footsteps. Subsequently, previous wrong actions from family members provide an escape clause to also abandon love. However, if divorce has not occurred within your family history, you’ll be more likely to perserve in your own marriage. When a couple decides to commit to endless love, divorce rate will decline. Yet, growing in love is hard work, messy and requires perseverance. May today’s blog inspire you to embrace endless love.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-February 13

Posted on February 13, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Inspiration Behind Greatest Love of All:

The song Greatest Love of All was first recorded in 1977 by George Benson. The lyrics of Greatest Love of All were co-written by Michael Masser and Linda Creed. Michael wrote this as a love song to Linda who battled breast cancer throughout her life. The lyrics were fueled by Linda’s own experiences of resilience and determination to stay alive. However, Whitney Houston’s interpretation of Greatest Love of All in 1986 steered this song in a new direction, reaching new heights as one of her top songs ever recorded.

Biblical Application:

In those days Hezekiah became ill and was at the point of death. The prophet Isaiah son of Amoz went to him and said, “This is what the Lord says: Put your house in order, because you are going to die; you will not recover.” 2 Hezekiah turned his face to the wall and prayed to the Lord, 3 “Remember, Lord, how I have walked before you faithfully and with wholehearted devotion and have done what is good in your eyes.” And Hezekiah wept bitterly. 4 Before Isaiah had left the middle court, the word of the Lord came to him: 5 “Go back and tell Hezekiah, the ruler of my people, ‘This is what the Lord, the God of your father David, says: I have heard your prayer and seen your tears; I will heal you. On the third day from now you will go up to the temple of the Lord. 6 I will add fifteen years to your life. And I will deliver you and this city from the hand of the king of Assyria. I will defend this city for my sake and for the sake of my servant David,’” 2 Kings 20:1-6.

Exegesis of Greatest Love of All:

I believe the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children’s laughter remind us how we used to be

The lyrics reference the wisdom of King Solomon in Proverbs 22:6. When children learn to see the good inside of human hearts and souls, this world will become a better place. Give kids opportunities to lead, but allow time to laugh, reminding adults of how simple life was as a child.

Everybody’s searching for a hero
People need someone to look up to
I never found anyone who fulfilled my needs
A lonely place to be
And so I learned to depend on me

This world is eager to find someone to follow. A trustworthy individual who you believe in. During Whitney’s life, she never found someone who fulfilled her needs. Despite being lonely, Whitney become self-reliant, turning toward rugged individualism.

I decided long ago
Never to walk in anyone’s shadows
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I’ll live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can’t take away my dignity

Whitney decided to be a leader long ago, never following. Any failure was on her, following her beliefs and convictions in life. Whatever people think about her, they can’t steal her dignity.

Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
It is the greatest love of all

The chorus points to a place in life where Whitney became content with who she was. Instead of beating herself up with criticism, she learned to love and forgive herself. This is Whitney’s interpretation of the greatest love of all.

I believe the children are our future
Teach them well and let them lead the way
Show them all the beauty they possess inside
Give them a sense of pride to make it easier
Let the children’s laughter remind us how we used to be

This repetitive stanza points to Whitney ‘s belief that human beings should invest their time in children as they are the world’s future.

I decided long ago
Never to walk in anyone’s shadows
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I’ll live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can’t take away my dignity

Whitney has no regrets about the decisions and paths she has chosen in life.

Because the greatest love of all
Is happening to me
I found the greatest love of all
Inside of me
The greatest love of all
Is easy to achieve
Learning to love yourself
Is the greatest love of all

Learning to love yourself is not easy if you come from a broken home. Perfectionists and individuals verbally abused as a child are often self-critical and have a hard time of accepting who they are. Reaching a stage in life of being content and loving who you are takes time.

And if, by chance, that special place
That you’ve been dreaming of
Leads you to a lonely place
Find your strength in love

This closing stanza serves as a clause, “what if you never learn to love yourself?” If your dreams in life don’t turn out as you expect, find strength in love.

