If Three is a Crowd… Four is Absolute Chaos

The origin of the expression “three’s a crowd” comes from John Ray’s 1678 collection of English Proverbs. While Ray does not record this exact saying, he was the first to suggest this notion: “One’s too few, three too many.” As Moses recounts the life of Jacob, the Bible provides readers with the first ever Soap Opera. Sister Wives isn’t just the name of a reality show, Jacob found himself in the midst of a bitter quest for attention between Leah and Rachel and their personal maids. After studying Genesis 29-30, three maybe a crowd, but four wives brought chaos to Jacob’s life.

When Rachel saw that she bore Jacob no children, she envied her sister, and said to Jacob, Give me children, or else I will die! 2 And Jacob became very angry with Rachel and he said, Am I in God’s stead, Who has denied you children? 3 And she said, See here, take my maid Bilhah and have intercourse with her; and [when the baby comes] she shall deliver it upon my knees, that I by her may also have children. 4 And she gave him Bilhah her maid as a [secondary] wife, and Jacob had intercourse with her. 5 And Bilhah became pregnant and bore Jacob a son. 6 And Rachel said, God has judged and vindicated me, and has heard my plea and has given me a son; so she named him Dan [judged], Genesis 30:1-6.

The context of this family drama began with a promise from God to Abraham and Isaac: descendants as numerous as stars in the sky. When Jacob deceived Isaac into receiving the blessing of the first son, Leah and Rachel longed to fulfill this by having as many children as possible. The only problem was Rachel’s womb remained barren for years and Leah wasn’t able to have children for extended period of time following the birth of her third child. Subsequently, Rachel turned to her maid Bilhah as a secondary wife. Following this alternative solution, Leah tried to one up her sister by giving her maid Zilpah as a secondary wife as well. If 3 wives are a crowd, Jacob’s 4th wife resulted in a chaotic household.

When Leah saw that she had ceased to bear, she gave Zilpah her maid to Jacob as a [secondary] wife. 10 And Zilpah, Leah’s maid, bore Jacob a son. 11 Then Leah said, Victory and good fortune have come; and she named him Gad [fortune]. 12 Zilpah, Leah’s maid, bore Jacob [her] second son. 13 And Leah said, I am happy, for women will call me blessed (happy, fortunate, to be envied); and she named him Asher [happy], Genesis 30:9-13.

According to 1 Kings 11:1-3, Solomon acquired 700 wives and 300 concubines. If the one of the wisest human beings to walk the face of the earth couldn’t resist the temptation of multiple wives, Jacob opened the door for polygamy by attempting to please his four wives. While Moses doesn’t spend that much time addressing Jacob’s chaotic household, you can sense the friction between Leah and Rachel. As each sister bases their happiness by the amount of children they provide for Jacob, a dysfunctional relationship develops. As you read Moses’ summary of Jacob’s life, may you learn to be thankful for what you have and not what you don’t.

by Jay Mankus

Family Quirks

Rebekah and Laban are introduced as brother and sister by Moses in Genesis 24:29. While Moses does mention a meal at this family’s home, over the course of 5 chapters in Genesis family quirks of these siblings are revealed. Not much is known about Bethuel son of Milcah, but it appears that Bethuel passed on the generation sin of deception to his children.

But Rebekah heard what Isaac said to Esau his son; and when Esau had gone to the open country to hunt for game that he might bring it, 6 Rebekah said to Jacob her younger son, See here, I heard your father say to Esau your brother, 7 Bring me game and make me appetizing meat, so that I may eat and declare my blessing upon you before the Lord before my death. 8 So now, my son, do exactly as I command you. 9 Go now to the flock, and from it bring me two good and suitable kids; and I will make them into appetizing meat for your father, such as he loves. 10 And you shall bring it to your father, that he may eat and declare his blessing upon you before his death. 11 But Jacob said to Rebekah his mother, Listen, Esau my brother is a hairy man and I am a smooth man. 12 Suppose my father feels me; I will seem to him to be a cheat and an imposter, and I will bring [his] curse on me and not [his] blessing. 13 But his mother said to him, On me be your curse, my son; only obey my word and go, fetch them to me, Genesis 27:5-13.

