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The Message Behind the Music-March 16

Inspiration Behind Fancy:

Bobby Gentry was the original writer of the country song Fancy. However, when Reba McEntire performed her version of this song, Fancy became a household name. The lyrics tell the story of a poor mother’s last act of generosity to give her daughter Fancy a chance for success in the future. Fancy’s theme points to sacrifices made so made by parents so that their children might be able to realize the American dream.

Biblical Application:

Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each of you should give what you have decided in your heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver, 2 Corinthians 9:6-7.

Exegesis of Fancy:

Well, I remember it all very well looking back
It was the summer I turned 18
We lived in a one-room, rundown shack on the outskirts of New Orleans
We didn’t have money for food or rent
To say the least, we were hard-pressed
Then mama spent every last penny we had to buy me a dancing dress

A teenager girl remembers a special moment from her childhood. Fancy’s mom wanted her prom night to be special, saving everything she had to buy a dress.

Well, Mama washed and combed and curled my hair
Then she painted my eyes and lips (lips)
Then I stepped into a satin dancing dress
That had a split on the side clean up to my hip
It was red velvet trim and it had fit me good
Well, standing back from the looking glass
There stood a woman where a half-grown kid had stood

Fancy’s mom did everything in her power to make this evening the best night of her life.

She said, “Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down”
She said, “Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down”

Fancy;s mother wanted her girl to make her proud.

Mama dabbed a little bit of perfume on my neck
Then she kissed my cheek
And then I saw the tears welling up in her troubled eyes
As she started to speak
She looked at our pitiful shack
And then she looked at me and took a ragged breath
She said, “Your Pa’s runned off, and I’m real sick
And the baby’s gonna starve to death”

Fancy’s dad took off, her mom is about to die and her younger sibling doesn’t have enough income to eat.

She handed me a heart-shaped locket that said
“To thine own self be true”
And I shivered as I watched a roach crawl across
The toe of my high-heeled shoe
It sounded like somebody else that was talking
Asking Mama, “What do I do?”
She said, “Just be nice to the gentlemen, Fancy they’ll be nice to you”

Fancy’s mother provides advice for her date.

She said, “Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down
Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down
Lord, forgive me for what I do
But if you want out, well, it’s up to you
Now don’t let me down now
Your Mama’s gonna move you uptown”

This mom’s dying wish is to make her mama proud, to find a man who will provide her Fancy better than her husband.

Well, that was the last time I saw my Ma
The night I left that rickety shack
The welfare people came and took the baby
Mama died and I ain’t been back
But the wheels of fate had started to turn
And for me, there was no way out
It wasn’t very long until I knew exactly
What my Mama’d been talking about

Through this tragic event, Fancy began to realize what her mom was trying to say.

I knew what I had to do, and I made myself this solemn vow
That I was gonna be a lady someday
Though I didn’t know when or how
But I couldn’t see spending the rest of my life
With my head hung down in shame
You know, I might’ve been born just plain white trash
But Fancy was my name

Instead of feeling sorry for herself, Fancy decided to make something out of her life.

She said, “Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down”
She said, “Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down”

The memory of Mom’s word motivated Fancy to be successful in life.

It wasn’t long after a benevolent man took me in off the streets
And one week later, I was pouring his tea
In a five-room hotel suite (yes, she was)
I charmed a king, congressman and an occasional aristocrat
Then I got me a Georgia mansion
And an elegant New York townhouse flat
And I ain’t done bad (she ain’t done bad)

This positive mindset led to good fortune. Fancy’s drive to make her mother proud paid off.

Now in this world
There’s a lot of self-righteous hypocrites that call me bad (bad)
They criticize Mama for turning me out, no matter how little we had
But though I ain’t had to worry about nothing for nigh on 15 years
Well, I can still hear the desperation
In my poor Mama’s voice ringing in my ears

Despite reaching new heights, the elite don’t like Fancy’s elevated status. This doesn’t bother Fancy, holding true to what her mother taught her.

“Here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down
Oh, here’s your one chance, Fancy, don’t let me down
Lord, forgive me for what I do
But if you want out, well, it’s up to you
Now don’t let me down, hon’
Your Mama’s gonna move you uptown”
Oh, and I guess she did

When one or more parents believe in their children. girls like Fancy often end up living prosperous and successful lives. The support from mothers instill belief and confidence in their children.