Final Thoughts:

I disagree with Whitney about the greatest love of all. This love is described by the apostle Paul in Romans 5:6-8. Jesus dies for all the errors, failures and mistakes made by mankind. This love is expressed by Jesus in John 3:16-17 and reinforced by the words of 1 John 5:11-13. This is the greatest love of all.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-February 12

Posted on February 12, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Inspiration Behind I Knew I Loved You:

Savage Garden was trying to build upon their success of their previous hit Truly Madly Deeply. This duo realized that their best chance was in a love ballad, a genre that would speak to a broad audience. I Know I Loved You was written in 40 minutes. The inspiration came from Darren Hayes who was going through a divorce at the time this song was written. Love at first sight isn’t an ideal way to start a relationship, but for someone who knows what they are searching for in a soul mate, marriages can stand the test of time.

Biblical Application:

Then he prayed, “Lord, God of my master Abraham, make me successful today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. 13 See, I am standing beside this spring, and the daughters of the townspeople are coming out to draw water. 14 May it be that when I say to a young woman, ‘Please let down your jar that I may have a drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too’—let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you have shown kindness to my master.” 15 Before he had finished praying, Rebekah came out with her jar on her shoulder. She was the daughter of Bethuel son of Milkah, who was the wife of Abraham’s brother Nahor. 16 The woman was very beautiful, a virgin; no man had ever slept with her. She went down to the spring, filled her jar and came up again, Genesis 24:12-16.

Exegesis of I Knew I Loved You:

Oh, oh, oh, ohh
Maybe it’s intuition
Somethings you just don’t question
Like in your eyes, I see my future in an instant
And there it goes, I think I’ve found my best friend

Some people immediately know after an initial conversation, encounter or glance, that they are going to spend the rest of their life with this individual. Most people need more time to realize that they’ve just met their future best friend.

I know that it might sound
More than a little crazy
But I believe

To the analytical, deep thinkers and sophisticated, this seems crazy. Yet for Darren, he believed in love at first sight.

I knew I loved you before I met you
I think I dreamed you into life
I knew I loved you before I met you
I have been waiting all my life

The chorus describes the woman of Darren’s dreams. Someone he has been waiting to meet his entire life.

There’s just no rhyme or reason
Only a sense of completion
And in your eyes, I see the missing pieces
I’m searching for, I think I’ve found my way home

Darren can’t come up with a logical explanation for how he feels. To quote Jerry Maguire, Darren believed that his wife completed him.

I know that it might sound
More than a little crazy
But I believe

Darren is not thinking rationale as he’s smitten by love.

I knew I loved you before I met you
I think I dreamed you into life
I knew I loved you before I met you
I have been waiting all my life

The chorus reinforces Darren’s thought that this is the woman of his dreams.

Ooh hoo ooo, hoo hoo ooo ohh
A thousand angels dance around you
(Ooh hoo, hoo ooo hoo ooo hoo hoo hoo)
I am complete now that I have found you

Darren believes his wife was sent by God to complete his life, surrounded by angels.

I knew I loved you before I met you
I think I dreamed you into life
I knew I loved you before I met you
I have been waiting all my life

Intuition is leading Darren.

I knew I loved you before I met you
I think I dreamed you into life
I knew I loved you before I met you
I have been waiting all my life

Darren is overwhelmed by love.

I knew I loved you before I met you, I knew I loved you
(Ooh hoo ooo, hoo hoo ooo)
I knew I loved you before I met you, I knew I loved you
(Ooh hoo ooo, hoo hoo hoo)
I knew I loved you before I met you
(Oh oh, ohh ohh, oh oh oh ay ay yea oh)
I knew I loved you before I met you, I knew I loved you
I knew I loved you before I met you

Perhaps, this song was meant to serve as a plea to win his wife back. Or a powerful reminder of the love still present in his heart.

Final Thoughts:

When I met my wife Leanne in 1993, I had been avoiding the dating scene as a youth pastor. It took me about a year to realize that she was the one for me. Yet, after meeting me, Leanne knew that I would one day become her husband. Thirty plus years later, love at first sight can lead to a joyful marriage.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-February 11

Posted on February 11, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Inspiration Behind Can’t Fight This Feeling :

Kevin Cronin began to reflect upon personal experiences from previous relationships. During these observations, Kevin tried to connect internal struggles with overwhelming feelings for a significant other. The lyrics of Can’t Fight This Feeling were conceived from feelings that became too strong to ignore. Cronin is able to take complex emotions that all human beings feel and clearly articulate this within a song.

