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The Message Behind the Music-May 16

Posted on May 16, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Poison – Every Rose Has Its Thorn (Lyrics)

Inspiration Behind Every Rose Has It’s Thorn:

Lead singer Bret Michaels experienced the heartbreak of discovering that his partner was unfaithful while out on tour with Poison. Out of this emotional experience in Dallas, Texas, Michaels strummed on his guitar late that night. Using music as a vessel for healing, raw emotions spawned the lyrics to Every Rose Has it’s Thorn. This life experience conceived this 1988 classic metal ballad.

Biblical Application:

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body, Ephesians 5:28-30.

Exegesis of Every Rose Has It’s Thorn:

We both lie silently still in the dead of the night
Although we both lie close together
We feel miles apart, inside
Was it somethin’ I said or something I did
Did my words not come out right
Tho’ I tried not to hurt you
Tho’ I tried
But I guess that’s why they say

Bret is reflecting upon what went wrong in this relationship, unsure what happened which drove each other apart.

Every rose has its thorn
Just like every night has its dawn
Just like every cowboy sings his sad, sad song
Every rose has its thorn

Yea it does

Bret uses a metaphor to explain how he is feeling inside. The longer you hold a rose, the more likely you’ll get cut or pricked.

I listen to our favorite song playin’ on the radio
Hear the dj say love’s a game of
Easy come and easy go
But I wonder does he know
Has he ever felt like this
And I know that you’d be here right now
If I could have let you know somehow I guess

Listening to the special song they shared brought back a wave of emotions. Yet as Bret does a deep dive of the lyrics, there are certain things not dealt with or expressed.

Every rose has its thorn
Just like every night has its dawn
Just like every cowboy sings his sad, sad song
Every rose has its thorn

This chorus seeks to lay out certain realities in life.

Though it’s been a while now
I still feel so much pain
Like the knife that cuts you the wound heals,
But the scar, that scar remains.

Time hasn’t healed Bret’s broken heart. The Bible refers to this as wounds to your soul.

I know I could have saved our love that night
If I’d know what to say
Instead of making love
We both made our separate ways

Unexpected situations are hard to plan for. Looking back, Bret knows he could have saved their relationship if he just knew what to say.

Now I hear you’ve found somebody new
And that I never meant that much to you
To hear that tears me up inside
And to see you cuts me like a knife, i guess

Bret received news of his ex, doing well and her lack of appreciation for him.

Every rose has its thorn
Just like every night has its dawn
Just like every cowboy sings his sad, sad song
Every rose has its thorn

This rose and this latest update stuck with Bret, hurting more than he realized.

Final Thoughts:

Depending upon how stable someone is, relationships can be dicey. I once dated a girl in college who was ready to move on from me if our date didn’t go well. The pressure eventually got too great for me to handle, going our separate ways like Bret and his girlfriend. However, when you meet someone who is mature and stable, you won’t have as many thorns on this rose. Since all human beings are flawed, love takes a will to overlook the thorns we possess.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 13

Posted on May 13, 2026 by expressyourself4him

The Foundations – Build Me Up Buttercup (Lyric Video)

Inspiration Behind Build Me Up Buttercup:

The Foundations wanted to explore unrequited love and tension that exists within a relationship. Mike d’Abo and Tony Macaulay co-wrote Build Me Up Buttercup about a lover who is strung along by someone who is not interested in him. The Buttercup is symbolic of the flower and candy which highlights the complexities of affections and the desire to be connected with someone that you love.

Biblical Application:

So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, 7 rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness, Colossians 2:6-7.

Exegesis of Build Me Up Buttercup:

Oh, why do you build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, baby, just to let me down (let me down)
And mess me around and then worst of all (worst of all)
You never call, baby when you say you will (say you will)
But I love you still, I need you (I need you)
More than anyone, darlin’
You know that I have from the start
So build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, don’t break my heart

This man wants to be encouraged, not let down. Don’t play mind games with me. Especially when you don’t call. Yet this man still loves her, wanting to be uplifted without being dumped.

“I’ll be over at ten”, you told me time and again
But you’re late, I wait around and then (bah-dah-dah)
I went to the door, I can’t take anymore
Without you, you let me down again

This woman is stringing him along, not really caring about their relationship. This emotional strain is wearing this man out.

(Hey, hey, hey!) Baby, baby, try to find
(Hey, hey, hey!) A little time and I’ll make you mine
(Hey, hey, hey!) I’ll be home
I’ll be beside the phone waiting for you

This man proclaims his dedication in this stanza.

Oh, why do you build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, baby, just to let me down (let me down)
And mess me around and then worst of all (worst of all)
You never call, baby when you say you will (say you will)
But I love you still, I need you (I need you)
More than anyone, darlin’
You know that I have from the start
Build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, don’t break my heart

Despite this verbal commitment, he wonders why she doesn’t build him up. This stanza highlights the complexities of their relationship. His greatest wish is not to have his heart broken.

