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The Message Behind the Music-May 27

Posted on May 27, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Bad English – When I See You Smile

Inspiration Behind When I See You Smile:

Songwriter Diane Warren wrote When I See You Smile as a tribute to her father. Dinae’s father was the only person who believed in her dream to be a songwriter and supported her throughout the years. After writing When I See You Smile, Diane didn’t think it was that special. However, after receiving positive feedback, she placed this in the hands of Bad English. This ballad became a hit which is still aired today.

Biblical Application:

A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit, Proverbs 15:13.

Exegesis of When I See You Smile:

Sometimes I wonder
How I’d ever make it through
Through this world without having you
I just wouldn’t have a clue

Diane reflects upon the impact that her father has had on her life.

‘Cause sometimes it seems
Like this world’s closing in on me
And there’s no way of breaking free
And then I see you reach for me

During Diane’s early trials of being a songwriter, her father’s support meant the world. Based upon the final line, Diane’s father was encouraging and uplifting.

Sometimes I wanna give up
I wanna give in
I wanna quit the fight
And then I see you, baby
And everything’s alright
Everything’s alright

Diane’s father must have been a special person. There were times she wanted to quit, but deep down she didn’t want to disappoint her dad.

When I see you smile
I can face the world, oh
You know I can do anything
When I see you smile
I see a ray of light, oh

Diane’s father instilled within her confidence that she would succeed. Seeing his smile only inspired her more to press on.

I see it shining right through the rain
When I see you smile
Baby, when I see you smile at me
Oh yeah

Even when apart, Diane had an image of her father smiling which stuck with her through the years.

Baby, there’s nothing in this world
That could ever do
What a touch of your hand can do
It’s like nothing that I ever knew, hey

When Diane showed any sign of depression, her father touched her hand or give her a hug for encouragement.

And when the rain is falling, I don’t feel it
‘Cause you’re here with me now
And one look at you, baby
Is all I’ll ever need, is all I’ll ever need

Diane’s father’s smile was implanted within her mind, bringing sunshine to a rainy day. His smile is all she needed.

When I see you smile
I can face the world, oh
You know I can do anything
When I see you smile
I see a ray of light, oh
I see it shining right through the rain
When I see you smile, baby
Baby, when I see you smile at me

Sometimes positive body language is the only thing that needs to be displayed like a warm smile.

Sometimes I wanna give up
I wanna give in
I wanna quit the fight
Then one look at you, baby
And everything’s alright
Everything’s alright, so right

Her father’s steady support kept Diane from giving up on her dream.

When I see you smile
I can face the world, oh
You know I can do anything, yeah
When I see you smile
I see a ray of light, oh
I see it shining right through the rain, yeah

This repetitive chorus drives home the importance of staying positive in life.

When I see you smile
Yeah, I can face the world, oh
You know I can do anything
When I see you smile, oh yeah
Baby, when I see you smile
Smile at me

Smiles are like rays of light, an unspoken sign to keep going until you fulfill your dreams in life.

Final Thoughts:

Of all the songs I have researched in 2026, Diane Warren’s inspiration for When I See You Smile is the most moving. As Diane reflected upon her father, I was brought to tears, thinking about my own father who passed away 2 years ago. Despite this sadness, I was able to write a screenplay about his adventure to America entitled the Improbable Escape. While this movie is still unknown to the world, I can’t imagine Diane’s feeling of accomplishment when Bad English turned her song into a classic ballad which still hits home today. This success story makes me smile.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 22

Posted on May 22, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Blue Oyster Cult – (Don’t Fear) The Reaper (Lyrics)

Inspiration Behind the Reaper:

The front man for Blue Oyster Cult, Donald Roeser, wrote the Reaper at 28 after being diagnosed with heart arrhythmia. Donald used this life crisis as a way to confront his own mortality. Blue Oyster Cult wanted to create something more than a pop song in 1976, using Donald’s personal experience and literary influences to craft the lyrics to the Reaper. Tired of being just a top 40 band. Donald channeled his inner Jethro Tull to shape the sound of the Reaper.

Biblical Application:

Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” 14 Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes, James 4:13-14.

