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The Message Behind the Music-May 26

Posted on May 26, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Mr. Mister – Broken Wings (Official Video)

Inspiration Behind Broken Wings:

The title of this Mr. Mister song comes from Kahlil Gilbran’s 1912 novel The Broken Wings. The book tells the story of a doomed love facing society. between passion and constraint. The song Broken Wings uses metaphors from this novel as well as the band’s personal struggles at this time to craft this in 20 minutes. This collaboration between Frontman Ricard Page, lyricist John Lang and guitarist Steve George prepared the way for Broken Wings to become an instant classic.

Biblical Application:

Praise the Lord, my soul, and forget not all his benefits—3 who forgives all your sins and heals all your diseases,4 who redeems your life from the pit and crowns you with love and compassion, 5 who satisfies your desires with good things so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s, Psalm 103:2-5.

Exegesis of Broken Wings:

Baby, don’t understand
Why we can’t just hold on
To each other’s hands

An attempt to salvage a relationship, asking why can’t we hold hands in public.

This time might be the last, I fear
Unless I make it all too clear
I need you so, oh-oh, oh

A man feels like he is losing this relationship, trying to intervene to save it.

Take these broken wings
And learn to fly again
Learn to live so free
When we hear the voices sing
The book of love will open up and let us in
Take these broken wings

Broken wings could refer to a damaged person or lacking the energy that he once possessed.

Baby, I think tonight
We can take what was wrong
And make it right, mm

A desire to fix, mend and repair this relationship.

Baby, it’s all I know
That you’re half of the flesh
And blood that makes me whole
I need you so

This man can’t imagine his life without this woman.

So, take these broken wings
And learn to fly again
Learn to live so free
And when we hear the voices sing
The book of love will open up
And let us in, yeah, yeah
Let us in
Let us in

Asking for a chance at redemption. The book a love could refer to the Bible or novel the Broken Wings. This man wants the intimacy that he once shared with this woman.

Baby, it’s all I know
That you’re half of the flesh
And blood that makes me whole
Yeah, yeah, yeah
Yeah, yeah

He doesn’t want any other woman. She is the one for him.

So, take these broken wings
And learn to fly again
Learn to live so free
And when we hear the voices sing
The book of love will open up and let us in

Take me back. Let me become the person I once was when we became a couple.

Take these broken wings
You’ve got to learn to fly
Learn to live and love so free
And when we hear the voices sing
The book of love will open up for us
And let us in, yeah, yeah

Yeah, yeah
Ooh

A final prayer to be welcomed back, given another chance and grow in love together.

Final Thoughts:

Prior to the 1600’s, once a household item was broken, it could not be fixed unless it was made out of metal or wood. However, the invention of glue helped repair items that were once thrown away. The invention of Duct Tape in 1942 added new life to cherished household items, even if this wasn’t perfectly glued or taped. Brokenness is an aspect of life that everyone can relate to, especially during mental health awareness month. The Bible illustrates human’s flaws in Romans 3:9-12. Yet, songs like Broken Wings provide a glimpse of hope for the broken-hearted. May the lyrics encourage you like they have blessed me for the past 30 plus years.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 25

Posted on May 25, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Winger – Miles Away

Inspiration Behind Miles Away:

Paul Taylor wrote Miles Away, intending that Eric Martin of Mr. Big would agree to sing this. After declining this offer, Taylor gave Miles Away to Winger who released this on their In the Heart of the Young album. Taylor wrote Miles Away for his girlfriend Emi Canyn who was a member of Motley Crew at the time. The lyrics of Miles Away touches on the emotional anguish that occurs during a long-distance relationship.

Biblical Application:

When you were slaves to sin, you were free from the control of righteousness. 21 What benefit did you reap at that time from the things you are now ashamed of? Those things result in death! 22 But now that you have been set free from sin and have become slaves of God, the benefit you reap leads to holiness, and the result is eternal life. 23 For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in[b] Christ Jesus our Lord, Romans 6:20-23.

Exegesis of Miles Away:

(Verse 1)
So this is love, or so you tell me
As you’re walkin’, out the door
Months go by, and I know for certain
It’s not the love, I’m lookin’ for

Two rock stars and different schedules traveling on different tours is extremely hard to handle. These are the emotions that Paul in experiencing in his long distance relationship with Emi.

(Pre Chorus)
Some times, just for a moment
I reach out; hope you’re still there

Perhaps referring to a time of day that they tried to call each other.

(Chorus)
Miles away
No; you’re never turnin’ back
I just can’t wait anymore
Miles away
Nothin’ left of what we had
Just when I needed you most…
You were miles away…

When Paul was experiencing a rough time on tour, he needed someone to be there for him, but Emi was miles away.

(Verse 2)
It’s hard to tell, what you’re goin’ through
You kept your feelings locked inside of you
Open your heart, and chances are
What you’re feelin’, I’m feelin’ too

The frustrations of a long-distance relationship.

