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The Bible’s Version of the Ultimate Gift (Not Exactly)

Posted on June 17, 2023 by expressyourself4him

The Ultimate Gift was a 2006 film directed by Michael O. Sajbel. This screen play was written by Cheryl McKay, which is based on the best selling novel by Jim Stovall. Instead of receiving a typical inheritance, Jason Stevens played by Drew Fuller is forced to work for his. This begins on a ranch in Texas, unaware of how long Jason will be there or what he has to accomplish.

When Laban heard of the arrival of Jacob his sister’s son, he ran to meet him, and embraced and kissed him and brought him to his house. And [Jacob] told Laban all these things. 14 Then Laban said to him, Surely you are my bone and my flesh. And [Jacob] stayed with him a month. 15 Then Laban said to Jacob, Just because you are my relative, should you work for me for nothing? Tell me, what shall your wages be? – Genesis 29:13-15

While Jason is given a series of challenges, approximately a month a part, Jacob has to wait 7 years to receive the love of his life, Rachel. Although Moses does not explain exactly what Laban employed him for or what he did, Jacob’s 7 year courtship flew by like a day in heaven. The movie version of the Ultimate Gift was designed to mature Jason from a spoiled boy into a man.

Now Laban had two daughters; the name of the elder was Leah and the name of the younger was Rachel. 17 Leah’s eyes were weak and dull looking, but Rachel was beautiful and attractive. 18 And Jacob loved Rachel; so he said, I will work for you for seven years for Rachel your younger daughter. 19 And Laban said, It is better that I give her to you than to another man. Stay and live with me. 20 And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed to him but a few days because of the love he had for her. 21 Finally, Jacob said to Laban, Give me my wife, for my time is completed, so that I may take her to me, Genesis 29:16-21.

The reason I added Not Exactly to the title of this blog is that Jacob ended up getting what he deserved, Galatians 6:7-8. The Lord used Laban to teach Jacob an important lesson about sowing deception. When you sow according to your sinful nature, focusing on what you want, you forget what God desires. Subsequently, he Bible’s version of the Ultimate Gift is living the abundant life, John 10:10, which is only achievable by keeping in step with the Holy Spirit, Galatians 5:25.

by Jay Mankus

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Family Drama

Posted on June 16, 2023 by expressyourself4him

In this age of social media, thoughts are shared daily in the form of blogs, pictures, posts, tweets, and videos. While I don’t recommend it, dirty language is shared daily which adds fuel to family drama. Before concluding the events of Isaac’s life, Moses highlights one dramatic scene in today’s featured passage. After being duped by Rebekah and Jacob, Isaac is on the verge of having a heart attacked, shocked and stunned.

And Isaac his father said to him, Who are you? And he replied, I am your son, your firstborn, Esau. 33 Then Isaac trembled and shook violently, and he said, Who? Where is he who has hunted game and brought it to me, and I ate of it all before you came and I have blessed him? Yes, and he shall be blessed, Genesis 27:32-33.

Depending upon your mood or mental state, you may overreact. If someone says the wrong thing at the wrong time, you might explode, going off on family members who push you over the edge. In this age of cellphones, videos may go viral whether you like it or not. While some You Tubes may be humorous, others are downright embarrassing, resulting in more family drama. Subsequently, the next family outing will be dicey with many on edge.

When Esau heard the words of his father, he cried out with a great and bitter cry and said to his father, Bless me, even me also, O my father! 35 [Isaac] said, Your brother came with crafty cunning and treacherous deceit and has taken your blessing. 36 [Esau] replied, Is he not rightly named Jacob [the supplanter]? For he has supplanted me these two times: he took away my birthright, and now he has taken away my blessing! Have you not still a blessing reserved for me? – Genesis 27:34-36