Exegesis of the Reaper:

All our times have come
Here, but now they’re gone

Life flies by as time, clocks, keep ticking.

Seasons don’t fear the Reaper
Nor do the wind, the sun, or the rain
(We can be like they are) come on, baby
(Don’t fear the Reaper) baby, take my hand
(Don’t fear the Reaper) we’ll be able to fly
(Don’t fear the Reaper) baby, I’m your man

La, la-la-la-la
La, la-la-la-la

Winter, Spring, Summer and Fall, the weather, isn’t influenced or impacted by the Reaper. However, the Reaper will use global crisis’s, national disasters, and severe storms to spread fear throughout mankind. Upon hearing his diagnosis, Donald didn’t want his medical condition to influence his relationship at this time.

Valentine is done
Here, but now they’re gone

Donald appears to reference St. Valentine who was martyred for trying to protect sacred marriage in his day. Valentine faced the Reaper, willing to die for his faith.

Romeo and Juliet are together in eternity (Romeo and Juliet)
Forty thousand men and women every day (like Romeo and Juliet)
Forty thousand men and women every day (redefine happiness)
Another forty thousand coming every day

In this stanza, Donald uses Shakespear to illustrate his point, willing to die if their parents didn’t let them marry. History is filled with countless individuals who couldn’t escape the Reaper.

(We can be like they are) come on, baby

Donald is trying to convince the love of his life to not be afraid.

(Don’t fear the Reaper) baby, take my hand
(Don’t fear the Reaper) we’ll be able to fly
(Don’t fear the Reaper) baby, I’m your man

We can make it if we stick together.

La, la-la-la-la
La, la-la-la-la

A subtle transition.

Love of two is one
Here, but now they’re gone

Perhaps a reference to the unity of a strong marriage as a couple becomes one.

Came the last night of sadness
And it was clear she couldn’t go on
The door was open and the wind appeared
The candles blew and then disappeared
The curtains flew and then he appeared

A poetic stanza which highlights that human life is short, like a mist that suddenly disappears.

(Saying, “Don’t be afraid”) come on, baby
(And she had no fear) and she ran to him
(Then they started to fly) they looked backward and said goodbye
(She might become like they are) she had taken his hand
(She had become like they are) come on, baby
(Don’t fear the Reaper)

The last stanza serves as a final call to face your fears, stand together and live life to its fullest.

Final Thoughts:

The Reaper appeared in the 1978 horror film Halloween. However, it was one of the opening scenes in Stephen King’s The Stand which helped me appreciate the Reaper. The melody and lyrics combine to create a timeless classic. As someone who has faced a series of life altering events, my faith in Christ has removed most of my fear of dying. As a recent grandfather, there are several events that I would like to be around to witness, but only God knows when I will breathe my last breath.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 11

Posted on May 11, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Ashley Monroe – Like a Rose [Lyric Video]

Inspiration Behind Like a Rose:

Ashley Monroe reflects upon how the death of her father at a young age impacted her life and family. Like a Rose was co-written by Guy Clark and Jon Randall conveying Ashley’s journey from hardship to resilience. One of the themes of Like a Rose is that despite Ashley’s world falling apart around her, somehow God enabled her to turn out like a rose.

Biblical Application:

Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall trouble or hardship or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword? 36 As it is written: “For your sake we face death all day long; we are considered as sheep to be slaughtered.”[j] 37 No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. 38 For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,[k] neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, 39 neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord, Romans 8:35-39.

Exegesis of Like a Rose:

I was onlu 13 when daddy died
Mama started drinking and my brother just quit trying
I’m still bouncing back, heaven only knows
How I came out like a rose

Ashley was a teenager when her father passed away. Her mom tried to numb this pain by drinking and her brother stopped trying. Yet Ashley kept bouncing back like a thriving rose bush.

Ran off with what’s his name when I turned 18
Got me out of North Dakota, but it did not change a thing
I left it in the yard, all covered up with snow
And I came out like a rose

Leaving didn’t make the pain of her father’s death go away. Seems like Ashley left behind a special plant or bush that thrived in her absence.

Sitting in this diner with a coffee in my hand
Waiting on a bus to some promise land
I got a one way ticket as far as it goes
And I came out like a rose

Ashley went years without having a home. Desperate this lonely journey, God took care of Ashley.