(Pre Chorus)
If only, just for a moment
Hold on, to the dreams that we had

A flashback of their relationship prior to being separated.

(Chorus)
Miles away
No; you’re never turnin’ back
I just can’t wait anymore
Miles away
Nothin’ left of what we had
Just when I needed you most
You were miles away

Time apart has slowly eroded the special connection that they once shared.

(Verse 3)
When times were tough, and you were down and out
Who was there by your side?
Now you’ve gone; I’m so tired of bein’ alone..
With only your promises…

This separation has gotten to Paul, losing hope that their relationship will ever be the same.

(Bridge)
Lonliness just fades away
Thoughts of you; just memories
No cryin’ now, for what we’re missin’
Time won’t forget what you meant to me Hold me, just for a moment
Hold on, to the dreams that we had

A glimmer of hope, a glimpse of what once was, fond memories of their beginning.

(Chorus)
Miles away
No; you’re never turnin’ back
I just can’t wait anymore
Miles away
Nothin’ left of what we had
Just when I needed you most, whoa-oh
Miles away
No; you’re never turnin’ back
I just can’t wait anymore
Miles away
Nothin’ left of what we had
Just when I needed you most.

(Outro)
You were mi-les a-way…

If there was a set time to reunite, hope could be salvaged. Yet 2 musicians on 2 different schedules doesn’t seem like it would ever work. This sentiment spawned the chorus, miles away. This is the sad reality of their relationship.

Final Thoughts:

I wrote this blog while being away from my wife Leanne for 8 weeks due to training for a new management position. Although I have been home for a few days, waiting for my next stretch of training, it still sucks to be separated by distance. Yet, we will be reunited in June so there are only a few weeks left until I’ll be back in Virginia for good. When Leanne and I first dated, we lived 8 hours away so I understand the message of Winger’s Miles Away.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 23

Posted on May 23, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Drift Away By Uncle Kracker With Lyrics

Inspiration Behind Drift Away:

The original version of Drift Away was released in 1972 by Dobie Gray. Thirty years later, Uncle Kracker felt inspired to create a modern interpretation of this classic. The lyrics of Drift Away explore escapism, healing and the transformative power of music In this month dedicated to mental health awareness, sometimes all you need is a little solitude and a special song to snap you out of depression as friends wait for you to heal.

Biblical Application:

 Let the message of Christ dwell among you richly as you teach and admonish one another with all wisdom through psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit, singing to God with gratitude in your hearts. 17 And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him, Colossians 3:16-17.

Exegesis of Drift Away:

Day after day I’m more confused
Yet, I look for the light through the pourin’ rain
You know, that’s a game that I hate to lose
And I’m feeling the strain, ain’t it a shame

When you are going through a difficult time in life, healing comes from focusing on the positive aspects of your life. Unfortunate; confusion, depression and hopelessness can lead individuals to withdraw.

Oh, give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock and roll and drift away
Give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock and roll and drift away

Won’t you take me away

Some find healing through music. This is how God soothed King Saul’s soul in the Bible. Certain beats, lyrics and melodies help people take their minds off of ongoing problems.

Beginnin’ to think that I’m wastin’ time
I don’t understand the things I do
The world outside looks so unkind
And I’m countin’ on you, you can carry me through

This stanza appears to reference the words of the apostle Paul in Romans 7:7=20, entangled by some sort of an addiction, bad habit or unwholesome craving. When you find yourself bound by bad decisions, it’s hard to see any good going on in the world. This is when music can provide a message of hope.

Oh, give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock and roll and drift away
Give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock and roll and drift away

Won’t you take me away

This chorus is like a prayer to be set free from the troubles of life. Listening to music has a way of easing this pain.

And when my mind is free
You know your melody can move me
And when I’m feelin’ blue
The guitar’s coming through to soothe me

Uncle Kracker is using music as a form of meditation, to uplift and renew his soul.

Thanks for the joy that you’ve given me
The joy that you’ve given me
I want you to know that I believe in your song
Rhythm, and rhyme, and harmony
You helped me along, you’re makin’ me strong
Oh, you’re makin’ me strong

This stanza is a reflection of how this song spoke to Uncle Kracker. When you put every aspect of this song together, it revitalized and strengthened his soul.

Give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock and roll and drift away
Drift away
Give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock and roll and drift away
Drift away

Repeating this chorus is like getting lost in music, freeing his mind from all anxieties, concerns and worries.

Give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock and roll and drift away
Drift away
Just give me the beat boys and free my soul
I wanna get lost in your rock and roll and drift away

Repeating a desire to get lost in rock music.

Oh, won’t you take me
Oh, won’t you take me
I wanna drift away
Won’t you take me away
I wanna drift away
I wanna drift away
Won’t you take me
Take me home
Let me drift away
Won’t you take me away

A request to release all of his stress by coming absorbed by this song.