You were my toy, but I could be the boy you adore
If you’d just let me know (bah-dah-dah)
Although you’re untrue, I’m attracted to you all the more
Why do I need you so

This man is fighting for the woman that he loves despite how she treats him.

(Hey, hey, hey!) Baby, baby, try to find
(Hey, hey, hey!) A little time and I’ll make you mine
(Hey, hey, hey!) I’ll be home
I’ll be beside the phone waiting for you

Just give me a chance and I’ll prove my worth to you.

Why do you build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, baby, just to let me down (let me down)
And mess me around and then worst of all (worst of all)
You never call, baby when you say you will (say you will)
But I love you still, I need you (I need you)
More than anyone, darlin’
You know that I have from the start
Build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, don’t break my heart

His only request is to be affirmed and encouraged.

I-I-I need you (I need you)
More than anyone, baby
You know that I have from the start
Build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, don’t break my heart

This man believes that she will make him complete. He has done everything in his power to make this relationship work. Just don’t break my heart.

Final Thoughts:

When I was in junior high, hardly any girls knew that I existed. There was one girl who pretended to like me, flirting with me at the mall until I overheard her laughing with her friends about me. This continued for about a month until I finally stopped going to the mall. When I think of Build Me Up Buttercup, these are the emotions and feelings that hit home. The disappointments of junior high would be quickly forgotten by my final 2 years of high school. Facing adversity helps produce maturity, allowing me to recover and develop meaningful relationships a few years later.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 6

Posted on May 6, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Peter, Paul and Mary – Right Field (25th Anniversary Concert)

Inspiration Behind Right Field:

This song was written by a former right fielder, Wayne Welch. Right Field was recorded by Peter, Paul and Mary in 1987. Wayne was inspired by his childhood days standing in right field, more concerned with his surroundings than the actual game going on. Always being the last one selected for a team led Welch to appeal to individuals who are overlooked and undervalued in life. When metrics are applied strictly to baseball, certain players are never given the opportunity to play the position of their choice.

Biblical Application:

“Now what have I done?” said David. “Can’t I even speak?” 30 He then turned away to someone else and brought up the same matter, and the men answered him as before. 31 What David said was overheard and reported to Saul, and Saul sent for him. 32 David said to Saul, “Let no one lose heart on account of this Philistine; your servant will go and fight him.” 33 Saul replied, “You are not able to go out against this Philistine and fight him; you are only a young man, and he has been a warrior from his youth,” 1 Samuel 17:29-33,

Exegesis of Right Field:

Saturday summers, when I was a kid
We’d run to the schoolyard and here’s what we did
We’d pick out the captains and we’d choose up the teams
It was always a measure of my self esteem
‘Cause the fastest, the strongest, played shortstop and first
The last ones they picked were the worst
I never needed to ask, it was sealed,
I just took up my place in right field
Playing

Before you were old enough for Little League, neighborhood kids would play pickup games at the local ball field similar to the film Sandlot. Since Wayne wasn’t fast, strong or tall, he was always one of the last 2 selected and was assigned right field every time.

Right field, it’s easy, you know
You can be awkward and you can be slow
That’s why I’m here in right field
Just watching the dandelions grow

This stanza is true in professional baseball as well as the least athletic player is assigned right field today.

Playing right field can be lonely and dull
Little Leagues never have lefties that pull
I’d dream of the day they’d hit one my way
They never did, but still I would pray
That I’d make a fantastic catch on the run
And not lose the ball in the sun
And then I’d awake from this long reverie
And pray that the ball never came out to me, here in

Right field is the last place someone would hit a ball. Subsequently, managers would try to hide their worst player in this position. Parents and players in right field were nervous of a ball hit in their direction..

Right field, it’s easy, you know
You can be awkward and you can be slow
That’s why I’m here in right field
Just watching the dandelions grow

Without much action, bored players would lose focus by checking out the different types of weeds in this section of the outfield.

Off in the distance, the game’s dragging on
There’s strikes on the batter, some runners are on
I don’t know the inning, I’ve forgotten the score
The whole team is yelling and I don’t know what for

Right fielders are so far away from the action, that they aren’t mentally into a game like the infielders.

Then suddenly everyone’s looking at me
My mind has been wandering; what could it be?
They point to the sky and I look up above
And a baseball falls into my glove

Sometimes it’s better to be lucky than good.

Here in right field, it’s important you know
You gotta know how to catch, you gotta know how to throw
That’s why I’m here in right field, just watching the dandelions grow

It’s hard to have your head into the game when you might get a ball hit to you once or twice in a six-inning game.