The apostle Paul told the Church at Galatia, “you reap what you sow,” Galatians 6:7-8. Although Jacob received the blessing that he desired, payback will come in the form of Laban. Just as Jacob deceived his father, Laban would do the same to Jacob. The rock group Ratt sings about this in Round and Round, “What comes around goes around.” To avoid family drama in the future, start sowing fruits of the Spirit, Galatians 6:22-23.

by Jay Mankus

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Wanting Something More than Doing the Right Thing

Posted on June 15, 2023 by expressyourself4him

The one thing I learned from growing up in the Roman Catholic Church was to follow the Golden Rule. This biblical principle comes from Jesus’ interaction with a lawyer in Matthew 22:35-40. While trying to trick Jesus into de-emphasizing one of the ten commandments, Jesus responds with two calls to action. First, love God with all your heart and second, love your neighbor as yourself. This is the golden rule: treating others as you want to be treated.

And Jacob said to his father, I am Esau your firstborn; I have done what you told me to do. Now sit up and eat of my game, so that you may proceed to bless me. 20 And Isaac said to his son, How is it that you have found the game so quickly, my son? And he said, Because the Lord your God caused it to come to me. 21 But Isaac said to Jacob, Come close to me, I beg of you, that I may feel you, my son, and know whether you really are my son Esau or not. 22 So Jacob went near to Isaac, and his father felt him and said, The voice is Jacob’s voice, but the hands are the hands of Esau. 23 He could not identify him, because his hands were hairy like his brother Esau’s hands; so he blessed him, Genesis 27:19-23.

Based upon his upbringing, Jacob was taught to be a decent human being. While Moses does mention that Esau behaved like a typical older brother, Jacob grew up to be the shy child in the family. Despite this sibling rivalry, Jacob didn’t like what his mother was planning. The more Jacob thought about Rebekah’s plan, his conscience got the best of him, fearing the worst-case scenario. From a mother’s perspective, Rebekah wanted this more than doing the right thing.

But he said, Are you really my son Esau? He answered, I am. 25 Then [Isaac] said, Bring it to me and I will eat of my son’s game, that I may bless you. He brought it to him and he ate; and he brought him wine and he drank. 26 Then his father Isaac said, Come near and kiss me, my son. 27 So he came near and kissed him; and [Isaac] smelled his clothing and blessed him and said, The scent of my son is as the odor of a field which the Lord has blessed, Genesis 27:24-27.

Like a politician who gets elected by defaming his opponent’s character with a lie, any individual who is hungry for control and power will do whatever it takes to win. Unfortunately, Rebekah’s scheme to steal Esau’s blessing has been copied, enhanced and multiplied by countless self-seeking people today. Is this due to the removal of the Ten Commandments from public places or merely the byproduct of a fallen world? Whatever the reason, maybe it’s time to reintroduce the golden rule so that doing the right thing will quench any desires to want something more.

by Jay Mankus

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Follow the Script

Posted on June 14, 2023 by expressyourself4him

Back in 2021, my screen writing friend Spencer and I committed to reading one famous screenplay per week. The goal and objective was to see how great writers craft award winning films. Depending upon the actors and actresses chosen for major roles, famous ones have the ability to alter and or change their dialog. If you read the screen play for I-Robot, you can tell Will Smith and the director made several changes which improved this Science Fiction movie.

Rebekah said to Jacob her younger son, See here, I heard your father say to Esau your brother, 7 Bring me game and make me appetizing meat, so that I may eat and declare my blessing upon you before the Lord before my death. 8 So now, my son, do exactly as I command you. 9 Go now to the flock, and from it bring me two good and suitable kids; and I will make them into appetizing meat for your father, such as he loves. 10 And you shall bring it to your father, that he may eat and declare his blessing upon you before his death. 11 But Jacob said to Rebekah his mother, Listen, Esau my brother is a hairy man and I am a smooth man. 12 Suppose my father feels me; I will seem to him to be a cheat and an imposter, and I will bring [his] curse on me and not [his] blessing. 13 But his mother said to him, On me be your curse, my son; only obey my word and go, fetch them to me, Genesis 27:6-13.