Final Thoughts:

Certain songs speak to your heart, soul and mind when the timing is right. I turned to music when girlfriends broke up with me in high school. When I lost a dear friend in college, I turned to Christian music for answers. Finally, when I most my teaching job, FM Static was there to lift me up when my future seemed bleak. This is how music can sooth souls like Drift Away.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 21

Posted on May 21, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Sheryl Crow – Soak Up The Sun

Inspiration Behind Soak Up the Sun:

Sheryl Crow and Jeff Trout were on a flight from Portland, Oregon to New York City. On this particular day, it was pouring upon takeoff and sunny when they arrived. This concept of soaking up the sun provided a dual meaning for Cheryl who was recovering from surgery at the time this song was created. The composition of the lyrics to Soak Up the Sun included a discussion on real life issues like the Columbine high school shooting. These current events led to themes of resilience and gratitude with Soak Up the Sun.

Biblical Application:

Let the name of the Lord be praised, both now and forevermore. 3 From the rising of the sun to the place where it sets, the name of the Lord is to be praised, Psalm 113:2-3.

Exegesis of Soak Up the Sun:

My friend the communist
Holds meetings in his RV
I can’t afford his gas
So I’m stuck here watching TV

Despite your political leanings and how this belief impacts local economies, a sunny day can bring different people together.

[Verse 2]
I don’t have digital
I don’t have diddly-squat
It’s not having what you want
It’s wanting what you’ve got

This stanza is about gratitude Instead of thinking about what other people have in life, be thankful for the blessings you do have in life.

[Chorus]
I’m gonna soak up the sun
I’m gonna tell everyone to lighten up
I’m gonna tell ’em that I’ve got no one to blame
For every time I feel lame, I’m lookin’ up

Use sunny days as to recreate. Leave any anxieties, concerns or worries at the front door as you Soak Up the Sun outside.

[Post-Chorus]
I’m gonna soak up the sun
I’m gonna soak up the sun

Seize any sunny days that the good Lord provides.

[Verse 3]
I’ve got a crummy job
It don’t pay near enough
To buy the things it’d take
To win me some of your love

Focusing on a stage in life where many people find themselves, not satisfied with their income or occupation. This impacts your social status and ability to attract others who make more money than you.

[Pre-Chorus]
Every time I turn around
I’m lookin’ up, you’re lookin’ down
Maybe something’s wrong with you
That makes you act the way you do

A powerful stanza about a reality in life. Everyone has a backstory which influences how you act and behave. Unless you get to know someone, you’ll never truly understand why they act the way that they do.

[Chorus]
I’m, I’m gonna soak up the sun
I’m gonna tell everyone to lighten up
I’m gonna tell ’em that I’ve got no one to blame
For every time I feel lame, I’m lookin’ up

The sun can be relaxing if you take your mind off of the stressful aspects in your life. This is the call to lighten up. The last 2 lines provides an important life lesson. Don’t blame others for your lack of progress or success in life. When you are having a bad day, go outside and soak up the sun.

[Bridge]
I’m gonna soak up the sun
While it’s still free
I’m gonna soak up the sun
Before it goes out on me

Having fun in the sun is still free unless you have to pay for beach parking or beach tags. Seize each sunny day.

[Verse 4]
Don’t have no master suite
But I’m still the king of me
You have a fancy ride, but baby
I’m the one who has the key

A stanza about wealth and perspectives as you go through life.

[Pre-Chorus]
Every time I turn around
I’m lookin’ up, you’re lookin’ down
Maybe something’s wrong with you
That makes you act the way you do May I am crazy too

People are different and respond differently. One person may be soaking up the sun on a beach and the person next to them is focused on social media and texting. These differences conceived judgments that may be accurate or wrong.

[Chorus]
I’m gonna soak up the sun
I’m gonna tell everyone to lighten up
I’m gonna tell ’em that I’ve got no one to blame
For every time I feel lame, I’m lookin’ up
I’m gonna soak up the sun
I’m gonna tell everyone to lighten up (To lighten up)
I’m gonna tell ’em that I’ve got no one to blame
For every time I feel lame, I’m lookin’ up (I’m lookin’ up)

Let a sunny day serve as a form of healing. Don’t bring your personal baggage as a way to play the victim card. Take responsibility for your actions, lighten up and enjoy every summer day in your future.

[Outro]
I’m gonna soak up the sun
I got my 45 on
So I can rock on

Sheryl is pleased with the outcome of Soak up the Sun.

Final Thoughts:

Bringing politics into music has ruined my enjoyment of several artists and bands that I once adored in college. If these musicians would have simply saved their political views for debates and discussions with friends, people like me would be more into music. However, Soak Up the Sun provides an important life lesson if you are open minded. The next time you are out soaking up the sun, allow good weather to unite, not divide. Seek to find a common ground or things you share in common. This mindset and perspective would make this world a better place to live.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 20

Posted on May 20, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Katrina & The Waves – Walking On Sunshine (Official Music Video)

Inspiration Behind Walking on Sunshine:

Guitarist Kimberley Rew’s original idea for Walking on Sunshine was for this to be a ballad. However, after writing the lyrics, it was apparent that this fun song needed to be more up-tempo. The overriding theme for Walking on Sunshine is joy, passionate about the life you are about to live. You are not just walking, you are floating in the air, fueled by a beautiful day.