Final Thoughts:

I stopped playing baseball in high school when I wasn’t tall enough or strong enough to throw a ball 80 miles an hour. While I was always 10 miles slower than most pitchers, I had great command. I was the ace pitcher on my Junior High team, going 2-0 with a near no hitter in the final game of the season. Yet, I wasn’t allowed to try out for a pitcher in high school. Despite batting 400 on the freshman team, I made a mental error in the season opener and rode the bench the rest of the season. The use of metrics in baseball today is preventing young boys like me from advancing to a higher level in baseball. Right fielders in Little League often quit after turning 13, not interested in baseball anymore.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 3

Posted on May 3, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Thin Lizzy – The Boys Are Back In Town (Official Lyric Video)

Inspiration Behind the Boys are Back in Town:

While this song is referring to the Manchester underworld, sports broadcasters in America use Thin Lizzy’s The Boys are Back in Town as a way to let fans know that their baseball team is back in town. One of the theories is that the boys are referring to the Quality Street Gang who Thin Lizzy encountered as a child at his mother’s nightclub. Members of this group were known for their sharp stylish attire worn at local clubs.

Biblical Application:

A longing fulfilled is sweet to the soul, but fools detest turning from evil. 20 Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm, Proverbs 13:19-20.

Exegesis of the Boys are Back in Town:

Guess who just got back today
Them wild-eyed boys that had been away
Haven’t changed, hadn’t much to say
But, man, I still think them cats are crazy

Either Thin Lizzy has been out at one of the local Manchester clubs or a friend let him know that members of the Quality Street Gang are back.

They were asking if you were around
How you was, where you could be found
I told them you were living downtown
Driving all the old men crazy

Some of the guys were looking for an old friend.

The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
(I said) the boys are back in town
The boys are back in town
The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town

This chorus lets everyone in Manchester know this gang is back.

You know that chick that used to dance a lot?
Every night she’d be on the floor, shaking what she’d got
Man, when I tell you she was cool, she was red hot
I mean, she was steaming

Thin Lizzy recalls one of the regulars who was attractive and a great dancer.

And that time over at Johnny’s place
Well, this chick got up and she slapped Johnny’s face
Man, we just fell about the place
If that chick don’t wanna know, forget her

Thin Lizzy is reminiscing about memorable events that stand out in his mind.

The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
(I said) the boys are back in town
The boys are back in town
The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
The boys are back in town, boys are back in town

Repetitive chorus lets everyone know who is back.

Spread the word around
“Guess who’s back in town?”
Just spread the word around

The word is spreading as Manchester seems excited to have these boys back.

Friday night, they’ll be dressed to kill
Down at Dino’s Bar and Grill
The drink will flow and blood will spill
And if the boys want to fight, you better let them

Thin Lizzy summarizes a typical night at one of the local clubs.

That jukebox in the corner blasting out my favourite song
The nights are getting warmer, it won’t be long
Won’t be long ’til summer comes
Now that the boys are here again

Warm weather brings back locals and tourists.

The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
The boys are back in town
The boys are back in town

Thin Lizzy is excited to see the guys.

The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
(Spread the word around)
The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
(The boys are back, the boys are back)

Thin Lizzy looked up to this gang when he was younger.

The boys are back in town again
Been hanging down at Dino’s
The boys are back in town again

Word on the street allows Thin Lizzy to catch up with these guys.

Final Thoughts:

Every town has a local hangout that is hopping every weekend. For me, this place was the Charcoal Pit, a diner on the main drag which served great ice cream dishes. With a mini jukebox in every booth, teenagers were coming and going throughout the night, bouncing to the music. If I wanted to see one of my friends, this is where I would go either on or after my date. Some of my fondest memories of high school occurred at the Charcoal Pit. Subsequently, I understand Thin Lizzy’s desire to connect with old friends.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 2

Posted on May 2, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Meat Loaf – Paradise By The Dashboard Light (Official Video)

Inspiration Behind Paradise:

Jim Steinman and Meatloaf worked together on the National Lampoon Road Tour before developing the idea for Paradise. Steinman began to explore teenage desires and obsessions using exaggerated storytelling. This is how baseball terminology is weaved into Paradise. When hormones are full blown, knowing how far is too far gets blurred in moments of passion. Meatloaf’s girlfriend, Ellen Foley worked with Meatloaf on the lyrics, wanting some form of commitment before having sex. This is where many relationships stall, when a commitment to a future together is put on hold.

Biblical Application:

It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own body[a] in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5.

Exegesis of Paradise:

Well I remember every little thing
As if it happened only yesterday
Parking by the lake
And there was not another car in sight
And I never had a girl
Looking any better than you did
And all the kids at school
They were wishing they were me that night

This opening stanza is like a scene from Happy Days, going to Inspiration Point, as teenagers park their car to make out with their girlfriend.

And now our bodies are oh so close and tight
It never felt so good, it never felt so right
And we’re glowing like the metal on the edge of a knife
Glowing like the metal on the edge of a knife
C’mon! Hold on tight!
C’mon! Hold on tight!

The lyrics point to a romantic embrace filled with passion.

Though it’s cold and lonely in the deep dark night
I can see paradise by the dashboard light

A little light in this car reveals a dark remote location.