Biblical Application:

If you love me, keep my commands. 16 And I will ask the Father, and he will give you another advocate to help you and be with you forever— 17 the Spirit of truth. The world cannot accept him, because it neither sees him nor knows him. But you know him, for he lives with you and will be[c] in you, John 14:15-17.

Exegesis of Can’t Fight This Feeling:

I can’t fight this feeling any longer
And yet I’m still afraid to let it flow
What started out as friendship has grown stronger
I only wish I had the strength to let it show

I can’t ignore what I’m feeling in my heart and soul. Yet I’m not sure how to express what I feel. This friendship has grown, but I’m scared to let her know.

I tell myself that I can’t hold out forever
I said there is no reason for my fear
‘Cause I feel so secure when we’re together
You give my life direction, you make everything so clear

Kevin is giving himself a pep talk, to have the courage to reveal how he feels. When he is with this individual, she gives him clarity, direction and security.

And even as I wander, I’m keeping you in sight
You’re a candle in the window on a cold, dark winter’s night
And I’m getting closer than I ever thought I might

Even when he is distracted, she is on his mind. This relationship is providing hope and warmth, creating a desire to want to become more intimate.

And I can’t fight this feeling anymore
I’ve forgotten what I started fighting for
It’s time to bring this ship into the shore
And throw away the oars, forever

Now is the time to make this commitment. Take action, lead and take a leap of faith to go all in on this relationship.

‘Cause I can’t fight this feeling anymore
I’ve forgotten what I started fighting for
And if I have to crawl upon the floor, come crashing through your door
Baby, I can’t fight this feeling anymore

Kevin is going to do everything is his power to preserve this relationship.

My life has been such a whirlwind since I saw you
I’ve been running ’round in circles in my mind
And it always seems that I’m following you, girl
‘Cause you take me to the places that alone I’d never find

This relationship is unlike anything Kevin has ever experienced. Bringing out the best in him.

And even as I wander, I’m keeping you sight
You’re a candle in the window on a cold, dark winter’s night
And I’m getting closer than I ever thought I might

Despite whatever is going on in life, Kevin wants to take this relationship to the next level.

And I can’t fight this feeling anymore
I’ve forgotten what I started fighting for
It’s time to bring this ship into the shore
And throw away the oars, forever

Love may make you do crazy things, but risking failure is worth it.

‘Cause I can’t fight this feeling anymore
I’ve forgotten what I started fighting for
And if I have to crawl upon the floor, come crashing through your door
Baby, I can’t fight this feeling anymore

When you have something special in life, fight to save this relationship, even if it requires begging and humbling yourself.

Final Thoughts:

The fear of rejection prevented me expressing my feelings for girls until high school. This left regret, never knowing if the person I liked had similar feelings. Subsequently, in college I took more chances, wanting to know if feelings were mutual before I moved on, even if this resulted in heart ache. When the timing is right, don’t miss opportunities to tell others how you really feel. Part of learning to love is not being afraid of becoming vulnerable with someone you care about

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-February 8: Theme for Week 2-Learning to Love

Posted on February 8, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Inspiration Behind I Want to Know What Love Is:

The song I Want to Know What Love Is stems from the personal experiences in the life of Mick Jones as he searched for true love. As Mick reflected upon failed relationships from his past, the lyrics convey his journey to grow in his understanding of love. Former emotional connections and internal struggles served as a blueprint for these lyrics. During the initial recording of I Want to Know What Love Is, a gospel choir was added to provide a spiritual dynamic to this classic ballad.

Week 2 Theme:

Learning to love is conceived by a sense of desperation where you are trying to save a special relationship. This process includes being open to change, curious and eager to love your significant other. Instead of limiting your relationship to the physical, growing in love requires studying your partner to build communication intimacy.

Biblical Application:

This is how we know that we live in him and he in us: He has given us of his Spirit. 14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent his Son to be the Savior of the world. 15 If anyone acknowledges that Jesus is the Son of God, God lives in them and they in God. 16 And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. 17 This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. 18 There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love, 1 John 4:13-18.