So I’m headed south to anywhere that ain’t so damn cold
Where I can warm my heart and shake the chills from my bones
It took a while to get here, it’s been a long hard road
And I came out like a rose

Ashley finally decided to leave the cold of the north for a warm state in the south. While this move took longer than expected, Ashley’s life was still blessed.

Sitting in this diner with a coffee in my hand
Waiting on a bus to some promise land
I got a one way ticket as far as it goes
And I came out like a rose

This chorus suggests that God is in control despite how bad the present may seem.

It took a while to get here, it’s been a long hard road
And I came out like a rose

Although this journey has been long and hard, Ashley feels blessed like a flourishing rose.

Final Thoughts:

As a manager with Amazon, I’ve learned that everyone has a story that explains how they have turned out and why they act the way that they do. The hard part is taking the time to peel back the layers which help you understand individuals like Ashley. If you have the patience, you’ll be able to find the best way to reach this individual. While you won’t reach everyone, you will find common ground to help rebuild crushed spirits and hurting souls.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-May 3

Posted on May 3, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Thin Lizzy – The Boys Are Back In Town (Official Lyric Video)

Inspiration Behind the Boys are Back in Town:

While this song is referring to the Manchester underworld, sports broadcasters in America use Thin Lizzy’s The Boys are Back in Town as a way to let fans know that their baseball team is back in town. One of the theories is that the boys are referring to the Quality Street Gang who Thin Lizzy encountered as a child at his mother’s nightclub. Members of this group were known for their sharp stylish attire worn at local clubs.

Biblical Application:

A longing fulfilled is sweet to the soul, but fools detest turning from evil. 20 Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm, Proverbs 13:19-20.

Exegesis of the Boys are Back in Town:

Guess who just got back today
Them wild-eyed boys that had been away
Haven’t changed, hadn’t much to say
But, man, I still think them cats are crazy

Either Thin Lizzy has been out at one of the local Manchester clubs or a friend let him know that members of the Quality Street Gang are back.

They were asking if you were around
How you was, where you could be found
I told them you were living downtown
Driving all the old men crazy

Some of the guys were looking for an old friend.

The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
(I said) the boys are back in town
The boys are back in town
The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town

This chorus lets everyone in Manchester know this gang is back.

You know that chick that used to dance a lot?
Every night she’d be on the floor, shaking what she’d got
Man, when I tell you she was cool, she was red hot
I mean, she was steaming

Thin Lizzy recalls one of the regulars who was attractive and a great dancer.

And that time over at Johnny’s place
Well, this chick got up and she slapped Johnny’s face
Man, we just fell about the place
If that chick don’t wanna know, forget her

Thin Lizzy is reminiscing about memorable events that stand out in his mind.

The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
(I said) the boys are back in town
The boys are back in town
The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
The boys are back in town, boys are back in town

Repetitive chorus lets everyone know who is back.

Spread the word around
“Guess who’s back in town?”
Just spread the word around

The word is spreading as Manchester seems excited to have these boys back.

Friday night, they’ll be dressed to kill
Down at Dino’s Bar and Grill
The drink will flow and blood will spill
And if the boys want to fight, you better let them

Thin Lizzy summarizes a typical night at one of the local clubs.

That jukebox in the corner blasting out my favourite song
The nights are getting warmer, it won’t be long
Won’t be long ’til summer comes
Now that the boys are here again

Warm weather brings back locals and tourists.

The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
The boys are back in town
The boys are back in town

Thin Lizzy is excited to see the guys.

The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
(Spread the word around)
The boys are back in town, the boys are back in town
(The boys are back, the boys are back)

Thin Lizzy looked up to this gang when he was younger.

The boys are back in town again
Been hanging down at Dino’s
The boys are back in town again

Word on the street allows Thin Lizzy to catch up with these guys.