In today’s featured passage, Rebekah acts like a Hollywood director, going through her plan with her son Jacob. As this rehearsal plays out, the main actor begins to have second thoughts, doubting that he’ll be able follow the script. Rebekah takes charge as if to say, “if this doesn’t work, I’ll take full responsibility. ” While Moses doesn’t mention any nervousness, stuttering or sweating, Jacob follows Rebekah’s script perfectly, deceiving his father just as his mom had planned.

So [Jacob] went, got [the kids], and brought them to his mother; and his mother prepared appetizing meat with a delightful odor, such as his father loved. 15 Then Rebekah took her elder son Esau’s best clothes which were with her in the house, and put them on Jacob her younger son. 16 And she put the skins of the kids on his hands and on the smooth part of his neck. 17 And she gave the savory meat and the bread which she had prepared into the hand of her son Jacob. 18 So he went to his father and said, My father. And he said, Here am I; who are you, my son? 19 And Jacob said to his father, I am Esau your firstborn; I have done what you told me to do. Now sit up and eat of my game, so that you may proceed to bless me. 20 And Isaac said to his son, How is it that you have found the game so quickly, my son? And he said, Because the Lord your God caused it to come to me. 21 But Isaac said to Jacob, Come close to me, I beg of you, that I may feel you, my son, and know whether you really are my son Esau or not. 22 So Jacob went near to Isaac, and his father felt him and said, The voice is Jacob’s voice, but the hands are the hands of Esau. 23 He could not identify him, because his hands were hairy like his brother Esau’s hands; so he blessed him. 24 But he said, Are you really my son Esau? He answered, I am. 25 Then [Isaac] said, Bring it to me and I will eat of my son’s game, that I may bless you. He brought it to him and he ate; and he brought him wine and he drank, aGenesis 27:14-15.

There are some people who make their living on social media today, using scripted videos with the ability to go off script if necessary. Rather than working a typical 9-5 job, these creative entrepreneurs are spending their time doing what they enjoy and or love. However, like Jacob and Rebekah, sometimes you have to take chances in life. Perhaps, risking failure is an integral part of success, seeing what you’re capable of achieving and what’s beyond your abilities. Scripts serve as a boundary line with the Holy Spirit as the ultimate guide, Galatians 5:25, to lead you away from evil and toward what the Lord desires.

by Jay Mankus

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Which Witch is Real

Posted on June 13, 2023 by expressyourself4him

Watching the Wizard of Oz as a child introduced me to the concept of witches. Lynam Frank Baum wrote the Wonderful Wizard of Oz for children which was turned in a movie years later by writer Noel Langley. The Wizard of Oz uses free will to convey that witches can be good or evil. As I grew up, shows like Bewitched made witches less evil by using comedy. Modern series like Charm took a more serious examination of black magic, curses, and spells. This leaves me to wonder, which witch is real?

When Saul inquired of the Lord, He refused to answer him, either by dreams or by Urim [a symbol worn by the priest when seeking the will of God for Israel] or by the prophets. 7 Then Saul said to his servants, Find me a woman who is a medium [between the living and the dead], that I may go and inquire of her. His servants said, Behold, there is a woman who is a medium at Endor. 8 So Saul disguised himself, put on other raiment, and he and two men with him went and came to the woman at night. He said to her, Perceive for me by the familiar spirit and bring up for me the dead person whom I shall name to you. 9 The woman said, See here, you know what Saul has done, how he has cut off those who are mediums and wizards out of the land. Why then do you lay a trap for my life to cause my death? 10 And Saul swore to her by the Lord, saying, As the Lord lives, there shall no punishment come to you for this. 11 The woman said, Whom shall I bring up for you? He said, Bring up Samuel for me, 1 Samuei 28:6-11.