Exegesis of I Want to Know What Love Is:

I gotta take a little time
A little time to think things over
I better read between the lines
In case I need it when I’m older

Mick is trying to learn from his previous mistakes in life. Instead of rushing into a new relationship, Mick needs some time to heal, to figure out what went wrong so he avoids making the same mistake in the future.

Aha

This mountain I must climb
Feels like a world upon my shoulders
Through the clouds I see love shine
It keeps me warm as life grows colder

Broken relationship often leads to soul searching, recovering from the pit of despair. This mountain is symbolic of growing up to reach new heights in life. This climb isn’t easy, but if you stick with it, you’ll be rewarded with glimpses of love. The hope of love kept Mick going in life, even when those around him were full of callous and cold hearts.

In my life there’s been heartache and pain
I don’t know if I can face it again
Can’t stop now, I’ve traveled so far
To change this lonely life

Intimate relationships can take an emotional toll on you. Sometimes the pain is so great that you don’t know if you will be able to carry on. Yet if you want to complete your quest for love by escaping loneliness, you must press on.

I wanna know what love is
I want you to show me
I wanna feel what love is
I know you can show me

Either Mick is crying out to God in prayer to better understand love or he is entering a new relationship and is open to being taught what love is. Please show me.

Yeah
Gotta take a little time
A little time to look around me
I’ve got nowhere left to hide
It looks like love has finally found me

Mick’s journey for real love is standing in front of him. Instead of being afraid to fall in love, being vulnerable is where love can be conceived.

In my life there’s been heartache and pain
I don’t know if I can face it again
Can’t stop now, I’ve traveled so far
To change this lonely life

Mick appears to come to a point in his life where he is ready to face his fears of having his heart broken again.

I wanna know what love is
I want you to show me
I wanna feel what love is
I know you can show me

Although Mick still isn’t sure about love, he is open and teachable.

I wanna know what love is (I wanna know)
I want you to show me (I wanna feel)
And I wanna feel, I want to feel what love is
(I know and I know and I know)
And I know, I know you can show me

This certainty about his new girlfriend is a sign that she has demonstrated love to Mick in the early stages of their relationship.

Let’s talk about love
I wanna know what love is, love that you feel inside
I want you to show me, and I’m feeling so much love
I wanna feel what love is, and you know, you just cannot hide
I know you can show me, yeah

Mick wants to learn what love is so that he can begin living this out.

I wanna know what love is
I know you can show me
I wanna feel, I wanna feel what love is
And I know, you just can’t hide
I know you can show me

Mick is making progress as he is growing in love in this new relationship.

Final Thoughts:

All relationships that I have been in come to a crossroads where effort and time by both parties are necessary. Like Mick, in my younger years, I had no clue what love was which led to their demise. As I grew in my Christian faith in college, I began to see subtle changes as I made Jesus the Lord of my life. Like the words of 1 John 4, when glimpses of the Holy Spirit shine through, you become a vessel of love. Although this search for love should never end, take one day at a time, praying that you become an advocate of love.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-February 7

Posted on February 7, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Inspiration Behind All Out of Love:

A rerecording of Air Supply’s “Lost in Love,” in the United States immediately went to the top of the charts in the late 1970’s. Caught off guard by this instant success, this Australian based band scrambled to write another song which would build upon Lost in Love. Graham Russell took a different approach when it came to All Out of Love, focusing on the anguish of love. Inspiration flowed through Graham, writing All Out of Love in one day at his Sydney apartment on a piano he’d had delivered solely for the purpose of song writing.

Biblical Connection:

But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it, 15 and how from infancy you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. 16 All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness, 17 so that the servant of God[a] may be thoroughly equipped for every good work, 2 Timothy 3:15-17.

Exegesis of All Out of Love:

I’m lying alone with my head on the phone
Thinking of you ’til it hurts
I know you’re hurt too, but what else can we do?
Tormented and torn apart

Before the invention of cell phones and the internet, couples racked up expensive monthly phone bills, trying to keep their long-distance relationship alive. Although this first stanza is unclear, this couple is either separated by hundreds of miles or recently broke up.