Final Thoughts:

My father was an immigrant to America after World War II. Subsequently, my parents lived paycheck to paycheck when I was a child. My parents did the best that they could until my father relocated to Delaware. While my parents weren’t perfect, they did everything in their power to ensure that my 2 older sisters and I had a foundation for success in the future. Happiness isn’t about money. Happiness comes from doing and working in positions that you were designed by God to do.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 15

Inspiration Behind Because of You:

As a child, Kelly Clarkson witnessed her parents’ marriage fall apart, resulting in divorce. Kelly took this emotional turmoil and her pain, turning this into a song by age 16. David Hodges and Ben Moody took Kelly’s rough draft and fine-tuned Because of You’s sound and lyrics. Kelly’s desire was to avoid making the same mistakes as her parents, wanting to persevere her own marriage.

Biblical Application:

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[b] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself, Ephesians 5:25-28.

Exegesis of Because of You:

I will not make the same mistakes that you did
I will not let myself ’cause my heart so much misery
I will not break the way you did
You fell so hard
I’ve learned the hard way, to never let it get that far

Kelly developed a desire to not follow in her parents’ footsteps. She made it her ambition if she ever got married to never let a relationship spiral that far out of control.

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side, so I don’t get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

Because of your divorce, I try to stay out of trouble. Because of what I witnessed, I play it safe to avoid getting hurt. Unfortunately, Kelly struggled with trusting others due to her parents’ divorce.

I lose my way
And it’s not too long before you point it out
I cannot cry
Because I know that’s weakness in your eyes
I’m forced to fake a smile, a laugh
Every day of my life
My heart can’t possibly break
When it wasn’t even whole to start with

The atmosphere inside her childhood home was tough. Wrongdoing was pointed out immediately. Meanwhile, crying was not accepted, a sign of weakness. Kelly learned to be fake around her parents to avoid getting disciplined.

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side, so I don’t get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

This chorus points to what Kelly learned as a child to stay out of trouble. This also reveals the emotional scars from her childhood as well.

I watched you die (I watched you die)
I heard you cry
Every night in your sleep
I was so young (and you’re so young)
You should have known better (I was too young for you)
Than to lean on me

This marriage resulted in tears and dying inside. Kelly thinks her mom was too young for marriage, not mature enough to handle raising a child.

You never thought of anyone else
You just saw your pain (you never saw me)
And now I cry
In the middle of the night
For the same damn thing

Self-absorbed individuals can become consumed by their own pain that people around them go unnoticed. Kelly recalls nights crying herself to sleep.

Because of you
I never stray too far from the sidewalk
Because of you
I learned to play on the safe side so I don’t get hurt
Because of you
I find it hard to trust not only me, but everyone around me
Because of you
I am afraid

The side effects of growing up in a broken home are highlighted in this final chorus, creating fear within Kelly.

Because of you
Because of you

You either refers to Kelly’s mom or dad. This is how you affected my life.

Final Thoughts:

I once taught a high school Sunday school class. Every other week, the attendance was only a few students. By the end of my first month teaching, I realized that majority of my students were altering homes every other weekend. Despite being raised in a Christian home, the majority of my class grew up in broken homes, shattered by divorce. This is what happens when couples don’t possess to a will to love one another.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 12

Inspiration Behind the House That Built Me:

The House That Built Me was conceived from personal experiences by Miranda Lambert and Allen Shamblin. This song was co-written by Tom Douglas and Allen Shamblin. These childhood memories combined with Lambert’s emotional response to the completed lyrics led Miranda to record this song for herself.

Biblical Application:

The proverbs of Solomon son of David, king of Israel: for gaining wisdom and instruction; for understanding words of insight; for receiving instruction in prudent behavior, doing what is right and just and fair;for giving prudence to those who are simple,[a] knowledge and discretion to the young—let the wise listen and add to their learning, and let the discerning get guidance—for understanding proverbs and parables, the sayings and riddles of the wise.[b] The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools[c] despise wisdom and instruction, Proverbs 1:1-7.

Exegesis of the House That Built Me:

I know they say you can’t go home again
I just had to come back one last time
Ma’am, I know you don’t know me from Adam
But these hand prints on the front steps are mine

Adults sometimes want to revisit their childhood by going back to where they grew up. Miranda wanted to walk through the house she grew up in one last time.

Up those stairs in that little back bedroom
Is where I did my homework and I learned to play guitar
And I bet you didn’t know under that live oak
My favourite dog is buried in the yard

With each step, memories flowed from her mind. Especially the tree where her favorite dog was buried.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
This brokenness inside me might start healing
Out here, it’s like I’m someone else
I thought that maybe I could find myself

These memories weren’t all positive. This home was associated with pain and suffering. Miranda thought that returning one more time would bring healing.