Ain’t no doubt about it
We were doubly blessed
‘Cause we were barely seventeen
And we were barely dressed
Ain’t no doubt about it
Baby got to go and shout it
Ain’t no doubt about it
We were doubly blessed
‘Cause we were barely seventeen
And we were barely dressed

Meatloaf identifies this special moment to paradise, thinking about having sex.

Baby don’t you hear my heart
You got it drowning out the radio
I’ve been waiting so long
For you to come along and have some fun
Well I gotta let you know
No, you’re never gonna regret it
So open up your eyes I got a big surprise
It’ll feel all right
Well I wanna make your motor run

The hormones of two teenagers are out of control.

And now our bodies are oh so close and tight
It never felt so good, it never felt so right
And we’re glowing like the metal on the edge of a knife
Glowing like the metal on the edge of a knife
C’mon! Hold on tight!
Well c’mon! Hold on tight!

The lyrics point to a combination of lust and love between two teenagers.

Though it’s cold and lonely in the deep dark night
I can see paradise by the dashboard light
Though it’s cold and lonely in the deep dark night
(Lonely in the deep dark night)
Paradise by the dashboard light

The car is running but these two teens are providing the heat.

You got to do what you can
And let Mother Nature do the rest
Ain’t no doubt about it
We were doubly blessed
‘Cause we were barely seventeen
And we were barely-

Meatloaf is trying to pressure his girl into having sex.

We’re gonna go all the way tonight, we’re gonna go all the way and tonight’s the night
We’re gonna go all the way tonight we’re gonna go all the way and tonight’s the night
We’re gonna go all the way tonight we’re gonna go all the way and tonight’s the night
We’re gonna go all the way tonight we’re gonna go all the way and tonight’s the night

Tonight is the night Meatloaf has been waiting for his entire life.

OK, here we go, we got a real pressure cooker going here
Two down, nobody on, no score, bottom of the ninth
There’s the windup, and there it is, a line shot up the middle
Look at him go. This boy can really fly!
He’s rounding first and really turning it on now
He’s not letting up at all, he’s gonna try for second
The ball is bobbled out in center
And here comes the throw, and what a throw!
He’s gonna slide in head first, here he comes, he’s out!
No, wait, safe – safe at second base
This kid really makes things happen out there
Batter steps up to the plate
Here’s the pitch and he’s going, and what a jump he’s got
He’s trying for third, here’s the throw, it’s in the dirt – safe at third!
Holy cow, stolen base! He’s taking a pretty big lead out there
Almost daring him to try and pick him off
The pitcher glances over, winds up, and it’s bunted
Bunted down the third base line, the suicide squeeze is on!
Here he comes, squeeze play, it’s gonna be close
Here’s the throw, here’s the play at the plate
Holy cow, I think he’s gonna make it!

This is the baseball metaphor, using each base to represent getting closer to home, sex.

Stop right there!
I gotta know right now!
Before we go any further!
Do you love me?
Will you love me forever?
Do you need me?
Will you never leave me?
Will you make me so happy for the rest of my life?
Will you take me away and will you make me your wife?
Do you love me?
Will you love me forever?
Do you need me?
Will you never leave me?
Will you make me happy for the rest of my life?
Will you take me away and will you make me your wife?
I gotta know right now
Before we go any further
Do you love me?
Will you love me forever?

This is where Ellen draws the line, stopping at third base.

Let me sleep on it
Baby, baby let me sleep on it
Let me sleep on it
I’ll give you an answer in the morning
Let me sleep on it
Baby, baby let me sleep on it
Let me sleep on it
I’ll give you an answer in the morning
Let me sleep on it
Baby, baby let me sleep on it
Let me sleep on it
I’ll give you an answer in the morning

Meatloaf is stalling, trying to wear Ellen down.

I gotta know right now
Do you love me?
Will you love me forever?
Do you need me?
Will you never leave me?
Will you make me so happy for the rest of my life?
Will you take me away and will you make me your wife?
I gotta know right now!
Before we go any further
Do you love me?
And will you love me forever?

Ellen views the act of sex sacred like getting married.

What’s it going to be boy?
C’mon I can wait all night
What’s it gonna be boy? Yes or no?
What’s it gonna be boy?
Yes or no?

Ellen is waiting for an answer, a sign of commitment and a future together.

Let me sleep on it
Baby, baby let me sleep on it
Well let me sleep on it
I’ll give you an answer in the morning
I gotta know right now!

Meatloaf again postpones his decision.

Do you love me? (let me sleep on it)
Will you love me forever? (Baby baby, let me sleep on it) do you need me?
Will you never leave me?
Will you make me so happy for the rest of my life? (Let me sleep on it)
Will you take me away, will you make me your wife? (I’ll give you an answer in the morning)
I gotta know right now
Before we go any further
Do you love me? Will you love me forever?

Like a debate, Ellen and Meatloaf go back and forth.

Let me sleep on it! (will you love me forever?)
Let me sleep on it! (will you love me forever?)