I wish I could carry your smile in my heart
For times when my life seems so low
It would make me believe what tomorrow could bring
When today doesn’t really know, doesn’t really know

The future of this couple’s relationship is up in the air. Separated by distance, all they currently have is the memories with one another and talking on the phone.

I’m all out of love, I’m so lost without you
I know you were right believing for so long
I’m all out of love, what am I without you?
I can’t be too late to say that I was so wrong

Either Graham is emotionally exhausted from this long-distance relationship or the love in his heart has grown cold and cynical. Did she break it off or did she convince him that their love could overcome the long distance. Whatever really happened, Graham regrets it.

I want you to come back and carry me home
Away from these long lonely nights
I’m reaching for you, are you feeling it too?
Does the feeling seem, oh, so right?

Graham wants a second chance at love. He can’t let her go as the feeling deep inside of him is only intensifying.

And what would you say if I called on you now
And said that I can’t hold on?
There’s no easy way, it gets harder each day
Please love me, or I’ll be gone, I’ll be gone

The situation within this relationship has become clear. The girlfriend is having second thoughts, leaving Graham on the edge of his seat. Tired of this uncertainty, he just wants to know if it’s over or do you want me back.

I’m all out of love, I’m so lost without you
I know you were right believing for so long
I’m all out of love, what am I without you?
I can’t be too late to say that I was so wrong

Love can be cruel, especially when the person you love is playing mind games with you. This is the exhaustion that Graham is trying to express.

Oh, what are you thinking of?
What are you thinking of?
What are you thinking of?
What are you thinking of?

Let me know so that I start the healing process if we’re through.

I’m all out of love, I’m so lost without you
I know you were right believing for so long
I’m all out of love, what am I without you?
I can’t be too late, I know I was so wrong

This anguish reminds me of attractive Junior High girls who would pretend to like me only to giggle and gossip with their friends at lunch.

I’m all out of love, I’m so lost without you
I know you were right believing for so long
I’m all out of love, what am I without you?
I can’t be too late, I know I was so wrong

An example of when love drives men crazy.

I’m all out of love, I’m so lost without you
I know you were right believing for so long
I’m all out of love, what am I without you?
I can’t be too late to say that I was so wrong

(I’m all out of love, I’m so lost without you)
(I know you were right)

These are cries for help from a broken and wounded heart.

Final Thoughts:

I was always the guy that attractive females in high school and college who would want to become friends with but were never interested in dating. On a couple of occasions, I literally severed all ties with a few girls who wanted to spend time with me, but I couldn’t because like Graham. I wanted more than just a friendship. This is the anguish and pain of love.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-February 6

Posted on February 6, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Inspiration Behind Separate Ways:

Divorce was rare when I grew up as a teenager listening to Journey. Yet when guitarist Neal Schon and Bassist Ross Valory both went through painful divorces, these experiences shaped Journey’s Worlds Apart album. Song writers Steve Perry and Jonathan Cain were moved to find something positive amidst these tumultuous relationships. Steve and Jonathan wrote Separate Ways while on tour as a means to bring healing to their friends.

Biblical Application:

Some Pharisees came to him (Jesus) to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” 4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’[a] 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’[b]? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate,” Matthew 19:3-6.

Exegesis of Separate Ways:

Here we stand
Worlds apart, hearts broken in two, two, two
Sleepless nights
Losing ground, I’m reachin’ for you, you, you

The we in the opening stanza refers to marriages of Neal and Ross. What these 2 couples once had has now vanished. Broken hearts and sleepless nights are all the remains, wondering what went wrong. Despite feeling worlds apart, hope for restoration has not been lost.

Feelin’ that it’s gone
Could change your mind
If we can’t go on
To survive the tide, love divides

Too many adults fall into the feeling of love without fully understanding what love in the context of marriage requires. This is what likely led to this desperate situation. Once a partner’s mind is made up to leave a marriage, it’s only a matter of time. Love doesn’t divide; it’s the decision to give up on love, your marriage vows, which ultimately results in divorce.