Final Thoughts:

Every town has a local hangout that is hopping every weekend. For me, this place was the Charcoal Pit, a diner on the main drag which served great ice cream dishes. With a mini jukebox in every booth, teenagers were coming and going throughout the night, bouncing to the music. If I wanted to see one of my friends, this is where I would go either on or after my date. Some of my fondest memories of high school occurred at the Charcoal Pit. Subsequently, I understand Thin Lizzy’s desire to connect with old friends.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-April 27

Posted on April 27, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Survivor – Eye Of The Tiger (Official HD Video)

Inspiration Behind Eye of the Tiger:

Eye of the Tiger was written for Rocky II, featuring the rematch between Apollo Creed and Rocky Balboa. Slyvester Stallone worked with Survivor to ensure that the lyrics fit into the theme’s resilience and triumph. The concept of developing the Eye of the Tiger became a cultural phenomenon in the 1980’s as athletics went into strict training to obtain this mental edge.

Biblical Application:

Have nothing to do with godless myths and old wives’ tales; rather, train yourself to be godly. 8 For physical training is of some value, but godliness has value for all things, holding promise for both the present life and the life to come, 1 Timothy 4:7-8.

Exegesis of Eye of the Tiger:

Risin’ up, back on the street
Did my time, took my chances
Went the distance, now I’m back on my feet
Just a man and his will to survive

In Rocky I, Rocky went the distance but lost the judge’s decision to Apollo. Once the date for a rematch was set, Rocky went into strict training to prepare for this title bout.

So many times, it happens too fast
You trade your passion for glory
Don’t lose your grip on the dreams of the past
You must fight just to keep them alive

Once you reach a certain level in sports, don’t let glory steal your passion. Stay hungry, don’t settle for anything less and develop a mental toughness to keep your dreams alive.

It’s the eye of the tiger, it’s the thrill of the fight
Risin’ up to the challenge of our rival
And the last known survivor stalks his prey in the night
And he’s watching us all with the eye of the tiger

Trainers are looking to give their boxer the mental edge, void of any fear. This is where athletics are tested to push their body to the limits. The goal is to out prepare your opponent and acquire the Eye of the Tiger, waiting to pounce on your opponent at the moment they show signs of weakness.

Face to face, out on the heat
Hangin’ tough, stayin’ hungry
They stack the odds still we take to the street
For the kill, with the skill to survive

This stanza speaks to the competitive nature, drive and hunger that elite athletes possess.

It’s the eye of the tiger, it’s the thrill of the fight
Risin’ up to the challenge of our rival
And the last known survivor stalks his prey in the night
And he’s watching us all with the eye of the tiger

This chorus highlights the mindset that Rocky adopted going into this title fight. The Eye of the Tiger is associated with a refusal to lose, despite what the odds may be.

Risin’ up, straight to the top
Had the guts, got the glory
Went the distance, now I’m not gonna stop
Just a man and his will to survive

Rocky is trying to repeat his incredible feat in Rocky I, but this time wanting to end this bout walking home with the title belt.

It’s the eye of the tiger, it’s the thrill of the fight
Risin’ up to the challenge of our rival
And the last known survivor stalks his prey in the night
And he’s watching us all with the eye of the tiger

The Eye of the Tiger was adopted by some sports psychologists, wanting their client to develop this edge, a mental toughness unlike any other competitive.

The eye of the tiger

The eye of the tiger

The eye of the tiger

The eye of the tiger

The Eye of the Tiger is the goal, a mindset that will often become the deciding factor between winning and losing.

Final Thoughts:

I ran cross-country and swam in high school. Before any race or swimming event, I would be listening to my Walkman, getting pumped up before this competition. While I never reached my full potential due to a major ankle reconstruction surgery, music pushed me to reach new heights Listening to Eye of the Tiger lead me to reach personal records running and swimming. This is the impact that Eye of the Tiger had on my life.

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The Message Behind the Music-April 26

Posted on April 26, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Gloria Gaynor – I Will Survive

Inspiration Behind I Will Survive:

Gloria Gaynor’s song was inspired by situations which taught her to discover resilience and strength. The lyrics focus on a devastating breakup and Gloria’s journey to recover. This life experience enabled Gloria to overcome adversity, finding strength from within to press on without this significant other.

Biblical Application:

Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children. For what children are not disciplined by their father? 8 If you are not disciplined—and everyone undergoes discipline—then you are not legitimate, not true sons and daughters at all. 9 Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! 10 They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. 11 No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it, Hebrews 12:7-11.