Biblical Application:

Will the Lord be pleased with thousands of rams, with ten thousand rivers of olive oil? Shall I offer my firstborn for my transgression, the fruit of my body for the sin of my soul? 8 He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly[a] with your God, Micah 6:7-8.

Exegesis of Walking on Sunshine:

[Intro]
Ow
Mmm, yeah

Setting the tone with excitement and enthusiasm.

[Verse 1]
I used to think maybe you loved me, now, baby, I’m sure
And I just can’t wait ’til the day when you knock on my door
Now every time I go for the mailbox, I’ve gotta hold myself down
‘Cause I just can’t wait ’til you write me you’re coming around

Kimberley thought that someone she was interested in her loved her. She is waiting for him to ask her out, She is also waiting for a letter from him as well.

[Chorus]
Now I’m walking on sunshine, woah-oh
I’m walking on sunshine, woah-oh
I’m walking on sunshine, woah-oh
And don’t it feel good?
Hey, alright now
And don’t it feel good?
Hey, yeah

She is in a great mood, excited about the future while celebrating today.

[Verse 2]
I used to think maybe you loved me, now I know that it’s true
And I don’t want to spend my whole life just awaiting for you
Now, I don’t want you back for the weekend, not back for a day, ah-no-no
I said, baby, I just want you back, and I want you to stay, oh, yeah, now

The potential of this future relationship is boosting her morale.

[Chorus]
I’m walking on sunshine, woah-oh
I’m walking on sunshine, woah-oh
I’m walking on sunshine, woah-oh-oh
And don’t it feel good?
Hey, alright now
And don’t it feel good?
Yeah, oh, yeah, now
And don’t it feel good?

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This chorus points to a positive state of mind.

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[Bridge]
Walking on sunshine
Walking on sunshine
I feel alive, I feel a love
I feel a love that’s really real
I feel alive, I feel a love
I feel a love that’s really real
I’m on sunshine, baby, oh, oh, yeah
I’m on sunshine, baby, oh

She is on an emotional high with love on her mind,

[Chorus]
I’m walking on sunshine, woah-oh
I’m walking on sunshine, woah-oh
I’m walking on sunshine, woah-oh-oh
And don’t it feel good?
Hey, alright now
And don’t it feel good?

This repetitive chorus points to a positive state of mind, feeling great.

[Outro]
I’ll say it, I’ll say it, I’ll say it again now
And don’t it feel good?
Ho, yeah, now
And don’t it feel good?
Now don’t it, don’t it, don’t it, don’t it, don’t it
Don’t it feel good?
I’ll say it, I’ll say it, I’ll say it again now
And don’t it feel good?
Oh, don’t, don’t, don’t, don’t, don’t
And don’t it feel good?
Now tell me, tell me, tell me again now
And don’t it feel good?
Ho, yeah, now
And don’t it feel good?
Oh, don’t it feel good, don’t it feel good?
Now don’t it feel good?
Oh, yeah, oh, yeah, oh, yeah (And don’t it feel good?)
Oh, yeah-yeah-yeah
Oh, yeah, oh, yeah
Oh, yeah-yeah-yeah-yeah-yeah (And don’t it feel good?)
Oh, yeah-yeah
Oh, yeah-yeah (And don’t it feel good?)
Oh, yeah-yeah-yeah, woo (And don’t it feel good?)

This final stanza reminds me of a high school girl who is in love, telling all of our friends how great this guy is.

Final Thoughts:

I would live in die with sports and relationships in high school. When I was in love, I was the happiest boy in school. When I got dumped, this joy turned into misery. This emotional roller coaster sucked the joy out of my life. As I matured in college, I began to become even keel, trying to avoid getting my hopes up. Yet when you find the right person, I understand the excitement that Kimberley expresses in Walking on Sunshine,

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 16

Posted on May 16, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Poison – Every Rose Has Its Thorn (Lyrics)

Inspiration Behind Every Rose Has It’s Thorn:

Lead singer Bret Michaels experienced the heartbreak of discovering that his partner was unfaithful while out on tour with Poison. Out of this emotional experience in Dallas, Texas, Michaels strummed on his guitar late that night. Using music as a vessel for healing, raw emotions spawned the lyrics to Every Rose Has it’s Thorn. This life experience conceived this 1988 classic metal ballad.

Biblical Application:

In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body, Ephesians 5:28-30.

Exegesis of Every Rose Has It’s Thorn:

We both lie silently still in the dead of the night
Although we both lie close together
We feel miles apart, inside
Was it somethin’ I said or something I did
Did my words not come out right
Tho’ I tried not to hurt you
Tho’ I tried
But I guess that’s why they say

Bret is reflecting upon what went wrong in this relationship, unsure what happened which drove each other apart.