Someday, love will find you
Break those chains that bind you
One night will remind you
How we touched and went our separate ways

When love returns to an individual who has been divorced, doubt symbolizes chains which may prevent this person from wanting to enter another relationship. When you are with someone new, your mind may still be with the person you divorced. Meanwhile, emotional soul ties with former relationships don’t just suddenly go away. The apostle Paul explains this special bond in 1 Corinthians 6:12-20.

If he ever hurts you
True love won’t desert you
You know I still love you
Though we touched and went our separate ways

Despite the divorces of these 2 band members, they want their former wife to be treated right. Biblical love won’t desert you, 1 Corinthians 13:4-7.

Troubled times
Caught between confusion and pain, pain, pain
Distant eyes
Promises we made were in vain, in vain, in vain

This stanza highlights the events which lead to divorce. Difficult times, confusion, pain, growing apart and promises that weren’t kept.

If you must go, I wish you love
You’ll never walk alone
Take care my love
Miss you, love

A prayer for the future, wishing the best if this relationship can’t be saved.

Someday, love will find you
Break those chains that bind you
One night will remind you
How we touched and went our separate ways

This chorus points to the healing process after any divorce.

If he ever hurts you
True love won’t desert you
You know I still love you
Though we touched and went our separate ways

Wanting the best for someone who no longer wants you requires humility.

Oh

Someday, love will find you
Break those chains that bind you
One night will remind you

Those chains can also refer to an addiction or bad habit which lead to the demise of this relationship.

If he ever hurts you
True love won’t desert you
You know I still love you

As DC Talk once sang, love is a verb, not just a word.

I still love you, girl
I really love you, girl

A fond farewell, perhaps hoping for a second chance.

And if he ever hurts you
True love won’t desert you

No
No

If adults would stop talking by spending more time demonstrating acts of life, this world would have a lot less divorces and more thriving marriages.

Final Thoughts:

While in high school and college, I didn’t know what love was. Like many boys my age, I told several girls that I loved them. Subsequently, when I met my wife Leanne, I told her that I would never verbalize the word love until I was willing to marry her. Before I proposed. I began reading books on love where I was introduced to the concept of developing the will to love. Once I took ownership of the will to love, this unswerving desire has resulted in 30 years of marriage.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-February 5

Posted on February 5, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Inspiration Behind You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling

You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling is a classic ballad sung by numerous artists over the past 70 years. However, the original version was written by a trio of songwriters: Barry Mann, Cynthia Weil and Phil Spector. The lyrics struck a chord with anyone who has experienced the pain of lost love. The writers point to signs where intimacy starts to fade away such as “you never close your eyes anymore when I kiss your lips.” The lyrics also serve as a warning to those blinded by love with a message love doesn’t always last.

Biblical Application:

The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? 10 “I the Lord search the heart and examine the mind, to reward each person according to their conduct, according to what their deeds deserve,” Jeremiah 17:9-10.

Exegesis of You’ve Lost That Loving Feeling:

You never close your eyes anymore when I kiss your lips
And there’s no tenderness like before in your fingertips
You’re trying hard not to show it (baby)
But baby, baby I know it

The passion of this relationship is starting to wear off. This initial excitement is fading away. Either the spark has dimmed or this relationship is becoming stale.

You’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’
Whoa, that lovin’ feelin’
You’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’
Now it’s gone, gone, gone

What has changed? Is their love just a feeling? Whatever happened, it is now noticeable.

Now there’s no welcome look in your eyes when I reach for you

The body language shows some type of disinterest.

And now your’re starting to critisize little things I do
It makes me just feel like crying (baby)
‘Cause baby, somethin’ beautiful’s dyin’

When inirial feelings of love start to fade, you become who you truly are. The gentle spirit and kindness vanishes, treating your significant other like everyone else.

You lost that lovin’ feelin’
Whoa, that lovin’ feelin’
You’ve lost that lovin’ feelin’
Now it’s gone, gone, gone

Now that love is starting to slip away, what can be done to save your relationship?

Baby, baby, I get down on my knees for you

The man is trying to win back his love, begging and humbling himself.

If you would only love me like you used to do, yeah
We had a love… a love… a love you don’t find everyday
So don’t, don’t, don’t, don’t let it slip away

I thought we had something special, what went wrong? The man is willing to do whatever it takes to save this relationship.