If I could just come in, I swear I’ll leave
Won’t take nothin’ but a memory
From the house that built me

The time spent living in this house helped shape who Miranda has become as an adult.

Momma cut out pictures of houses for years
From better homes and garden magazine
Plans were drawn and concrete poured
Nail by nail and board by board
Daddy gave life to momma’s dream

Although her parents didn’t have much, they did the best that they could.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
This brokenness inside me might start healing
Out here, it’s like I’m someone else
I thought that maybe I could find myself

Going back in time doesn’t always help. Brokenness takes time to heal, often longer than you expect.

If I could just come in, I swear I’ll leave
Won’t take nothin’ but a memory
From the house that built me

Miranda begs the current owners for one last chance to walk back in time.

You leave home, you move on
And you do the best you can
I got lost in this whole world
And forgot who I am

Miranda got so caught up in her busy schedule that she lost her way, forgetting who she was.

I thought if I could touch this place or feel it
This brokenness inside me might start healing
Out here, it’s like I’m someone else
I thought that maybe I could find myself

This visit didn’t produce the outcome that Miranda was hoping for.

If I could walk around, I swear I’ll leave
Won’t take nothin’ but a memory
From the house that built me

If these walls could speak, they would share the life lessons Miranda learned while growing up in this house.

Final Thoughts:

As an adult, I still have a photographic memory, able to recall fond memories. Growing up in New Jersey, I can remember my first homerun in baseball and being laughed out for not being able to read out loud in first grade due to severe stuttering. These are past events that helped shape me as an adult. The tougher the pain, the greater the opportunity for personal growth. These are the events that build and shape human beings.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 7

Inspiration Behind Can’t Live Without:

This song was inspired by Hollyn’s search for divine love. Unfortunately, this invisible force comes and goes like the wind. As Hollyn struggles to find clarity and direction in life, she realizes that she can’t live without God. Despite being a contestant on American Idol season 12, Hollyn has remained grounded in her faith as she searches for a spiritual connection with God.

Biblical Application:

“I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit he prunes[a] so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, as I also remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me, John 15:1-4.

Exegesis of Can’t Live Without:

California drivin’ had to get out
Distance got me wonderin’ where you are right now
One-way conversations got me worn down
Pouring out my heart wish you would speak a sound

Hollyn appears to reach a breaking point due to the traffic in California. Hollyn feels lost without a nearby support group or family. The people she does see on a regular basis are so self-absorbed that she is ready for a change. These are the circumstances which led her to reach out to God for help.

I don’t know what I’m after
I don’t know what I’m doin’-doin’
I don’t know what I’m after
All I know is I’m lost
I don’t know what I’m after
I don’t know what I’m doin’-doin’
I don’t know what I’m after
All I know is I’m lost

Hollyn’s is searching for clarity, direction and vision for her future. Everything that Hollyn is currently doing seems pointless, losing her way in life.

Without your love
There’s no point in even wakin’ up
No, no, no, no
Without your love
Nothing’s ever gonna be enough
No, no, no, no, no, no
I can’t, I can’t get you outta my head
And I don’t, I don’t wanna ever forget
You give me what the world could never give
I can’t live without your love

What Hollyn realizes is that she is lost without the love of God. Hollyn is experiencing a void in her life, something that she tried to fill with earthly pleasures, but nothing satisfied her spiritual longing.

I can’t live without your love
I can’t live without your-

Perhaps Hollyn is referencing the words of one of Jesus; disciples in 2 Peter 1:3-4. Missing the presence of the Holy Spirit.

Starin’ at the ceiling after midnight
Over-thinkin’ everything in my whole life
All of these regrets are clouding my mind
Lord, I need the strength to try it one more time

Hollyn appears to be overanalyzing her day. Instead of focusing on the positive, she is beating herself up internally, filled with regret. During these sleepless nights, she is asking God for help in prayer.

‘Cause now I know what I’m after
Now I know what I’m doin’-doin’
Now I know what I’m after
Now I know that I’m lost
Now I know what I’m after
Now I know what I’m doin’-doin’
Now I know what I’m after
Now I know that I’m lost

This plea for God’s help has cleared her mind. Now Hollyn is back on the right track after experiencing her own prodigal daughter journey.