Exegesis of I Will Survive:

At first I was afraid
I was Petrified
Kept thinking I could never live
Without you by my side

After being dumped, Gloria doubted that she would ever recover.

But then I spent so many night
Thinking how you did me wrong
And I grew strong
And I learned how to get along

Many nights of reflection helped Gloria realize that she wasn’t treated with respect. This season of growth enabled Gloria to mature and recover.

And so you’re back
From outer space
I just walked in to find you here
With that sad look upon your face

Gloria had no room in her heart to take him back.

I should have change that stupid lock
I should have made you leave your key
If I had known for just one second
You’d be back to bother me

Gloria wished she took financial steps to prevent him from coming back to her place.

Go on now go
Walk out the door
Just turn around now
‘Cause you’re not welcome anymore

Gloria doesn’t hesitate, immediately asking her ex to leave.

Weren’t you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye
You think I’d crumble
You think I’d lay down and die

I’m done with your stupid mind games.

Oh no not I
I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love
I know I’ll stay alive

Gloria will be fine on her own, letting love lead the way.

I’ve got all my life to live
And I got all my love to give
I’ll survive
I will survive
Hey hey

This chorus magnifies that Gloria has fully recovered from this devastating breakup.

It took all the strength I had
Not to fall apart
Kept trying hard to mend the pieces
Of my broken heart

A glimpse of the heartache that Gloria endured.

And I spent oh so many nights
Just feeling sorry for myself
I used to cry
But now I hold my head up high

This wasn’t easy but crying has now turned into recovery and rebirth.

And you see me
Somebody new
I’m not that chained up little person
Still in love with you

Gloria is glad that she is free from this past relationship.

And so you felt like dropping in
And just expect me to be free
Well now I’m saving all my loving
For someone who’s loving me

Gloria learned to invest her time into men who appreciate and love her.

Go on now go
Walk out the door
Just turn round now
You’re not welcome anymore

Gloria doesn’t give her ex a second chance, shutting him out.

Weren’t you the one who tried to break me with goodbye
You think I’d crumble
You think I’d lay down and die

I’m not the same woman I was before.

Oh no not I
I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love
I know I’ll stay alive

I’ll be fine without you as I wait for true love.

I got all my life to live
And I’ve got all my love to give
And I’ll survive
I will survive
Oh

This chorus serves as an anthem for Gloria’s new perspective on life.

Go on now go
Walk out the door
Just turn around now
You’re not welcome anymore

Gloria didn’t wait to repeat the same mistakes of her past.

Weren’t you the one who tried to break me with goodbye
You think I’d crumble
You think I’d lay down and die

Gloria is now mentally tough to recognize the games her ex tried to play.

Oh no not I
I will survive
Oh as long as I know how to love
I know I’ll stay alive

She is better off without him.

I’ve got all my life to give
And I’ve got all my love to give
And I’ll survive
I will survive
I will survive

Gloria is ready for the next phase in her life, waiting on love.

Final Thoughts:

As someone who was dumped multiple times in high school, I spent too much time dwelling on my past instead of looking forward to the future like Gloria. During my 5 years of college, I matured, breaking off friendships with girls who took an emotional toll on my soul. My recovery occurred through Christian friends and my relationship with Jesus. To individuals who grew up in a strict household, you learned right from wrong, even if it was painful. The people who really care about you will confront areas that you need to address. If you want the very best for someone, flawed characteristics need to be corrected until you reach your full potential in life. Although these conversations can be dicey, experiencing tough love will make you a better person in the future.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-March 27

Posted on March 27, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Tina Turner – The Best (Official Music Video) [HD Upgrade]

Inspiration Behind The Best:

Simply the Best is rooted in a spirit of adoration, devotion and love. In recent years, March Madness, also known as the NCAA National Basketball Tournament, has adopted the Best to honor the eventual championship team. When two individuals who were meant to be together as a married couple, each are elevated to unparallel excellence once their joint qualities come together as one. Yet the Best also serves as a tribute to Tina’s success after emerging from a turbulent marriage and career struggles, she soared to global superstardom in her 40s. 

