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Three is All I Can Handle

While this blog could refer to the exact amount of children my wife and I decided to have, its not.  This is a quote from one of my students, complaining about writing a 5 paragraph composition for homework.  As a zealous teacher, searching for perfection, I was quickly disappointed when I discovered only 30% of my class regularly turned in their essays.  Grasping at straws, I turned to teenagers to see where I verged off course.  To my surprise, their response was almost unanimous, “three paragraphs is all I can handle.”

Prior to this decision, I spent a week working with Dr. Vito, who held a PhD in Curriculum from Penn State University.  His knowledge of rubrics transformed each of my assignments, concept of ungraded work altered my philosophy of teaching and explanation of scope and sequence led me to delete any units that didn’t fit into my courses.  Once I added “the Voice,” an individual within each of my classes who served as the pulse of their student body, I received instant feedback.  This leadership position became the eyes, ears and heart of classmates, providing an honest, yet realistic view inside the minds of students,  Their input revolutionized my communication with young people, making my last 2 years a success.

Before exiting teaching, conversations with English teachers convinced me to limit 9th grade assignments to 3 paragraphs, 11th grade to 5 and Honors to 6 total.   These experiences helped me recognize that long winded writers can quickly lose their audience.  Thus, I try to compress my thoughts to a 3 paragraphs.  On occasion, 4 or 5 paragraphs may be necessary for complex issues, but for now I will continue to practice KISS: Keep It Simple Stupid.  I want to thank everyone who has shared, visited or commented on my blog.  Since I am more than half way to a thousand, I will continue to write until the Lord moves me in a different direction.

by Jay Mankus

Shocking Words from Inside the Bible

Inside of book 3 within Mere Christianity, C.S. Lewis wrote a chapter entitled Sexual Morality.  Lewis takes an unusual angle, comparing food to sex, using this to explain why an adult may venture into a strip club.  This appetite is called the Beast of Lust by the group Tribe of Dan, a powerful force which persuades people to wander further than they ever expected or thought to go beyond God’s boundaries defined by the Bible.  Lewis is likely referencing 1 Corinthians 6:12-20, where the apostle Paul warns believers against giving into their sexual desires outside of marriage.  Paul introduces the concept of soul ties, where sleeping with another person binds a part of your soul together with this individual.  These ties are strong, often ruining marriages due to previous encounters, one night stands or prior relationships.

One of my favorite classes I taught for 10 years changed its name several times, yet the textbook remained the same, Mere Christianity.  Upon reaching C.S. Lewis’ chapter on sex, I usually spent a day introducing students to Leviticus 18, a guide for what is and what isn’t lawful sexually.  Although many of the things mentioned are common sense, if you have ever read the book of Genesis, you might be surprised by what you missed, overlooked or like me, shake your head, feeling like you need a shower.  Incest, homosexuality and one night stands are a common theme within the first 37 chapters of Genesis.  Chapter 38 even eludes to masterbation in verses 9-10 and contains an act of prostitution before ending in the birth of twins.  Yes, there are definitely shocking words from inside the Bible, yet why do they exist?

First, sex is the first and last act of the sinful nature.  Galatians 5:19 lists sexual immorality as the most natural feeling, inclination or tendency that human beings face.  When someone feeds this hunger without limits, it can give birth to orgies, the last act of the flesh in Galatians 5:21 when sin is full blown.  Second, God doesn’t beat around the bush; He is honest, telling the world what to expect when you indulge into worldly pleasures, Romans 8:5-9.  Free will gives everyone options, to do as they please while on earth.  Finally, Jesus is real, speaking on your level, even if it meant speaking to drunk guests at weddings, John 2:1-11.  While many churches are afraid of speaking about sex in sermons, the Bible is full of shocking words to get your attention so that one day, you might make reservations for a future life in heaven, John 3:16-17.  Jesus is just a prayer away, Romans 10:9-10!

by Jay Mankus

Investing in Your Future

Five months ago, I was aimless wondering in a spiritual wilderness, not sure what my future held.  In this emotional state, I began to seek counsel from a higher authority, placing my future in God’s hands.  What I discovered during this journey may motivate others to begin a similar endeavor.

While listening to a sermon back in February, my pastor challenged his flock to read one Psalm a day, a 150 day challenge.  Since what I had been doing wasn’t working, I gave this a try, hoping my situation might change.  Initially, nothing happened so I shifted my attention to the words I was praying.  Gradually, through studying the Psalms of David, an appreciation for his honesty, being blunt with God, redirected my prayer life.  By the middle of March, God was moving internally, healing my heart and externally with a vision for the future.