Without your love
There’s no point in even wakin’ up
No, no, no, no
Without your love
Nothing’s ever gonna be enough
No, no, no, no, no, no
I can’t, I can’t get you outta my head
And I don’t, I don’t wanna ever forget
You give me what the world could never give
I can’t live without your love

Hollyn can sense the difference in her life when God is a priority and when other things become more important in life.

I can’t live without your love
I can’t live without your-

Hollyn’s life is empty without a personal relationship with God.

Some people gotta lose it all
To find out what they really want
Some people gotta lose it all
To find out what they really want
What I want is you

Like the prodigal son who squandered all of his inherited wealth, you have to rock bottom until you realize what you really want in life.

Some people gotta lose it all (what I want is you)
Some people gotta lose it all (what I want is you)
Some people gotta lose it all (what I want is you)
Some people gotta lose it all (what I want is you)
What I want is you
What I want is you
I can’t live without your-
What I want is you
I can’t live without your-
Can’t live without it

When your family and friends are no longer close, God is still there. Hollyn had to learn this life lesson the hard way.

Final Thoughts:

Can’t Live Without is Hollyn’s redemption story. Life is filled with countless distractions that led individuals down the highway to hell. Yet, when you come to your senses, no longer under the chains of addiction or depression, restoration is made possible. This is what Hollyn discovered on her spiritual journey.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 6

Inspiration Behind All Around You:

Back in the days when My Space was one of the top social media platforms, Lacey Sturm sent out a poll to her followers. This question asked who they would like to meet the most in life? The number one response was surprisingly God. Subsequently, Lacey wrote a song to capture the feeling of God’s omnipresence on earth. All Around Me highlights how meeting God in person would become a transformational event.

Biblical Application:

Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed. 36 Simon and his companions went to look for him, 37 and when they found him, they exclaimed: “Everyone is looking for you!” 38 Jesus replied, “Let us go somewhere else—to the nearby villages—so I can preach there also. That is why I have come.” 39 So he traveled throughout Galilee, preaching in their synagogues and driving out demons, Mark 1:35-39.

Exegesis of All Around Me:

My hands are searching for you
My arms are outstretched towards you
I feel you on my fingertips
My tongue dances behind my lips for you
This fire runs in through my being
Burning, I’m not used to seeing you

Lacey appears to begin her search for God in prayer. Although she doesn’t seem to be on her knees, Lacey is reaching out to the heavens, hoping to be touched by God. The lyrics at the end of this opening stanza expresses Lacey’s hunger and passion to meet God.

I’m still alive
I’m still alive

Either Lacey is talking about being alive or God declares that He is alive.

I can feel you all around me
Thickening the air I’m breathing
Holding on to all I’m feeling
Savoring this heart that’s healing

Lacey reveals the reason for this search for God, to heal her heart from a painful event in the past.

My hands float up above me
And you whisper you love me
And I begin to fade
Into our secret place
The music makes me sway
The angels singing say
“We are alone with you”
I am alone and they are too with you

Lacey reveals a spiritual encounter with God. After hearing a small still voice, a chorus of angels enter with a message of assurance that God’s presence is all around Lacey.

I’m still alive
I’m still alive
We’re still alive

Lacey, God and the angels are alive and well.

And I can feel you all around me
Thickening the air I’m breathing
Holding on to what I’m feeling
Savoring this heart that’s healing

Lacey can know feel and sense God’s presence after her encounter with an invisible God.

So I cry, holy
The light is white, holy
And I see you, holy

Lacey is overwhelmed with joy.

I’m alive
I’m still alive
We’re still alive

Excited to know the angels and God are all around her.

And I can feel you all around me
Thickening the air I’m breathing
Holding on to all I’m feeling
Savoring this heart that’s healing

Lacey is starting to experience a spiritual transformation as her heart is healing.

Take my hand, I give it to you
Now you own me all I am
You said you would never leave me
I believe you, I believe

Lacey is now placing her faith and trust in God.

I can feel you all around me
Thickening the air I’m breathing
Holding on to all I’m feeling
Savoring this heart that’s healed

Lacey believes that God will heal her heart and continue to watch over her life.