Biblical Application:

In reply Jesus said: “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho, when he was attacked by robbers. They stripped him of his clothes, beat him and went away, leaving him half dead. 31 A priest happened to be going down the same road, and when he saw the man, he passed by on the other side. 32 So too, a Levite, when he came to the place and saw him, passed by on the other side. 33 But a Samaritan, as he traveled, came where the man was; and when he saw him, he took pity on him. 34 He went to him and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, brought him to an inn and took care of him. 35 The next day he took out two denarii[e] and gave them to the innkeeper. ‘Look after him,’ he said, ‘and when I return, I will reimburse you for any extra expense you may have,’ Luke 10:30-35.

Exegesis of the Best:

I call you when I need you, my heart’s on fire
You come to me, come to me, wild and wild
Oh, you come to me
Give me everything I need

Tina points to a friend who was always there when she needed them.

Give me a lifetime of promises and a world of dreams
Speak the language of love like you know what it means
Oh, and it can’t be wrong
Take my heart and make it strong, baby

Tina provides details inside of a former relationship, filled with love and promises.

You’re simply the best
Better than all the rest
Better than anyone
Anyone I ever met

The opening chorus serves as appreciation and gratitude for this individual.

I’m stuck on your heart
I hang on every word you say
Tear us apart
Baby, I would rather be dead

Tina is in love, hanging on every word of her partner.

In your heart, I see the start of every night and every day
In your eyes, I get lost, I get washed away

Tina is excited for every new day.

Just as long as I’m here in your arms
I could be in no better place

Tina finds comfort and security in the arms of her lover.

You’re simply the best
Better than all the rest
Better than anyone
Anyone I ever met

No one else compares to this man.

Ooh, I’m stuck on your heart
I hang on every word you say
Oh, tear us apart, no, no, no
Baby, I would rather be dead

Tina can’t imagine life without this man.

Each time you leave me, I start losing control
You’re walking away with my heart and my soul
I can feel you even when I’m alone
Oh baby, don’t let go
Oh, you’re the best, ooh
Better than all the rest
Better than anyone
Anyone I ever met

Tina misses every moment away from this man. Her life without him simply isn’t the same.

Oh, I’m stuck on your heart
I hang on every word you say
Oh, tear us apart, no, no
Baby, I would rather be dead

Oh, you’re the best!

In Tina’s eyes, no one compares to this man.

Final Thoughts:

Unfortunately, there is always someone more attractive, better, more talented and successful in life. The key to a long marriage is deciding at an early age, what is more important to you in life. Simply the best is in the eyes of the beholder. Internal qualities like compassion, integrity and servanthood are hard to find in one individual. When you figure out what you are looking for in a future soulmate, you’ll know when you meet this individual as long as you are patient and don’t settle for something less.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-March 18

Posted on March 18, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Carly Pearce – What He Didn’t Do (Official Music Video)

Inspiration Behind What He Didn’t Do:

The lyrics to What He Didn’t Do was spawn during the emotional journey of divorce that Carly Pearce experienced. Carly entered her marriage with musician Michael Ray having certain preconceived expectations that were never met. Subsequently, Carly devotes this entire song to how she and other women want to be loved and treated in a relationship.

Biblical Application:

ollow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God, Ephesians 5:1-2.

Exegesis of What He Didn’t Do:

Everybody’s asking what the hell happened
Wonderin’ why it all went wrong
Mama always said, “If you can’t say something nice
Then don’t say anything at all”

Carly isn’t the first woman to not have her expectations of marriage met. When asked, what really went wrong, Carly mentions things that Michael Ray didn’t do. This is how she skirted what her mom taught her about focusing on the positive aspects of human beings growing up.

And I’ve got my side of the story
And he’s got his side too
So I ain’t gonna go and tell you what he did
But I’ll tell you what he didn’t do

In marriage, no one is perfect. Subsequently, each side will make valid points to what went wrong. Yet Carly focuses on how she expected to be treated as a married woman.

Treat me right, put me first
Be a man of his word
Stay home ’cause he wanted to
Always fight for my love
Hold on tight like it’s somethin’
That he couldn’t stand to lose
The devil’s in the details
I won’t tell the hell that he put me through
All I know is in the end, it wasn’t what he did
No, it was what he didn’t do

This list is how Carly envisioned how a married woman should be treated.