Every rose has its thorn
Just like every night has its dawn
Just like every cowboy sings his sad, sad song
Every rose has its thorn

Yea it does

Bret uses a metaphor to explain how he is feeling inside. The longer you hold a rose, the more likely you’ll get cut or pricked.

I listen to our favorite song playin’ on the radio
Hear the dj say love’s a game of
Easy come and easy go
But I wonder does he know
Has he ever felt like this
And I know that you’d be here right now
If I could have let you know somehow I guess

Listening to the special song they shared brought back a wave of emotions. Yet as Bret does a deep dive of the lyrics, there are certain things not dealt with or expressed.

Every rose has its thorn
Just like every night has its dawn
Just like every cowboy sings his sad, sad song
Every rose has its thorn

This chorus seeks to lay out certain realities in life.

Though it’s been a while now
I still feel so much pain
Like the knife that cuts you the wound heals,
But the scar, that scar remains.

Time hasn’t healed Bret’s broken heart. The Bible refers to this as wounds to your soul.

I know I could have saved our love that night
If I’d know what to say
Instead of making love
We both made our separate ways

Unexpected situations are hard to plan for. Looking back, Bret knows he could have saved their relationship if he just knew what to say.

Now I hear you’ve found somebody new
And that I never meant that much to you
To hear that tears me up inside
And to see you cuts me like a knife, i guess

Bret received news of his ex, doing well and her lack of appreciation for him.

Every rose has its thorn
Just like every night has its dawn
Just like every cowboy sings his sad, sad song
Every rose has its thorn

This rose and this latest update stuck with Bret, hurting more than he realized.

Final Thoughts:

Depending upon how stable someone is, relationships can be dicey. I once dated a girl in college who was ready to move on from me if our date didn’t go well. The pressure eventually got too great for me to handle, going our separate ways like Bret and his girlfriend. However, when you meet someone who is mature and stable, you won’t have as many thorns on this rose. Since all human beings are flawed, love takes a will to overlook the thorns we possess.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 14

Posted on May 14, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Barbra Streisand Neil Diamond – You Don’t Bring Me Flowers

Inspiration Behind You Don’t Bring Me Flowers:

Marilyn Bergman told a story about a couple drifting apart at a songwriter’s workshop with Neil Diamond in attendance. Television producer Norman Lear was looking for a theme song for Glitters, asking Neil to write one. Diamond took the idea from this workshop and crafted You Don’t Bring Me Flowers, asking Barbara Streisand to sing this duet. Since Glitter was about the reversal of roles; this concept led Diamond to craft lyrics of a couple sharing their true feelings.

Biblical Application:

Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy. 14 Blessed is the one who always trembles before God, but whoever hardens their heart falls into trouble, Proverbs 28:13-14.

Exegesis of You Don’t Bring Me Flowers:

You don’t bring me flowers
You don’t sing me love songs
You hardly talk to me anymore
When you come through the door
At the end of the day

The excitement and joy of this relationship is fading away. Conversation has ceased.

I remember when
You couldn’t wait to love me
Used to hate to leave me

Where is the passion that once kept you with me as long as you could stay.

Now after lovin’ me late at night
When it’s good for you
And you’re feeling alright
Well, you just roll over
And you turn out the light

Making love together has all but stopped except when the timing is right.

You don’t bring me flowers anymore

The love that you once clearly displayed is missing.

It used to be so natural
To talk about forever
But ‘used to be’s’ don’t count anymore
They just lay on the floor
‘Til we sweep them away

This relationship is falling apart as this couple seems to be drifting in different direfctions.

And baby, I remember
All the things you taught me
I learned how to laugh
And I learned how to cry
Well I learned how to love
Even learned how to lie

There was a time when this couple invested their time and energy into this relationship. Now they have learned to lie to one another.

You’d think I could learn
How to tell you goodbye
‘Cause you don’t bring me flowers
Anymore

Each is afraid of ending this relationship, but their actions, a lack of love, have clearly spoken.

Well, you’d think I could learn
How to tell you goodbye
‘Cause you don’t bring me flowers
Anymore

There is still hope for love and passion, but thoughts of ending this relationship have become prevalent.

Final Thoughts:

Relationships built on physical attraction often come to an abrupt ending. However, relationships built upon common goals and interests, have a much better chance of surviving. This is where having a will to love someone comes into play. Despite what you experience, feel or see, I won’t stop loving. When couples learn to meet and please the needs of their partners, love only intensifies. This is what is missing from You Don’t Bring Me Flowers where love is all about what have you done for me lately. While all relationships become stale from time to time, helping and serving those whom you love will keep passion alive.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 13

Posted on May 13, 2026 by expressyourself4him

The Foundations – Build Me Up Buttercup (Lyric Video)

Inspiration Behind Build Me Up Buttercup:

The Foundations wanted to explore unrequited love and tension that exists within a relationship. Mike d’Abo and Tony Macaulay co-wrote Build Me Up Buttercup about a lover who is strung along by someone who is not interested in him. The Buttercup is symbolic of the flower and candy which highlights the complexities of affections and the desire to be connected with someone that you love.