Final Thoughts:

My high school swim coach gave me an extra ticket to hear professional athletes from Philadelphia share about their faith. Like Lacey’s encounter with God, I was waiting to hear something earth shattering. Unfortunately, no one moved my soul until a man rolled up to the microphone in a wheelchair. After initially thinking, “what can this man share with me,” I began to be filled with the same burning passion that consumed Lacey. Skip spoke with a maturity that was foreign to me. Despite losing thousands of full scholarships to college following a water-skiing accident in high school, Skip had something inside of him that was missing from my life. Subsequently, before this night was over, I had my first encounter with God, asking Jesus to come into my heart. This is my testimony that God is all around me.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 5

Inspiration Behind Material Girl:

Madonna’s Material Girl was inspired by the rapid spread of materialism in the 1980’s. Although Madonna possessed an internal desire for luxury and wealth, she addresses the superficial nature of people giving expensive gifts for something in return. After graduating from high school in Rochester, Michigan, Madonna moved to New York City to follow her dreams. The success of Material Girl propelled Madonna to become a legendary female singer.

Biblical Application:

Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you,” Hebrews 13:4-5.

Exegesis of Material Girl:

Some boys kiss me, some boys hug me
I think they’re okay
If they don’t give me proper credit
I just walk away

Madonna doesn’t mind attention from the opposite sex. However, when she doesn’t receive a certain level of respect, she simply walks away.

They can beg and they can plead
But they can’t see the light, that’s right, that’s right
‘Cause the boy with the cold hard cash
Is always Mister Right

Madonna isn’t bothered by flattery or gifts. Yet someone with financial stability in his bank account is what Madonna is searching for.

‘Cause we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl
You know that we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl

Living in New York City as an aspiring singer wasn’t easy for Madonna. Subsequently, she became a material girl living in a world full of materialism.

Some boys romance, some boys slow dance
That’s alright with me
If they can’t raise my interest then I
Have to let them be

Madonna enjoys dancing and romance. However, the guy she is looking for must be impressive or else she’ll lose interest quickly.

Some boys try and some boys lie but
I don’t let them play, no way, no way
Only boys that save their pennies
Make my rainy day

Madonna doesn’t have any patience for liars and players. She is looking for prudent and shrewd individuals who possess a vision for the future.

‘Cause they are living in a material world
And I am a material girl
You know that we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl

Madonna had an intuition that material possessions would continue to climb in value, making this lifestyle hard to sustain.

Living in a material world
(Material)
Living in a material world
Living in a material world
(Material)
Living in a material world

This chorus drives home the foresight of being financially responsible.

Boys may come and boys may go
And that’s alright you see
Experience has made me rich
And now they’re after me

Life experiences have made Madonna popular and wealthy.

‘Cause everybody’s living in a material world
And I am a material girl
You know that we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl

This journey as a material girl elevated Madonna into the category of rich and famous.

Living in a material world
And I am a material girl
You know that we are living in a material world
And I am a material girl

Perhaps this repetitive chorus is meant to reinforce Madonna rise in pop culture.

A material, a material
A material, a material world

Once you reach this status of a material girl, the world expects you to stay here.

Living in a material world
(Material)
Living in a material world
Living in a material world
(Material)
Living in a material world

This became Madonna’s mindset.

Living in a material world
(Material)
Living in a material world
Living in a material world
(Material)
Living in a material world

Fame and fortune changed Madonna.

Final Thoughts:

As I entered high school, Madonna was seeking to become to next great female singer. Along the way to the top, Madonna continued to push the envelope in her lyrics and music videos. By the time I graduated from college, Madonna had gone off the deep end, losing touch with the Catholic girl growing up in Michigan. God gives human beings free will to do and live as they choose. Maybe, God willing, this prodigal daughter will come to her senses at some time before her singing career ends. As for now, Madonna has become the material girl from this song.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-March 1: Celebrating Woman’s History Month by featuring Female Bands and Vocalists

Inspiration Behind Girls Just Want to Have Fun:

In a documentary entitled “Let the Canary Sing,” Cyndi Lauper initially rejected a request from her producer to sing Girl’s Just Want to Have Fun. This song was too masculine in its original version. Subsequently, Lauper refused to perform this song as is, leaning on her team of musicians to alter Girls Just Want to Have Fun. After recording a demo, Cyndi still wasn’t happy as she felt this song was missing something. Once Lauper realized this song’s arrangement could be made unique, she used her voice to hit different keys to take on a totally different sound. This alteration enabled Cyndi Lauper to become who she really is as a singer.