The prophet Samuel compares witches to someone similar to Whoopi Goldberg’s character in Ghost, Oda Mae Brown. The fortune teller in the Bible uses a seance to call upon the Spirit of Samuel. Based upon how the Witch of Endor reacted, she seemed surprised that this actually worked, suggesting she wasn’t always truthful to her clients. Yet, like the popular television show Crossing Over, some people do have the ability to call upon dead spirits. What’s their secret? Is it tapping into the spiritual realm mentioned in Ephesians 6:12 or have witches evolved over time?

And when the woman saw Samuel, she screamed and she said to Saul, Why have you deceived me? For you are Saul! 13 The king said to her, Be not afraid; what do you see? The woman said to Saul, I see a god [terrifying superhuman being] coming up out of the earth! 14 He said to her, In what form is he? And she said, An old man comes up, covered with a mantle. And Saul perceived that it was Samuel, and he stooped with his face to the ground and made obeisance. 15 And Samuel said to Saul, Why have you disturbed me to bring me up? Saul answered, I am bitterly distressed; for the Philistines make war against me, and God has departed from me and answers me no more, either by prophets or by dreams. Therefore I have called you, that you may make known to me what I should do. 16 Samuel said, Why then do you ask me, seeing that the Lord has turned from you and has become your enemy? 17 The Lord has done to you as He said through me He would do; for [He] has torn the kingdom out of your hands and given it to your neighbor David. 18 Because you did not obey the voice of the Lord or execute His fierce wrath upon Amalek, therefore the Lord has done this thing to you this day. 19 Moreover, the Lord will also give Israel with you into the hands of the Philistines, and tomorrow you and your sons shall be with me [among the dead]. The Lord also will give the army of Israel into the hands of the Philistines, 1 Samuel 28:12-19.

Perhaps, the best example comes from my own personal experience. When I attended the University of Delaware, there was a coven just off campus. I had heard stories but couldn’t verify these until one conversation while walking to my next class. I complemented a stranger who had the boldness to openly display and carry a Bible in her hand. This young woman’s response still strikes a nerve today: “I read it every day so that I can pray against everything in this book.” To answer my original question, God gives every human being daily choices via free will. Yet, to committed, dedicated and practicing witches, there’s a good reason why Samuel banned witchcraft to prevent curious souls from dabbling into demonic and spiritual forces of evil.

by Jay Mankus

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Trapped by the Daily Grind

Posted on June 12, 2023 by expressyourself4him

As a former cross-country runner and swimmer in high school, I understand the concept of hard work. One of the difficulties of these sports is if you don’t prepare in the offseason, you’ll be way behind the other top performers as practices begin. Subsequently, if I wanted to compete with the best in the state, I had to daily grind my body into shape each summer before school began.

And Jethro, Moses’ father-in-law, took a burnt offering and sacrifices [to offer] to God, and Aaron came with all the elders of Israel to eat bread with Moses’ father-in-law before God. 13 Next day Moses sat to judge the people, and the people stood around Moses from morning till evening. 14 When Moses’ father-in-law saw all that he was doing for the people, he said, What is this that you do for the people? Why do you sit alone, and all the people stand around you from morning till evening? – Exodus 18:12-14

Nearly 40 years, I find myself in a different kind of grind. While listening to an old Casting Crown album, the words of House of their Dreams spoke to me. The first stanza reminds me of my current state, stuck and trapped in the daily grind of work. When you add to this a 75-minute commute, I don’t how much free time, especially during my work week.

Moses said to his father-in-law, Because the people come to me to inquire of God. 16 When they have a dispute they come to me, and I judge between a man and his neighbor, and I make them know the statutes of God and His laws. 17 Moses’ father-in-law said to him, The thing that you are doing is not good. 18 You will surely wear out both yourself and this people with you, for the thing is too heavy for you; you are not able to perform it all by yourself. 19 Listen now to [me]; I will counsel you, and God will be with you. You shall represent the people before God, bringing their cases and causes to Him, Genesis 18:15-19.