I’m already halfway over him
And I ain’t takin’ time to turn around
So I’ma take the high road
Even though we both know
I could run him out of this town

Writing this song helped the healing process of divorce. Instead of looking back, Carly is ready to write a new chapter in her life. Instead of playing the blame game, Carly realizes that they are both musicians and didn’t want to ruin Michael’s future career. I’m assuming this town is Nashville, the major city for country music.

That’s just dirty laundry
I don’t need to air the truth
So I ain’t gonna tell you everything he did
But I’ll tell you what he didn’t do

Trying to take the high road, Carly seeks to let men know how she and other women expect to be treated.

Treat me right, put me first
Be a man of his word
Stay home ’cause he wanted to
Always fight for my love
Hold on tight like it’s somethin’
That he couldn’t stand to lose
The devil’s in the details
I won’t tell the hell that he put me through
All I know is in the end, it wasn’t what he did
No, it was what he didn’t do

I’m not sure if Carly and Michael went through premarital counseling, but if they did this list of expectations would have come out prior to their marriage. Knowing these expectations would have made entering into marriage a smoother transition.

I ain’t met the right one yet
But I know when I do

Looking back, Carly realizes that she hasn’t met Mr. Right yet.

He’ll treat me right, put me first
Be a man of his word
Stay home ’cause he wanted to
Always fight for my love
Hold on tight like it’s something
That he can’t stand to lose
The devil’s in the details
I won’t tell the hell that he put me through
All I know is in the end, it wasn’t what he did
No, it was what he didn’t do

If men don’t grow up in or are raised in a church, Carly’s expectations for marriage aren’t taught. Learning and studying the Bible helps prepare men how they should love and treat their wives.

And all I know is in the end, it wasn’t what he did
No, it was what he didn’t do

If Michael lived out the words of the apostle Paul in Ephesians 5:1-2, this marriage could have been saved.

Final Thoughts:

I grew up in a home like Carly’s as my mom only taught me, “if you don’t have anything nice to say, be quiet. This is the greatest lesson not being passed on from one generation to the next. Social media is providing avenues for adults and children to share their dirty laundry. The main problem today is that parents are setting bad examples for their children or simply live by the rule, “do what I say, not as I do.” Thia climate of love in America will continue to grow cold until a spiritual transformation occurs where love is lived out daily and is not just a word.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-March 15

Posted on March 15, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Inspiration Behind Because of You:

As a child, Kelly Clarkson witnessed her parents’ marriage fall apart, resulting in divorce. Kelly took this emotional turmoil and her pain, turning this into a song by age 16. David Hodges and Ben Moody took Kelly’s rough draft and fine-tuned Because of You’s sound and lyrics. Kelly’s desire was to avoid making the same mistakes as her parents, wanting to persevere her own marriage.

Biblical Application:

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself, Ephesians 5:25-28.

Exegesis of Because of You:

I will not make the same mistakes that you did
I will not let myself ’cause my heart so much misery
I will not break the way you did
You fell so hard
I’ve learned the hard way, to never let it get that far

Kelly developed a desire to not follow in her parents’ footsteps. She made it her ambition if she ever got married to never let a relationship spiral that far out of control.

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side, so I don’t get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

Because of your divorce, I try to stay out of trouble. Because of what I witnessed, I play it safe to avoid getting hurt. Unfortunately, Kelly struggled with trusting others due to her parents’ divorce.

I lose my way
And it’s not too long before you point it out
I cannot cry
Because I know that’s weakness in your eyes
I’m forced to fake a smile, a laugh
Every day of my life
My heart can’t possibly break
When it wasn’t even whole to start with

The atmosphere inside her childhood home was tough. Wrongdoing was pointed out immediately. Meanwhile, crying was not accepted, a sign of weakness. Kelly learned to be fake around her parents to avoid getting disciplined.

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side, so I don’t get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

This chorus points to what Kelly learned as a child to stay out of trouble. This also reveals the emotional scars from her childhood as well.