Biblical Application:

A person can do nothing better than to eat and drink and find satisfaction in their own toil. This too, I see, is from the hand of God, 25 for without him, who can eat or find enjoyment? – Ecclesiastes 2:24-25

Exegesis of Girls Just Want to Have Fun:

I come home, in the mornin’ light
My mother says, “When you gonna live your life right?”
Oh momma dear, we’re not the fortunate ones
And girls, they wanna have fun
Oh girls just wanna have fun

Cyndi was fighting the stereotypes of woman back in the 1980’s. There was a time in America where woman were expected to get married, have children and stay home to raise them. This is the mindset her mother was coming from. However, Cyndi was simply looking for a good time each day.

The phone rings, in the middle of the night
My father yells, “What you gonna do with your life?”
Oh daddy dear, you know you’re still number one
But girls, they wanna have fun
Oh girls just wanna have

Cyndi’s father shared at similar worldview of the role of women in society. Cyndi still loves and respects her father, but she isn’t afraid to express what she is feeling.

That’s all they really want
Some fun
When the workin’ day is done
Oh girls, they wanna have fun
Oh girls just wanna have fun (girls, they want)
(Wanna have fun, girls)
(Wanna have)

Following societal expectations for women may be fine for most, but Cyndi was a rebel, wanting to unwind after work. Spending time in some form of recreation helps renew your soul.

Some boys take a beautiful girl
And hide her away from the rest o’ the world
I wanna be the one to walk in the sun
Oh girls, they wanna have fun
Oh girls just wanna have

Cyndi doesn’t want to spend most of her life at home in a kitchen. She enjoys being outside, doing something fun in the sun.

That’s all they really want
Is some fun
When the workin’ day is done
Oh girls, they wanna have fun
Oh girls just wanna have fun (girls, they want)
(Wanna have fun, girls)
(Wanna have)

Cyndi is attempting to vocalize what many women think but are afraid to verbalize it.

They just want, they just wanna (girls)
They just want, they just wanna (girls just wanna have fun)
Oh girls, girls just wanna have fun
(Just want, they just wanna)
They just wanna, they just wanna (girls)
They just want, they just wanna (girls just wanna have fun)
Oh girls, girls just wanna have fun

The thought of working a typical 9-5 job bored Cyndi. She wanted to do something that would be fun and exciting. Cyndi was a visionary before social media existed.

When the workin’
When the workin’ day is done
Oh, when the workin’ day is done
Oh, girls, girls just wanna have fun
Everybody
Huh, huh

Going out to a bar or club dancing after worked seemed fun to Cyndi.

They just want, they just wanna (girls)
They just want, they just wanna (girls just wanna have fun)
Oh, girls, girls just wanna have fun
(They just wanna, they just wanna) when the workin’
When the working day is done (they just want, they just wanna)
Oh, when the working day is done (girls, girls just wanna have fun)
Oh girls, girls just wanna have fun

Women aren’t wired like men. Subsequently, what is fun for women may not be enjoyable for men.

(They just want, they just wanna)
(They just want, they just wanna)

Still, the girl inside of every woman just wants to have fun.

Final Thoughts:

My mother sacrificed the first 20 years of marriage raising 3 children, with me being the last. Once I reached high school, my mom began to excel in Real Estate. Meanwhile, she also could have been a professor bowler, averaging 165 per game bowling twice a week when the top women in the world were averaging 175 per game. Human beings make sacrifices throughout life to help family, friends and members of their community. However, when you find an occupation that you enjoy and excel in, you can have fun every day doing what you love.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-February 28

Inspiration Behind Whatever It Takes:

Lead singer Jason Wade leans on his own personal experiences from past relationships to write Whatever It Takes. Whether you’re still young or older, most people learn via trial and error, trying to avoid making the same mistakes in future relationships. Whatever It Takes provides hope to individuals searching for redemption, following the mantra to do whatever it takes to save a relationship.

Biblical Application:

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you, Ephesians 4:29-32.

Exegesis of Whatever It Takes:

A strangled smile fell from your face
It kills me that I hurt you this way
The worst part is that I didn’t even know
Now, there’s a million reasons for you to go
But if you can find a reason to stay

Jason hurt someone special in his life. Perhaps Jason wasn’t mature enough at this time to realize what he was doing was wrong. Now he is scrambling, humble and begging for her to stay.

I’ll do whatever it takes to turn this around
I know what’s at stake, I know that I’ve let you down
And if you give me a chance, believe that I can change
I’ll keep us together whatever it takes

Jason is asking for a second chance, willing to do whatever it takes to save this relationship.