This is the art of persuasion.

I couldn’t take it any longer, Lord I was crazed
And when the feeling came upon me like a tidal wave
Started swearing to my god and on my mother’s grave
That I would love you to the end of time
I swore I would love you to the end of time!

Love makes people do crazy things.

So now I’m praying for the end of time
To hurry up and arrive
‘Cause if I gotta spend another minute with you
I don’t think that I can really survive
I’ll never break my promise or forget my vow
But God only knows what I can do right now
I’m praying for the end of time
It’s all that I can do
Praying for the end of time
So I can end my time with you!

This is how most men today view marriage, as something to hold you down.

Well it was long ago and it was far away
And it was so much better that it is today
Well it was long ago and it was far away (it never felt so good)
And it was so much better that it is today (it never felt so right, and it was glowing like the metal)
It was long ago and it was far away (on the edge of a knife, it never felt so good)
And it was so much better that it is today (it never felt so right, and it was glowing like the metal)
Well it was long ago and it was far away (on the edge of a knife, it never felt so good)
And it was so much better that it is today (it never felt so right, and it was glowing like the metal)
Well it was long ago and it was far away (on the edge of a knife, it never felt so good)
And it was so much better that it is today (it never felt so right, and it was glowing like the metal)
Well it was long ago and it was far away (on the edge of a knife, it never felt so good)
And it was so much better that it is today (it never felt so right, and it was glowing like the metal)
It was long ago and it was far away (on the edge of a knife, it never felt so good)
And it was so much better that it is today (it never felt so right, and it was glowing like the metal)

Time has eroded the passion Meatloaf once possessed. Meatloaf has fond memories of his youth, thinking things were better back then than today.

Final Thoughts:

Morality in America and in churches today has declined greatly in the past 30 years. Compromise, justification and temptation have become part of everyday life. Hanging on to your virginity until marriage is rare today. Yet to the disciplined who won’t allow themselves to be placed into compromising positions, it is possible to please God by avoiding passion lust. This is part of the Girls Gone Mild Movement, waiting patiently for the right person to come along.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 1-Baseball, Beauty and Hope

Posted on May 1, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Kenny Rogers Baseball Song The Greatest

Monthly Theme:

I grew up in an era where spring in the United States of America was centered around baseball, apple pie and going for a ride in your vehicle. While times have changed as baseball has been passed in popularity by football, spring is still filled with the beauty of blooming flowers and fauna. These visible signs of spring provide hope that winter is over, and warmer weather is here to stay for a while. May’s allotment of musicians hopes to capture these themes.

Inspiration Behind the Greatest:

The Greatest was spawn from a childhood experience that Kenny Rogers had growing up. Rogers believes that the best stories are the simplest ones like a boy learning how to hit a baseball. This country song uses baseball as a metaphor to illustrate themes of self-resilience, self-belief and how you define success in life.

Biblical Application:

Jesus asked the boy’s father, “How long has he been like this?” “From childhood,” he answered. 22 “It has often thrown him into fire or water to kill him. But if you can do anything, take pity on us and help us.” 23 “‘If you can’?” said Jesus. “Everything is possible for one who believes.” 24 Immediately the boy’s father exclaimed, “I do believe; help me overcome my unbelief!” – Mark 9:21-24.

Exegesis of the Greatest:

Little boy in a baseball hat
Stands in the field with his ball and bat
Says, “I am the greatest player of them all”
Puts his bat on his shoulder and he tosses up the ball

Perhaps Kenny has a flashback of his child, participating in solitary play, tossing a whiffle ball up in his backyard. Or Kenny is observing a child learn how to hit a baseball for the first time.

And the ball goes up and the ball comes down
Swings his bat all the way around
The world’s so still, he can hear the sound
The baseball falls to the ground

Despite an intense amount of concentration this initial attempt to make contact fails.

Now the little boy doesn’t say a word
Picks up his ball, he is undeterred
Says, “I am the greatest there has ever been”
And he grits his teeth and he tries it again

Despite experience failure, this little boy still believes that he’s become a great hitter.

And the ball goes up and the ball comes down
Swings his bat all the way around
The world’s so still, he can hear the sound
The baseball falls to the ground

When making contact isn’t achieved, this boy looks forward to tomorrow, with another chance at success.

He makes no excuses
He shows no fear
He just closes his eyes
And listens to the cheers

This boy uses visualization techniques as if to plan what he wants to do tomorrow.

Little boy, he adjusts his hat
Picks up his ball, stares at his bat
Says, “I am the greatest, the game is on the line”
And he gives his all one last time

This boy doesn’t give up, eager at a chance for redemption to finally make contact.

And the ball goes up like the Moon so bright
Swings his bat with all his might
And the world’s as still as still can be
And the baseball falls and that’s strike three

There were no participation awards when I grew out, if you struck out, you went back to the dugout to sit on the bench.