The lyrics of the song House of Their Dreams was like God speaking directly to me. Moses writes about a similar experience in his own life. Moses served as the Chief Judge of Israel, working from sunup to sundown. Moses’ father-in-law became a voice of reason, “what you’re doing is not good.” While delegation may not be the answer for your daily grind, may the Holy Spirit direct you toward a solution to overcome being trapped by the daily grind.

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Crying Out Your Pain

Posted on June 11, 2023 by expressyourself4him

There was a time when Americans believed that men should never cry. This belief influenced a generation of tough guys, hiding their pain deep inside their hearts. Apparently, Esau was never taught or told this. When the reality of his blessing as the first born was stolen by his younger brother, Esau let out a loud cry. Although Moses doesn’t mention any tears, Esau was trying to unleash his pain by screaming.

When Esau heard the words of his father, he cried out with a great and bitter cry and said to his father, Bless me, even me also, O my father! 35 [Isaac] said, Your brother came with crafty cunning and treacherous deceit and has taken your blessing. 36 [Esau] replied, Is he not rightly named Jacob [the supplanter]? For he has supplanted me these two times: he took away my birthright, and now he has taken away my blessing! Have you not still a blessing reserved for me? – Genesis 27:34-36

One of my friends in college once told me, sometimes you just need a good cry to release the pain inside your heart. Part of Moses’ description of Esau’s cry was like an uncontrollable infant whose teeth begin to gnash against one another. Yet, on the flip side, Esau shows maturity, coming to the realization of Jacob’s name, the supplanter. Perhaps this served as some sort of answer from God after his cry for help.

Is anyone among you afflicted (ill-treated, suffering evil)? He should pray. Is anyone glad at heart? He should sing praise [to God]. 14 Is anyone among you sick? He should call in the church elders (the spiritual guides). And they should pray over him, anointing him with oil in the Lord’s name. 15 And the prayer [that is] of faith will save him who is sick, and the Lord will restore him; and if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven. 16 Confess to one another therefore your faults (your slips, your false steps, your offenses, your sins) and pray [also] for one another, that you may be healed and restored [to a spiritual tone of mind and heart]. The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working], James 5:13-16.

Meanwhile, the earthly brother of Jesus likely wept like a baby following the biblical events of Good Friday. According to a first century historian, James did not believe his brother was the son of God. Whether this was out of bitterness or resentment, Resurrection Sunday turned James’ tears into a celebration. Therefore, don’t be afraid to cry out your pain. For when you do, any confession that follows results in emotional and spiritual healing.

by Jay Mankus

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The Crossover Connection Week 19: A Poppy Version of the Beatles

Posted on June 10, 2023 by expressyourself4him

When my oldest sister Kathie got her first new stereo, I received her hand me down one. She left me two vinyl records and one eight track tape. Since the eight-track player didn’t always work, I was left with two listening options as I went to sleep each night: Neil Diamond and the Beatles. While Diamond provided a nice change of pace, most nights ended with Here Comes the Sun, the Abbey Road full album. Subsequently, as I expanded my Christian music collection in college, I was searching for something similar to the Beatles.

And Elijah said to Ahab, Go up, eat and drink, for there is the sound of abundance of rain. 42 So Ahab went up to eat and to drink. And Elijah went up to the top of Carmel; and he bowed himself down upon the earth and put his face between his knees 43 And said to his servant, Go up now, look toward the sea. And he went up and looked and said, There is nothing. Elijah said, Go again seven times. 44 And at the seventh time the servant said, A cloud as small as a man’s hand is arising out of the sea. And Elijah said, Go up, say to Ahab, Hitch your chariot and go down, lest the rain stop you. 45 In a little while, the heavens were black with wind-swept clouds, and there was a great rain. And Ahab went to Jezreel, 1 Kings 18:41-45.