Biblical Application:

So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live your lives in him, 7 rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness, Colossians 2:6-7.

Exegesis of Build Me Up Buttercup:

Oh, why do you build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, baby, just to let me down (let me down)
And mess me around and then worst of all (worst of all)
You never call, baby when you say you will (say you will)
But I love you still, I need you (I need you)
More than anyone, darlin’
You know that I have from the start
So build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, don’t break my heart

This man wants to be encouraged, not let down. Don’t play mind games with me. Especially when you don’t call. Yet this man still loves her, wanting to be uplifted without being dumped.

“I’ll be over at ten”, you told me time and again
But you’re late, I wait around and then (bah-dah-dah)
I went to the door, I can’t take anymore
Without you, you let me down again

This woman is stringing him along, not really caring about their relationship. This emotional strain is wearing this man out.

(Hey, hey, hey!) Baby, baby, try to find
(Hey, hey, hey!) A little time and I’ll make you mine
(Hey, hey, hey!) I’ll be home
I’ll be beside the phone waiting for you

This man proclaims his dedication in this stanza.

Oh, why do you build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, baby, just to let me down (let me down)
And mess me around and then worst of all (worst of all)
You never call, baby when you say you will (say you will)
But I love you still, I need you (I need you)
More than anyone, darlin’
You know that I have from the start
Build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, don’t break my heart

Despite this verbal commitment, he wonders why she doesn’t build him up. This stanza highlights the complexities of their relationship. His greatest wish is not to have his heart broken.

You were my toy, but I could be the boy you adore
If you’d just let me know (bah-dah-dah)
Although you’re untrue, I’m attracted to you all the more
Why do I need you so

This man is fighting for the woman that he loves despite how she treats him.

(Hey, hey, hey!) Baby, baby, try to find
(Hey, hey, hey!) A little time and I’ll make you mine
(Hey, hey, hey!) I’ll be home
I’ll be beside the phone waiting for you

Just give me a chance and I’ll prove my worth to you.

Why do you build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, baby, just to let me down (let me down)
And mess me around and then worst of all (worst of all)
You never call, baby when you say you will (say you will)
But I love you still, I need you (I need you)
More than anyone, darlin’
You know that I have from the start
Build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, don’t break my heart

His only request is to be affirmed and encouraged.

I-I-I need you (I need you)
More than anyone, baby
You know that I have from the start
Build me up (build me up)
Buttercup, don’t break my heart

This man believes that she will make him complete. He has done everything in his power to make this relationship work. Just don’t break my heart.

Final Thoughts:

When I was in junior high, hardly any girls knew that I existed. There was one girl who pretended to like me, flirting with me at the mall until I overheard her laughing with her friends about me. This continued for about a month until I finally stopped going to the mall. When I think of Build Me Up Buttercup, these are the emotions and feelings that hit home. The disappointments of junior high would be quickly forgotten by my final 2 years of high school. Facing adversity helps produce maturity, allowing me to recover and develop meaningful relationships a few years later.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 10

Posted on May 10, 2026 by expressyourself4him

The Outfield – Your Love (Official HD Video)

Inspiration Behind Your Love:

The Outfield had the unique ability to craft songs that resonated with a teenage audience. Guitarist John Spinks wrote Your Love in 20 minutes. John sought to capture the essence of longing and desire within a teen who is in love. Although the lyrics of Your Love are vague in certain portions, there is a sense of urgency to act upon your feelings. Your Love is one of the hit songs from the Outfield’s album Play Deep, suggesting don’t let anything get over your head.

Biblical Application:

You, my brothers and sisters, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh[a]; rather, serve one another humbly in love. 14 For the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.”[b] 15 If you bite and devour each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other, Galatians 5:13-15.

Exegesis of Your Love:

Josie’s on a vacation far away
Come around and talk it over
So many things that I want to say
You know I like my girls a little bit older?

The lyrics start with a couple separated by distance. Thoughts are racing with a comment about dating older girls.

I just want to use your love tonight
I don’t want to lose your love tonight

The initial portion of this chorus is selfish and then turns to a fear of losing this love.

I ain’t got many friends left to talk to
Nowhere to run when I’m in trouble
You know I’d do anything for you
Stay the night but keep it under cover

This relationship has left this boy without many friends to talk to. There’s a comment about commitment and offer to spend the night, keeping this confidential.

I just want to use your love tonight, whoa
I don’t want to lose your love tonight

There is a sense of urgency to take advantage of this moment together.

Try to stop my hands from shaking
But something in my mind’s not making sense
It’s been a while since we were all alone
But I can’t hide the way I’m feeling

The awkwardness between two teenagers. There is a sense of excitement, confusion and uncertainty.