Baby (baby), baby (baby)
I beg you please (please), please (please)
I need your love (I need your love), I need your love (I need your love)
So bring it on back (so bring it on back), bring it on back (so bring it on back)
Bring back that lovin’ feelin’
Whoa, that lovin’ feelin’

Remember what we had? Please come back to how this all started. Ignite the flame which brought us together.

Bring back that lovin’ feelin’
‘Cause it’s gone, gone, gone
And I can’t go on
Woooo

This stanza serves as a call to action. Hoping to regain what they had.

Bring back that lovin’ feelin’
Whoa, that lovin’ feelin’
Bring back that lovin’ feelin’
‘Cause it’s gone, gone

A plea for love, think about what made us a great couple.

Final Thoughts:

I normally played the role of the desperate partner, trying to hold on to the past. This is where love becomes a will, not just a feeling. When two people have a resolve to endure whatever trials they may face, relationships are salvageable. Unfortunately, when one person starts to experience the worse portion of a vow, most bail, giving up on love. This is when hearts and minds must press on, taking negative thought captive, 2 Corinthians 10:4-6 so that love endures.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-February 3

Posted on February 3, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Inspiration Behind It Must Have Been Love:

Gessle wanted to convey a message within a song with Roxette that love may be lost, but it is never forgotten. It Must Have Been Love was a perfect fit for the film Pretty Woman starring Richard Gere and Julia Roberts. This song addresses the theme of love and loss, especially when human beings become vulnerable by opening up about past failures in life. This timeless classic resonates with individuals who have endured the painful reality of lost love.

Biblical Connection:

If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing, 1 Corinthians 13:1-3.

Exegesis of It Must Have Been Love:

It must have been love
But it’s over now
Lay a whisper
On my pillow
Leave the winter
On the ground
I wake up lonely
There’s air of silence
In the bedroom
And all around
Touch me now
I close my eyes
And dream away

Whenever a relationship ends, there is a noticeable difference. You grow so accustomed to being together and having someone in your life that you forget what it’s like to be alone. The lyrics in the opening stanza illustrate this eerie silence.

It must have been love
But it’s over now
It must have been good
But I lost it somehow

The feeling of love vanished when this significant other left ia brought up. This relationship seemed like true love, but was lost for some unknown reason.

It must have been love
But it’s over now
From the moment we touched
Till the time had run out

The love this song is referring to is based upon emotions, focused too much on the physical aspect of a relationship.

Make believing
We’re together
That I’m sheltered
By your heart
But in and outside
I turned to water
Like a teardrop
In your palm

Sometime a relationship can begin like a Hollywood movie, too good to be true. When the honeymoon period is over, you have to work at a relationship to keep it going. If you don’t, everything you dreamed of can fall apart.

And it’s a hard
Winter’s day
I dream away

Dreaming is getting her through his absence.

It must have been love
But it’s over now
It was all that I wanted
Now, I’m living without
It must have been love
But it’s over now
It’s where the water flows
It’s where the wind blows

Love requires action. Anyone can say, “I love you,” but true love is lived out like the analogy shared by the apostle Pail in 1 Corinthians 13.

It must have been love
But it’s over now
It must have been good
But I lost it somehow
It must have been love
But it’s over now
From the moment we touched
Till the time had run out
Yeah, it must have been love
But it’s over now
It was all that I wanted
Now, I’m living without
It must have been love
But it’s over now
It’s where the water flows
It’s where the wind blows
It must have been love
But it’s over now

This extended chorus is searching for answers to why this relationship ended.

It must have been love
But it’s over now

Perhaps, watching Pretty Woman will provide further insight into the complexities of love.

Final Thoughts:

I had to write a research paper for a Philosophy class in college on Pretty Woman. I had to use philosophical terms to explain why a woman would turn to prostitution. While I don’t recall my final conclusion, I do see a lack of genuine love lived out by members of society. Instead of being doers of the Word of God by emulating the love of Jesus, too many people are all talk and no action. May today’s blog inspire you to demonstrate acts of love daily to give hope to others who have given up on love.

by Jay Mankus

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