I watched you die (I watched you die)
I heard you cry
Every night in your sleep
I was so young (and you’re so young)
You should have known better (I was too young for you)
Than to lean on me

This marriage resulted in tears and dying inside. Kelly thinks her mom was too young for marriage, not mature enough to handle raising a child.

You never thought of anyone else
You just saw your pain (you never saw me)
And now I cry
In the middle of the night
For the same damn thing

Self-absorbed individuals can become consumed by their own pain that people around them go unnoticed. Kelly recalls nights crying herself to sleep.

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don’t get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

The side effects of growing up in a broken home are highlighted in this final chorus, creating fear within Kelly.

Because of you
Because of you

You either refers to Kelly’s mom or dad. This is how you affected my life.

Final Thoughts:

I once taught a high school Sunday school class. Every other week, the attendance was only a few students. By the end of my first month teaching, I realized that majority of my students were altering homes every other weekend. Despite being raised in a Christian home, the majority of my class grew up in broken homes, shattered by divorce. This is what happens when couples don’t possess to a will to love one another.

by Jay Mankus

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The Message Behind the Music-March 12

Posted on March 12, 2026 by expressyourself4him

Inspiration Behind the House That Built Me:

The House That Built Me was conceived from personal experiences by Miranda Lambert and Allen Shamblin. This song was co-written by Tom Douglas and Allen Shamblin. These childhood memories combined with Lambert’s emotional response to the completed lyrics led Miranda to record this song for herself.

Biblical Application:

The proverbs of Solomon son of David, king of Israel: 2 for gaining wisdom and instruction; for understanding words of insight; 3 for receiving instruction in prudent behavior, doing what is right and just and fair;4 for giving prudence to those who are simple,[a] knowledge and discretion to the young—5 let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance—6 for understanding proverbs and parables, the sayings and riddles of the wise.[b] 7 The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools[c] despise wisdom and instruction, Proverbs 1:1-7.

Exegesis of the House That Built Me:

I know they say you can’t go home again
I just had to come back one last time
Ma’am, I know you don’t know me from Adam
But these hand prints on the front steps are mine

Adults sometimes want to revisit their childhood by going back to where they grew up. Miranda wanted to walk through the house she grew up in one last time.

Up those stairs in that little back bedroom
Is where I did my homework and I learned to play guitar
And I bet you didn’t know under that live oak
My favourite dog is buried in the yard

With each step, memories flowed from her mind. Especially the tree where her favorite dog was buried.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
This brokenness inside me might start healing
Out here, it’s like I’m someone else
I thought that maybe I could find myself

These memories weren’t all positive. This home was associated with pain and suffering. Miranda thought that returning one more time would bring healing.

If I could just come in, I swear I’ll leave
Won’t take nothin’ but a memory
From the house that built me

The time spent living in this house helped shape who Miranda has become as an adult.

Momma cut out pictures of houses for years
From better homes and garden magazine
Plans were drawn and concrete poured
Nail by nail and board by board
Daddy gave life to momma’s dream

Although her parents didn’t have much, they did the best that they could.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
This brokenness inside me might start healing
Out here, it’s like I’m someone else
I thought that maybe I could find myself

Going back in time doesn’t always help. Brokenness takes time to heal, often longer than you expect.

If I could just come in, I swear I’ll leave
Won’t take nothin’ but a memory
From the house that built me

Miranda begs the current owners for one last chance to walk back in time.

You leave home, you move on
And you do the best you can
I got lost in this whole world
And forgot who I am

Miranda got so caught up in her busy schedule that she lost her way, forgetting who she was.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
This brokenness inside me might start healing
Out here, it’s like I’m someone else
I thought that maybe I could find myself

This visit didn’t produce the outcome that Miranda was hoping for.

If I could walk around, I swear I’ll leave
Won’t take nothin’ but a memory
From the house that built me

If these walls could speak, they would share the life lessons Miranda learned while growing up in this house.

Final Thoughts:

As an adult, I still have a photographic memory, able to recall fond memories. Growing up in New Jersey, I can remember my first homerun in baseball and being laughed out for not being able to read out loud in first grade due to severe stuttering. These are past events that helped shape me as an adult. The tougher the pain, the greater the opportunity for personal growth. These are the events that build and shape human beings.

by Jay Mankus

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