Now it’s suppertime and his mama calls
Little boy starts home with his bat and ball
Says, “I am the greatest, that is a fact
But even I didn’t know I could pitch like that”

Failure helps identifies strengths and weaknesses. This boy doesn’t look at striking out as a failure. Rather, he turns his attention toward pitching.

Says, “I am the greatest
That is understood
But even I didn’t know
I could pitch that good”

Confidence hasn’t left this little boy. There is still hope that one day he’ll be a great athlete.

Final Thoughts:

As a former little league coach for 5 years, every team is different. Some teams can hit but are slow base runners. Others are great bunters, but don’t know how to catch. Talented players take too many chances, and fast pitchers often walk the bases loaded. Subsequently, finding the right position, swing and developing proper fielding techniques take time. As long as desire doesn’t die after extended periods of failure, young baseball players can become as great as their talent and work ethic take them.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-April 26

Posted on April 26, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Gloria Gaynor – I Will Survive

Inspiration Behind I Will Survive:

Gloria Gaynor’s song was inspired by situations which taught her to discover resilience and strength. The lyrics focus on a devastating breakup and Gloria’s journey to recover. This life experience enabled Gloria to overcome adversity, finding strength from within to press on without this significant other.

Biblical Application:

Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? 8 If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. 9 Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! 10 They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. 11 No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it, Hebrews 12:7-11.

Exegesis of I Will Survive:

At first I was afraid
I was Petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
Without you by my side

After being dumped, Gloria doubted that she would ever recover.

But then I spent so many night
Thinking how you did me wrong
And I grew strong
And I learned how to get along

Many nights of reflection helped Gloria realize that she wasn’t treated with respect. This season of growth enabled Gloria to mature and recover.

And so you’re back
From outer space
I just walked in to find you here
With that sad look upon your face

Gloria had no room in her heart to take him back.

I should have change that stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second
You’d be back to bother me

Gloria wished she took financial steps to prevent him from coming back to her place.

Go on now go
Walk out the door
Just turn around now
‘Cause you’re not welcome anymore

Gloria doesn’t hesitate, immediately asking her ex to leave.

Weren’t you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
You think I’d crumble
You think I’d lay down and die

I’m done with your stupid mind games.

Oh no not I
I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love
I know I’ll stay alive

Gloria will be fine on her own, letting love lead the way.

I’ve got all my life to live
And I got all my love to give
I’ll survive
I will survive
Hey hey

This chorus magnifies that Gloria has fully recovered from this devastating breakup.

It took all the strength I had
Not to fall apart
Kept trying hard to mend the pieces
Of my broken heart

A glimpse of the heartache that Gloria endured.

And I spent oh so many nights
Just feeling sorry for myself
I used to cry
But now I hold my head up high

This wasn’t easy but crying has now turned into recovery and rebirth.

And you see me
Somebody new
I’m not that chained up little person
Still in love with you

Gloria is glad that she is free from this past relationship.

And so you felt like dropping in
And just expect me to be free
Well now I’m saving all my loving
For someone who’s loving me

Gloria learned to invest her time into men who appreciate and love her.

Go on now go
Walk out the door
Just turn round now
You’re not welcome anymore

Gloria doesn’t give her ex a second chance, shutting him out.

Weren’t you the one who tried to break me with goodbye
You think I’d crumble
You think I’d lay down and die

I’m not the same woman I was before.

Oh no not I
I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love
I know I’ll stay alive

I’ll be fine without you as I wait for true love.

I got all my life to live
And I’ve got all my love to give
And I’ll survive
I will survive
Oh

This chorus serves as an anthem for Gloria’s new perspective on life.

Go on now go
Walk out the door
Just turn around now
You’re not welcome anymore

Gloria didn’t wait to repeat the same mistakes of her past.

Weren’t you the one who tried to break me with goodbye
You think I’d crumble
You think I’d lay down and die

Gloria is now mentally tough to recognize the games her ex tried to play.

Oh no not I
I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love
I know I’ll stay alive

She is better off without him.

I’ve got all my life to give
And I’ve got all my love to give
And I’ll survive
I will survive
I will survive

Gloria is ready for the next phase in her life, waiting on love.

Final Thoughts:

As someone who was dumped multiple times in high school, I spent too much time dwelling on my past instead of looking forward to the future like Gloria. During my 5 years of college, I matured, breaking off friendships with girls who took an emotional toll on my soul. My recovery occurred through Christian friends and my relationship with Jesus. To individuals who grew up in a strict household, you learned right from wrong, even if it was painful. The people who really care about you will confront areas that you need to address. If you want the very best for someone, flawed characteristics need to be corrected until you reach your full potential in life. Although these conversations can be dicey, experiencing tough love will make you a better person in the future.