Yet, my heart was troubled, uncertain if the position I had accepted was a good fit.  Thus, I began the process of thin slicing, a psychological term that moves an individual to make a quick decision based upon the initial feelings within their heart.  While risky, I quit recognizing this career path did not fit the direction I wanted to pursue.  Despite a few set backs in May, the Holy Spirit led me back on track in June, toward a future with an upside, Romans 12:2.  If it were not for the biblical principles I encountered within the book of Psalms, I would probably still be unemployed.  Therefore, if you are seeking progress in life, invest your time practicing the prayers of David.  In the end, you will find a bright future, 1 John 5:13.

by Jay Mankus

Billy Joel Was Right

For many, music serves as a time warp, taking you back to the days of your youth upon hearing a song on the internet, mp3 player, radio or television.  According to 1 Samuel 16:21-23, music contains healing powers, soothing the soul of King Saul.  When I was younger, 8 track players were on their way out, vinyl had hit its peak and cassette players were the rage.  As for musicians, I was partial toward Billy Joel, Chicago and REO Speedwagon.  Two days ago, I couldn’t get one of Billy Joel’s song out of my mind.

Honesty was released in 1979 on Billy Joel’s 6th album 52nd Street.  The more I played the lyrics over in my mind, especially the chorus below, a truth hit home.

Honesty is such a lonely word.
Everyone is so untrue.
Honesty is hardly ever heard.
And mostly what I need from you.

In this politically correct age, void of honest humor, honesty has become a lonely word.  Instead of pushing individuals toward greatness, they are coddled, hand fed and led to believe they are greater than they really are.  Public education is the biggest offender of this crime against humanity.

My high school teachers told us the truth, even when you didn’t want to hear it.  These words served as inspiration and motivation to prove others wrong.  As a parent of 3 children now, all in public education for the first time, administrators need to apply the message of Billy Joel’s song.

Students don’t need award ceremony after award ceremony, celebrating who came to school every day and who didn’t.  This generation needs to be challenged by demonstrating tough love.  Affirmation and encouragement is important, yet to be a rugged individual, you must learn to endure hardship, embrace trials and pursue excellence.  The more you hear the truth through constructive criticism, your ability to reach your full potential increases.  As you practice this for yourself, you will see Billy Joel was right, honesty is a lonely word.  Change it now!

by Jay Mankus

On a personal note, its nice to hear how great you are.  However, to be the best writer I can be, please send me comments about topics I am not covering, how I can improve my writing or flaws you pick up reading my blogs.  Perfection may be impossible to achieve, Matthew 5:48, but trying to achieve it often results in future benefits or break throughs.  Any constructive criticism you are willing to send my way is greatly appreciated.  Good day and may God bless you all!

Entering the Great Unknown

When the truth of God’s Word or a blunt reply from an honest friend, cuts to the heart, I find it difficult to initially accept their message.  A primal spirit joined by stubbornness make it hard for me to embrace the error of my way.  As a result, I am entering the great unknown in obscurity, far removed from friendships of the past.

The transition from adolescence into adulthood can be hindered or eased depending upon your status.  Dinner parties, gatherings and social events give individuals an opportunity to boast of their recent accomplishments or hide behind the great unknown.  Doctors, engineers and managers tend to flaunt their confidence unwittingly.  Meanwhile, the silence of the other guests speak volumes, embarrassed by their resumes, salaries or a combination of both.  Thus, these humble souls are eager to venture into the great unknown, hoping the future is better than their past and present circumstances.

While online fortune tellers claim they can reveal your future for a mere $20 bill, only God the Father knows what the great unknown holds.  Fortune cookies may give you a laugh or a series of so called lucky numbers, yet inside these treats are hollow, empty of any significant substance.  Therefore, as you start tomorrow, walking through an open door or driving toward a clear passage, take Jesus with you on this journey, serving as your mediator, 1 Timothy 2:5, as you enter into the great unknown!

by Jay Mankus

Forecasting the Weather: Snow

As winter approaches each year, cable news channels have a different interpretation of exactly how much precipitation will fall.  Although they use identical or similar weather doppler systems, so called weather experts regularly make gaurantees at a 25% success rate.  One thing is sure: either their computers are malfunctioning, they are embellishing their projection to promote television ratings while creating a mass hysteria at local grocery and hardware stores fighting for the last loaf of bread and shovel in town or they don’t have a clue to what they are doing.

Farmers rely on their almanac to determine what to plant and when each season.  Financial experts watch the markets to see what is trending up and down.  Professional athletes listen to their strength and conditioning coaches as well as their bodies when they are hurt.  However, sometimes, the best answer is, “I don’t know!”  In an ever increasing world of cynicism, people are looking for a voice of reason.  Someone who will man up when they are wrong, show humility when they were right and be honest when they don’t have a clue!  For now I will stay optimistic, but pay attention because the next forecast for snow is right around the corner.  Maybe you’ll find an honest weather man.

by Jay Mankus