She said, “If we’re gonna make this work
You gotta let me inside even though it hurts
Don’t hide the broken parts that I need to see”
She said, “Like it or not, it’s the way it’s gotta be
You gotta love yourself if you can ever love me”

Jason was holding his feelings inside. She is asking Jason to become vulnerable. Jason appears to be struggling to forgive himself for something he did in the past. She realizes that Jason needs to learn to forgive himself before he can learn to love.

I’ll do whatever it takes to turn this around
I know what’s at stake, I know that I’ve let you down
And if you give me a chance and give me a break
I’ll keep us together, I know you deserve much better

Jason is willing to change. By learning to forgive and love himself, he’ll be better prepared to love others.

But remember the time I told you the way that I felt
That I’d be lost without you and never find myself
Let’s hold on to each other above everything else
Start over, start over

Jason wants to start over, to love each other like the beginning of their relationship.

I’ll do whatever it takes to turn this around
I know what’s at stake, I know that I’ve let you down
And if you give me a chance, believe that I can change
I’ll keep us together whatever it takes

Jason doesn’t what this to end like previous relationships. He is all in, eager to do whatever it takes if given a second chance.

Final Thoughts:

There is an apathy that exists in current relationships with few individuals willing to go the extra mile to save a relationship on the rocks. However, when people become open to loving others like Jesus, you’ll be given a second chance to make love last this time. When you develop a whatever it takes mentality, marriages can survive and blossom today.

by Jay Mankus

The Message Behind the Music-February 25

Inspiration Behind We Belong Together:

Sometimes relationship end out of anger, bitterness or a lack of appreciation of the person you were with. As Mariah reflects upon previous relationships in her life, the value of a lost love is at the heart of We Belong Together. This songs creation was a collaboration between producers Jermaine Dupri, Manuel Seal and Johnta Austin who blended R & B together with pop elements.

Biblical Application:

“Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven. 38 Give, and it will be given to you. A good measure, pressed down, shaken together and running over, will be poured into your lap. For with the measure you use, it will be measured to you,” Luke 6:37-39.

Exegesis of We Belong Together:

Ooh, oh, ooh, oh
Sweet love, yeah

Based upon the opening of this video, Mariah is thinking about the sexual nature of love.

I didn’t mean it
When I said I didn’t love you, so
I should have held on tight
I never shoulda let you go

Mariah regrets breaking up with an old boyfriend, using this stanza as an apology.

I didn’t know nothing
I was stupid, I was foolish
I was lying to myself

Mariah was too immature to realize what she had in this former relationship.

I could not fathom that I would ever
Be without your love
Never imagined I’d be
Sitting here beside myself

Mariah took this relationship for granted, expecting that they would always be together.

Cause I didn’t know you
Cause I didn’t know me
But I thought I knew everything
I never felt

Mariah didn’t know what she was looking for in a man. Arrogant and unteachable at this time in life.

The feeling that I’m feeling
Now that I don’t hear your voice
Or have your touch and kiss your lips
Cause I don’t have a choice

Mariah is lonely, suffering from physical withdraw of not having him around to touch.

Oh, what I wouldn’t give
To have you lying by my side
Right here,? cause baby

Mariah is asking for a second chance, wishing she could go back in time to change past decisions.

When you left I lost a part of me
It’s still so hard to believe
Come back baby, please
Cause we belong together

Mariah is experiencing the pain of soul ties, lost intimacy with her old boyfriend.

Who else am I gon’ lean on
When times get rough?
Who’s gonna talk to me on the phone
Till the sun comes up?
Who’s gonna take your place?
There ain’t nobody better
Oh, baby baby, we belong together

Mariah feels lost without her former security blanket.

I can’t sleep at night
When you are on my mind
Bobby Womack’s on the radio
Saying to me

Special songs of this past relationship keep reminding Mariah of what she once had.

“If you think you’re lonely now”
Wait a minute
This is too deep
(Too deep)
I gotta change the station

Depression is leading Mariah to dwell too much on the past instead of looking forward to the future.

So I turn the dial
Trying to catch a break
And then I hear Babyface
“I only think of you”

Mariah can’t get her former love off her mind.

And it’s breaking my heart
I’m trying to keep it together
But I’m falling apart

Mariah is falling into a deep depression, unable to recover from this broken relationship.

I’m feeling all out of my element
I’m throwing things, crying
Trying to figure out
Where the hell I went wrong

Mariah is mad at yourself for breaking off this relationship as if to say,” what was I thinking?”

The pain reflected in this song
It ain’t even half of what
I’m feeling inside
I need you, need you back in my life, baby

Words can’t express how much I miss you.