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The Message Behind the Music-April 20

Posted on April 20, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Harry Chapin – Cat’s In The Cradle (Official Lyric Video)

Inspiration Behind Cat’s in the Cradle:

Cat’s in the Cradle was inspired by a poem written by Harry’s wife Sandy. This poem details the strained relationship between Sandy’s first husband and his father. Harry takes this situation and writes it as if he was the man who was never around for his son. Some of the trials that individuals experience are self-inflicted. When you are unwilling to take time for other people, you will reap what you sow as others will make similar excuses in life.

Biblical Application:

Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows. 8 Whoever sows to please their flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; whoever sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life, Galatians 6:7-8.

Exegesis of Cat’s in the Cradle:

My child arrived just the other day
He came to the world in the usual way
But there were planes to catch and bills to pay
He learned to walk while I was away
And he was talking ‘fore I knew it and as he grew
He’d say, “I’m gonna be like you, dad
You know, I’m gonna be like you”

There was a time in American culture when men weren’t expected to be in a delivery room. Their job was to be the sole provider while his wife stayed at home to raise their children. Subsequently, missing the birth of a child wasn’t rare.

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
“When you coming home, dad?” “I don’t know when
We’ll get together then, you know we’ll have a good time then”

As children grow up, especially boys, they need time with their father to grow and mature. When a dad always makes an excuse, children are watching, following in the footsteps of their parents.

My son turned ten just the other day
He said, “Thanks for the ball, dad, come on, let’s play
Can you teach me to throw?” I said, “Not today
I got a lot to do” he said, “That’s okay”
And he walked away but his smile never dimmed
Said, “I’m gonna be like him, yeah
You know, I’m gonna be like him”

At the time this was written, Baseball was America’s favorite pastime. Playing catch with a glove on your hand was part of Americana. The father missed out on becoming a valuable part of his son’s childhood.

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
“When you coming home, dad?” “I don’t know when
We’ll get together then, you know we’ll have a good time then”

This father was self-absorbed, unwilling to make time for others as family wasn’t a priority for him.

Well, he came from college just the other day
So much like a man I just had to say
“Son, I’m proud of you, can you sit for a while?”
He shook his head and he said with a smile
“What I’d really like, dad, is to borrow the car keys
See you later, can I have them please?”

Friends had become this young man’s family.

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
“When you coming home, son?” “I don’t know when
But we’ll get together then, dad, you know we’ll have a good time then”

Promises made by the father were empty words, void of any action.

I’ve long since retired and my sons moved away
I called him up just the other day
I said, “I’d like to see you if you don’t mind”
He said, “I’d love to, dad, if I could find the time”
“You see, my new job’s a hassle and the kids got the flu
But it’s sure nice talking to you, dad
It’s been sure nice talking to you”

This stanza illustrates karma or as the Bible states, “you reap what you sow.”

And as I hung up the phone, it occurred to me
He’d grown up just like me
My boy was just like me

It took decades, but the father finally realized that he set a bad example for his son.

And the cat’s in the cradle and the silver spoon
Little boy blue and the man in the moon
“When you coming home, son?” “I don’t know when
But we’ll get together then, dad, we’re gonna have a good time then”

Interruptions in life, like putting family ahead of work, will make you happy and more efficient as long as you love what you do.

Final Thoughts:

Since my father was an immigrant to America, he had to work for everything that he owned. My father wasn’t around much until my family moved to Delaware. At this time, he decided to coach my little league team for a season. While my father was an intense leader, I would learn to appreciate this trait later in life. When my children all began to play baseball, I pulled back from my social schedule to coach my 2 sons. Later on, my daughter and I would play on a co-ed volleyball team on Friday nights. As my athletic career winds down, I try to play in as many disc golf tournaments with my children so that they will each develop a desire to spend time with their own kids. Enjoy these moments when they happen.

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The Message Behind the Music-March 27

Posted on March 27, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Tina Turner – The Best (Official Music Video) [HD Upgrade]

Inspiration Behind The Best:

Simply the Best is rooted in a spirit of adoration, devotion and love. In recent years, March Madness, also known as the NCAA National Basketball Tournament, has adopted the Best to honor the eventual championship team. When two individuals who were meant to be together as a married couple, each are elevated to unparallel excellence once their joint qualities come together as one. Yet the Best also serves as a tribute to Tina’s success after emerging from a turbulent marriage and career struggles, she soared to global superstardom in her 40s. 

Biblical Application:

In reply Jesus said: “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he was attacked by robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. 31 A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. 32 So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33 But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. 34 He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn and took care of him. 35 The next day he took out two denarii[e] and gave them to the innkeeper. ‘Look after him,’ he said, ‘and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have,’ Luke 10:30-35.

Exegesis of the Best:

I call you when I need you, my heart’s on fire
You come to me, come to me, wild and wild
Oh, you come to me
Give me everything I need

Tina points to a friend who was always there when she needed them.

Give me a lifetime of promises and a world of dreams
Speak the language of love like you know what it means
Oh, and it can’t be wrong
Take my heart and make it strong, baby

Tina provides details inside of a former relationship, filled with love and promises.