This search would last five years when I stumbled upon Pray For Rain who eventually was forced to shorten their name to PFR due to a legal battle over the rights of Pray for Rain. Nonetheless, when the Great Lengths album was released in 1994, this was the sound I was waiting to hear. Based upon the melody of several songs on this album, you can tell that some if not all members of PFR were influenced by the Beatles music. While PFR’s other albums may be a little too poppy for me, if you’re a Beatles fan, you’ll enjoy the attached You Tube.

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That’s Not What I Was Told

Posted on June 10, 2023 by expressyourself4him

When I moved from Chicago to Delaware to attend seminary, my mind was bombarded with so much new information. Some of this content backed up what I already believed, but there were many things that contradicted what I was told as a new Christian in high school. The most practical class that I took was Expository Preaching, based upon the biblical principle of studying the Bible line by line and verse by verse. The purpose of this class was to avoid the temptation of making the Bible say what you want it to say.

For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome, Jeremiah 29:11.

There are currently 104 different versions of the Bible which you can purchase. If you’re a pastor doing research for your next sermon, there may be a temptation to quote and use only the versions that highlight this message. Unless there is a member of this congregation who follows in the footsteps of the Bereans, Acts 17:10-11, no one will question what is being taught. Depending upon the current climate in your church, there may be some who are afraid to raise their voice, silently pondering, “that’s not what I was told.”

And I am convinced and sure of this very thing, that He Who began a good work in you will continue until the day of Jesus Christ [right up to the time of His return], developing [that good work] and perfecting and bringing it to full completion in you, Philippians 1:6.

One of the reasons why attending seminary is difficult is that Christian’s are forced to re-examine everything they thought they knew about the Bible. Any student who is not fully grounded, Colossians 2:6-7, becomes susceptible to falling prey to false teaching, 1 Timothy 4:1-2. The best perspective for any aspiring student is by falling in the footsteps of C.S. Lewis. While writing Mere Christianity, Lewis refers to progress as the process of arriving. As long as Christians continue to learn by meditating on God’s Word, Joshua 1:8, any disagreements will be ironed out over time.

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When You Grow Restive and Break Loose

Posted on June 9, 2023 by expressyourself4him

Restive is one of those words which you rarely hear anymore. Restive refers to a person who is unable to keep still or silent, becoming increasingly difficult to control. Moses is suggesting in the passage below that impatience, dissatisfaction, or boredom is what Esau will have to overcome. Esau’s mindset is similar to Cain in Genesis 4:5-7, with the Devil planting evil thoughts into his brain.

Then Isaac his father answered, Your [blessing and] dwelling shall all come from the fruitfulness of the earth and from the dew of the heavens above; 40 By your sword you shall live and serve your brother. But [the time shall come] when you will grow restive and break loose, and you shall tear his yoke from off your neck, Genesis 27:39-40.

Over the years of television programming, each new concept was inspired by a previous one. The ID Channel has spawned shows on other networks like Snapped featured by Oxygen. Perhaps, this is the image Moses is trying to communicate in the passage above as when anger brews like a fresh pot of coffee, it might spill over onto other appliances or people.

That is why I would remind you to stir up (rekindle the embers of, fan the flame of, and keep burning) the [gracious] gift of God, [the inner fire] that is in you by means of the laying on of my hands [[c]with those of the elders at your ordination]. 7 For God did not give us a spirit of timidity (of cowardice, of craven and cringing and fawning fear), but [He has given us a spirit] of power and of love and of calm and well-balanced mind and discipline and self-control, 2 Timothy 1:6-7.

The apostle is a realist in Romans 7, detailing his own losing battle with a sinful nature bubbling up within his soul. Yet, Paul is also a man of solutions, seeking a higher power to overcome crippling addictions. Subsequently, Paul writes a young pastor with an answer to overcoming doubt, fear and a negative outlook on life. The cure for any restive soul is tapping into the power of the Holy Spirit, providing everything you need in and for life, 2 Peter 1:3-4. If you’re about to break loose, call upon the Lord.

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