As you’re leaving, please would you close the door?
And don’t forget what I told you
Just ’cause you’re right, that don’t mean I’m wrong
Another shoulder to cry upon

There is an agreement to keep this one night together secret. There is a disagreement, but an future offer to have a shoulder to lean on in times of need.

I just want to use your love tonight, yeah
I don’t want to lose your love tonight, yeah
I just want to use your love tonight
I don’t want to lose your love tonight
I just want to use your love tonight
I don’t want to lose your love tonight

This extended chorus is like a call to seize this moment together.

Use your love, lose your love (your love), use your love
(I don’t wanna lose) lose your, tonight
(I don’t wanna, I don’t wanna, I don’t wanna lose)
Lose your, tonight (your love)
Lose your, tonight (your love, your love, ah)
Lose your, tonight (your love)
I don’t want to lose your love tonight
(Your love) use your, tonight

There is a degree of second guessing, unsure if this is the right thing to do.

Final Thoughts:

This song serves as a reminder that distance makes the heart grow fonder. Unfortunately, when you are a young teenager, temptation leads human beings into making bad choices. When you have friends that hold you accountable, you’ll have a better chance from escaping temptation, 1 Corinthians 10:13. The key is keeping in step with the Holy Spirit, Galatians 5:25, by fleeing the passions of your flesh.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 2

Posted on May 2, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Meat Loaf – Paradise By The Dashboard Light (Official Video)

Inspiration Behind Paradise:

Jim Steinman and Meatloaf worked together on the National Lampoon Road Tour before developing the idea for Paradise. Steinman began to explore teenage desires and obsessions using exaggerated storytelling. This is how baseball terminology is weaved into Paradise. When hormones are full blown, knowing how far is too far gets blurred in moments of passion. Meatloaf’s girlfriend, Ellen Foley worked with Meatloaf on the lyrics, wanting some form of commitment before having sex. This is where many relationships stall, when a commitment to a future together is put on hold.

Biblical Application:

It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; 4 that each of you should learn to control your own body[a] in a way that is holy and honorable, 5 not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5.

Exegesis of Paradise:

Well I remember every little thing
As if it happened only yesterday
Parking by the lake
And there was not another car in sight
And I never had a girl
Looking any better than you did
And all the kids at school
They were wishing they were me that night

This opening stanza is like a scene from Happy Days, going to Inspiration Point, as teenagers park their car to make out with their girlfriend.

And now our bodies are oh so close and tight
It never felt so good, it never felt so right
And we’re glowing like the metal on the edge of a knife
Glowing like the metal on the edge of a knife
C’mon! Hold on tight!
C’mon! Hold on tight!

The lyrics point to a romantic embrace filled with passion.

Though it’s cold and lonely in the deep dark night
I can see paradise by the dashboard light

A little light in this car reveals a dark remote location.

Ain’t no doubt about it
We were doubly blessed
‘Cause we were barely seventeen
And we were barely dressed
Ain’t no doubt about it
Baby got to go and shout it
Ain’t no doubt about it
We were doubly blessed
‘Cause we were barely seventeen
And we were barely dressed

Meatloaf identifies this special moment to paradise, thinking about having sex.

Baby don’t you hear my heart
You got it drowning out the radio
I’ve been waiting so long
For you to come along and have some fun
Well I gotta let you know
No, you’re never gonna regret it
So open up your eyes I got a big surprise
It’ll feel all right
Well I wanna make your motor run

The hormones of two teenagers are out of control.

And now our bodies are oh so close and tight
It never felt so good, it never felt so right
And we’re glowing like the metal on the edge of a knife
Glowing like the metal on the edge of a knife
C’mon! Hold on tight!
Well c’mon! Hold on tight!

The lyrics point to a combination of lust and love between two teenagers.

Though it’s cold and lonely in the deep dark night
I can see paradise by the dashboard light
Though it’s cold and lonely in the deep dark night
(Lonely in the deep dark night)
Paradise by the dashboard light

The car is running but these two teens are providing the heat.

You got to do what you can
And let Mother Nature do the rest
Ain’t no doubt about it
We were doubly blessed
‘Cause we were barely seventeen
And we were barely-

Meatloaf is trying to pressure his girl into having sex.

We’re gonna go all the way tonight, we’re gonna go all the way and tonight’s the night
We’re gonna go all the way tonight we’re gonna go all the way and tonight’s the night
We’re gonna go all the way tonight we’re gonna go all the way and tonight’s the night
We’re gonna go all the way tonight we’re gonna go all the way and tonight’s the night

Tonight is the night Meatloaf has been waiting for his entire life.