You’re simply the best
Better than all the rest
Better than anyone
Anyone I ever met

The opening chorus serves as appreciation and gratitude for this individual.

I’m stuck on your heart
I hang on every word you say
Tear us apart
Baby, I would rather be dead

Tina is in love, hanging on every word of her partner.

In your heart, I see the start of every night and every day
In your eyes, I get lost, I get washed away

Tina is excited for every new day.

Just as long as I’m here in your arms
I could be in no better place

Tina finds comfort and security in the arms of her lover.

You’re simply the best
Better than all the rest
Better than anyone
Anyone I ever met

No one else compares to this man.

Ooh, I’m stuck on your heart
I hang on every word you say
Oh, tear us apart, no, no, no
Baby, I would rather be dead

Tina can’t imagine life without this man.

Each time you leave me, I start losing control
You’re walking away with my heart and my soul
I can feel you even when I’m alone
Oh baby, don’t let go
Oh, you’re the best, ooh
Better than all the rest
Better than anyone
Anyone I ever met

Tina misses every moment away from this man. Her life without him simply isn’t the same.

Oh, I’m stuck on your heart
I hang on every word you say
Oh, tear us apart, no, no
Baby, I would rather be dead

Oh, you’re the best!

In Tina’s eyes, no one compares to this man.

Final Thoughts:

Unfortunately, there is always someone more attractive, better, more talented and successful in life. The key to a long marriage is deciding at an early age, what is more important to you in life. Simply the best is in the eyes of the beholder. Internal qualities like compassion, integrity and servanthood are hard to find in one individual. When you figure out what you are looking for in a future soulmate, you’ll know when you meet this individual as long as you are patient and don’t settle for something less.

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The Message Behind the Music-March 24

Posted on March 24, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Aretha Franklin – Respect (Official Lyric Video)

Inspiration Behind Respect:

Aretha Franklin took an existing song, putting passion and soul into this new version which became a rallying cry during the Civil Rights movement. Respect also became an anthem for woman’s rights. The essential message of Respect is that everyone’s voice deserves to be heard.

Biblical Application:

Live as free people, but do not use your freedom as a cover-up for evil; live as God’s slaves. 17 Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor, 1 Peter 2:16-17.

Exegesis of Respect:

What you want, baby, I got it
What you need, do you know I got it?

While Reverand Dr. Martin Luther King was a main figure in the Civil Rights Movement in the late 1960’s, Aretha Franklin’s version of Respect was like the choir leader singing the anthem for African Americans and women.

All I’m askin’ is for a little respect when you get home
(Just a little bit) hey, baby
(Just a little bit) when you get home
(Just a little bit) mister
(Just a little bit)

Singing in the context of a time when women stayed at home, cooked and raised children, Aretha wanted husbands to respect all that women do daily behind the scenes at home.

I ain’t gon’ do you wrong while you’re gone
Ain’t gon’ do you wrong ’cause I don’t wanna

Trust me when you are away at work.

All I’m askin’ is for a little respect when you come home
(Just a little bit) baby
(Just a little bit) when you get home
(Just a little bit) yeah
(Just a little bit)

Speaking to her husband and other men, you are not the only one who worked today. I just need some respect for all the little things that I do for you and the kids.

I’m about to give you all of my money
And all I’m askin’ in return, honey
Is to give me my propers when you get home

When she gives her husband a weekly allowance, see is looking for appreciation.

(Just a, just a, just a, just a) yeah, baby
(Just a, just a, just a, just a) when you get home
(Just a little bit) yeah
(Just a little bit)

Recognize what a wife does and puts up with daily.

Ooh, your kisses, sweeter than honey
And guess what? So is my money
All I want you to do for me, is give it to me when you get home

Show me some love and affection.

(Re, re, re, re) yeah, baby
(Re, re, re, re) whip it to me
(Respect, just a little bit) when you get home, now
(Just a little bit)

Respect my role in a marriage.

R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Find out what it means to me
R-E-S-P-E-C-T
Take care, TCB, oh

Show respect as words are meaningless without action.

(Sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me)
A little respect
(Sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me, sock it to me)
Whoa, babe

Give it to me.

(Just a little bit) a little respect
(Just a little bit) I get tired
(Just a little bit) keep on tryin’
(Just a little bit) you’re runnin’ out of fools
(Just a little bit) and I ain’t lyin’
(Just a little bit)

Aretha simply wants to be appreciated.

(Re, re, re, re) start when you come home
(Re, re, re, respect) or you might walk in
(Just a little bit) and find out I’m gone
(Just a little bit) I gotta have

Don’t take me for granted or you’ll have to find someone else.

Final Thoughts:

Certain songs stand the test of time. Nearly 60 years after Aretha Franklin’s version of Respect was released, this still communicates a valuable life lesson. Woman like Aretha are heroes to modern day women who are now respected like she requested in this song. May current female singers have a vision like Aretha to craft songs that will be sung 60 years from now.

by Jay Mankus

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