When you left I lost a part of me
And it’s still so hard to believe
Come back baby, please
Cause we belong together

Lost intimacy is driving Mariah crazy, begging for a second chance.

Who else am I gon’ lean on
When times get rough?
Who’s gonna talk to me on the phone
Till the sun comes up?
Who’s gonna take your place?
There ain’t nobody better
Oh, baby baby, we belong together, baby

In Mariah’s mind, no one compares to her former love.

When you left I lost a part of me
It’s still so hard to believe
Come back baby, please
Cause we belong together

Life is not the same without you.

Who am I gonna lean on
When times get rough?
Who’s gonna talk to me
Till the sun comes up?
Who’s gonna take your place?
There ain’t nobody better
Oh baby, baby
We belong together

A final plea to come back.

Final Thoughts:

Love is often timing, meeting the right person at the right time when you are both single. Yet immaturity and pride can lead couples to separate. One thing missing from the lyrics is an apology. Mariah doesn’t ask for forgiveness. Perhaps, being a famous singer, telling someone that we belong together is enough. While forgiveness is a crucial step, forgiving and forgetting the pain that someone caused is even harder to overcome. Perhaps, this is the final hurdle for this couple to clear before being reunited.

by Jay M ankus

The Message Behind the Music-February 24

Inspiration Behind I’d Rather Love to See You Tonight:

Dan and John Ford Coley were searching for the featured song for their new album entitled Nights are Forever. At the time of this collaboration, there was a desire within one or both to rekindle ties with a former companion. The major forms of communication back in the 1970’s was either through a phone call or writing a letter. Opting to go with calling, this sets the tone for an icebreaker to ease any tensions about meeting. I’d Really Love to See You Tonight’s realistic tone gives individuals with similar desires hope that reconnecting with an old flame is possible.

Biblical Application:

“Have faith in God,” Jesus answered. 23 “Truly[f] I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them. 24 Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. 25 And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins,” Mark 11:22-25.

Exegesis of I’d Really Love to See You Tonight:

Hello, yeah, it’s been a while
Not much, how about you?
I’m not sure why I called
I guess I really just wanted to talk to you

These brothers use a generic opener to start an awkward conversation. Since this woman was on one of their minds, a chance was taken to see if meeting is possible.

And I was thinking maybe later on
We could get together for a while
It’s been such a long time
And I really do miss your smile

There is an internal desire to open up lines of communication. Feelings from the past haven’t gone away with the image of her special smile in his mind.

I’m not talking ’bout moving in
And I don’t wanna change your life
But there’s a warm wind blowing the stars around
And I’d really love to see you tonight

He is not looking to get back together or alter her current life. He just wants to meet.

We could go walking through a windy park
Or take a drive along the beach
Or stay at home and watch TV
You see, it really doesn’t matter much to me

I don’t care what we do, but I’m willing to do whatever you are comfortable with.

I’m not talking ’bout moving in
And I don’t wanna change your life
But there’s a warm wind blowing the stars around
And I’d really love to see you tonight

Seeing you in person is all that I want right now.

I won’t ask for promises
So you don’t have to lie
We’ve both played that game before
Say I love you then say goodbye

Dan doesn’t want a fake relationship or follow the bad habits of their past.

I’m not talking ’bout moving in (I’m not talking)
And I don’t wanna change your life
But there’s a warm wind blowing the stars around
And I’d really love to see you tonight (really love to see you tonight)

Do you have enough warmth in your heart to see me tonight.

I’m not talking ’bout moving in (I’m not talking)
And I don’t wanna change your life
But there’s a warm wind blowing the stars around
And I’d really love to see you tonight (really love to see you tonight)

Repeating this chorus has a way of driving home his desire to meet, giving him a second chance at love.

I’m not talking ’bout moving in (I’m not talking)
And I don’t wanna change your life
But there’s a warm wind blowing the stars around
And I’d really love to see you tonight (really love to see)

Perhaps Dan is trying to wear this woman down so that she eventually decides to meet.

Final Thoughts:

I only dated the same person twice once in my life. Meanwhile, there were a few people that I got together with one more time before going our separate ways. Reliving the past is a sign that your present relationships aren’t satisfying. Instead of turning to your past for happiness, you’re probably looking for love in the wrong place. If you want a second chance at love, this begins with forgiving others and forgetting the pain a past relationship broght you. If you are searching to fill a void in your life or the hole of unhappiness in your heart, consider turning to Jesus like the example in Matthew 11:28-30.

by Jay Mankus