OK, here we go, we got a real pressure cooker going here
Two down, nobody on, no score, bottom of the ninth
There’s the windup, and there it is, a line shot up the middle
Look at him go. This boy can really fly!
He’s rounding first and really turning it on now
He’s not letting up at all, he’s gonna try for second
The ball is bobbled out in center
And here comes the throw, and what a throw!
He’s gonna slide in head first, here he comes, he’s out!
No, wait, safe – safe at second base
This kid really makes things happen out there
Batter steps up to the plate
Here’s the pitch and he’s going, and what a jump he’s got
He’s trying for third, here’s the throw, it’s in the dirt – safe at third!
Holy cow, stolen base! He’s taking a pretty big lead out there
Almost daring him to try and pick him off
The pitcher glances over, winds up, and it’s bunted
Bunted down the third base line, the suicide squeeze is on!
Here he comes, squeeze play, it’s gonna be close
Here’s the throw, here’s the play at the plate
Holy cow, I think he’s gonna make it!

This is the baseball metaphor, using each base to represent getting closer to home, sex.

Stop right there!
I gotta know right now!
Before we go any further!
Do you love me?
Will you love me forever?
Do you need me?
Will you never leave me?
Will you make me so happy for the rest of my life?
Will you take me away and will you make me your wife?
Do you love me?
Will you love me forever?
Do you need me?
Will you never leave me?
Will you make me happy for the rest of my life?
Will you take me away and will you make me your wife?
I gotta know right now
Before we go any further
Do you love me?
Will you love me forever?

This is where Ellen draws the line, stopping at third base.

Let me sleep on it
Baby, baby let me sleep on it
Let me sleep on it
I’ll give you an answer in the morning
Let me sleep on it
Baby, baby let me sleep on it
Let me sleep on it
I’ll give you an answer in the morning
Let me sleep on it
Baby, baby let me sleep on it
Let me sleep on it
I’ll give you an answer in the morning

Meatloaf is stalling, trying to wear Ellen down.

I gotta know right now
Do you love me?
Will you love me forever?
Do you need me?
Will you never leave me?
Will you make me so happy for the rest of my life?
Will you take me away and will you make me your wife?
I gotta know right now!
Before we go any further
Do you love me?
And will you love me forever?

Ellen views the act of sex sacred like getting married.

What’s it going to be boy?
C’mon I can wait all night
What’s it gonna be boy? Yes or no?
What’s it gonna be boy?
Yes or no?

Ellen is waiting for an answer, a sign of commitment and a future together.

Let me sleep on it
Baby, baby let me sleep on it
Well let me sleep on it
I’ll give you an answer in the morning
I gotta know right now!

Meatloaf again postpones his decision.

Do you love me? (let me sleep on it)
Will you love me forever? (Baby baby, let me sleep on it) do you need me?
Will you never leave me?
Will you make me so happy for the rest of my life? (Let me sleep on it)
Will you take me away, will you make me your wife? (I’ll give you an answer in the morning)
I gotta know right now
Before we go any further
Do you love me? Will you love me forever?

Like a debate, Ellen and Meatloaf go back and forth.

Let me sleep on it! (will you love me forever?)
Let me sleep on it! (will you love me forever?)

This is the art of persuasion.

I couldn’t take it any longer, Lord I was crazed
And when the feeling came upon me like a tidal wave
Started swearing to my god and on my mother’s grave
That I would love you to the end of time
I swore I would love you to the end of time!

Love makes people do crazy things.

So now I’m praying for the end of time
To hurry up and arrive
‘Cause if I gotta spend another minute with you
I don’t think that I can really survive
I’ll never break my promise or forget my vow
But God only knows what I can do right now
I’m praying for the end of time
It’s all that I can do
Praying for the end of time
So I can end my time with you!

This is how most men today view marriage, as something to hold you down.

Well it was long ago and it was far away
And it was so much better that it is today
Well it was long ago and it was far away (it never felt so good)
And it was so much better that it is today (it never felt so right, and it was glowing like the metal)
It was long ago and it was far away (on the edge of a knife, it never felt so good)
And it was so much better that it is today (it never felt so right, and it was glowing like the metal)
Well it was long ago and it was far away (on the edge of a knife, it never felt so good)
And it was so much better that it is today (it never felt so right, and it was glowing like the metal)
Well it was long ago and it was far away (on the edge of a knife, it never felt so good)
And it was so much better that it is today (it never felt so right, and it was glowing like the metal)
Well it was long ago and it was far away (on the edge of a knife, it never felt so good)
And it was so much better that it is today (it never felt so right, and it was glowing like the metal)
It was long ago and it was far away (on the edge of a knife, it never felt so good)
And it was so much better that it is today (it never felt so right, and it was glowing like the metal)

Time has eroded the passion Meatloaf once possessed. Meatloaf has fond memories of his youth, thinking things were better back then than today.

Final Thoughts:

Morality in America and in churches today has declined greatly in the past 30 years. Compromise, justification and temptation have become part of everyday life. Hanging on to your virginity until marriage is rare today. Yet to the disciplined who won’t allow themselves to be placed into compromising positions, it is possible to please God by avoiding passion lust. This is part of the Girls Gone Mild Movement, waiting patiently for the right person to come along.

by Jay Mankus

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