The first mention of generational sins is found in the Ten Commandments, Exodus 20:5-6. This briefly interrupts Moses’ list, pointing out that God is jealous and vows to visit the iniquity of the fathers upon the children as long as 3 or 4 generations.” In this politically sensitive and woke culture, sins may be referred to as family quirks, subtle imperfections that make a family unique.

Then Jacob kissed Rachel and he wept aloud. 12 Jacob told Rachel he was her father’s relative, Rebekah’s son; and she ran and told her father. 13 When Laban heard of the arrival of Jacob his sister’s son, he ran to meet him, and embraced and kissed him and brought him to his house. And [Jacob] told Laban all these things. 14 Then Laban said to him, Surely you are my bone and my flesh. And [Jacob] stayed with him a month. 15 Then Laban said to Jacob, Just because you are my relative, should you work for me for nothing? Tell me, what shall your wages be? 16 Now Laban had two daughters; the name of the elder was Leah and the name of the younger was Rachel. 17 Leah’s eyes were weak and dull looking, but Rachel was beautiful and attractive. 18 And Jacob loved Rachel; so he said, I will work for you for seven years for Rachel your younger daughter, Genesis 29:11-18.

At some point, Laban and Rebekah were introduced to pranks and practical jokes as Moses highlights acts of deception pulled off by the children of Bethuel. Rachel deceived her own husband Isaac so that Jacob, her favorite son, would receive the blessing of the firstborn. Meanwhile, Laban is successful in getting Jacob to work for free for 14 years due to his love for Rachel. Since no family is perfect, quirks define who we currently are and who we will become.

by Jay Mankus

This Reuben is More Than a Sandwich

When it comes to tradition lunch menus, I prefer a Club Sandwich. Meanwhile, my wife Leanne enjoys a hot Reuben sandwich from time to time. However, as I was reading Moses’ summary of the life of Jacob, I stumbled upon the biblical meaning of the name Reuben. When Leah gave birth to her first child, Reuben means “see a son.” For Leah, this child gave her hope of a loving husband.

And when the Lord saw that Leah was despised, He made her able to bear children, but Rachel was barren. 32 And Leah became pregnant and bore a son and named him Reuben [See, a son!]; for she said, Because the Lord has seen my humiliation and affliction; now my husband will love me, Genesis 29:31-32.

Moses’ description of Leah reveals an average looking woman with a birth defect. Perhaps, Rachel’s amazing physical features magnified Leah’s deficiencies. Nonetheless, Leah developed a belief that if she was able to bear children, maybe Jacob would start to look at her the way he gazes upon her sister Rachel. The one thing Leah had on Rachel was the ability to bear children.

When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears, and delivers them out of all their distress and troubles. 18 The Lord is close to those who are of a broken heart and saves such as are crushed with sorrow for sin and are humbly and thoroughly penitent, Psalm 34:17-18.

As revisionist historians rewrite American textbooks, the spiritual foundation of North American in the form of the Magna Carta have been erased. Meanwhile, biblical names like Reuben have been forgotten, replaced by a popular lunch menu. However, for Leah, the birth of Reuben was an answer to prayer, “the Lord has seen my humiliation and affliction.” In the back of Leah’s mind, Reuben’s presence had the chance to transform her marriage. While this never happened, the boy named Reuben is absolutely more than a sandwich.

by Jay Mankus

Signs of a Comforting God

Whenever anyone is suffering from depression, there is a tendency to put blinders on; only seeing the negative aspects of life. From my own personal experiences as a teenager, part of me wanted sympathy from my peers. Unfortunately, I was too immature and didn’t have a personal relationship with Jesus. Subsequently, I wasn’t looking for signs from a comforting God.

And Jacob lived with Rachel also as his wife, and he loved Rachel more than Leah and served [Laban] another seven years [for her]. 31 And when the Lord saw that Leah was despised, He made her able to bear children, but Rachel was barren, Genesis 29:30-31.

Based upon the words of Moses in today’s featured passage, Leah was suffering from envy and jealousy. If you want to put her feelings into a more visual context, Rachel received Jacob’s full attention. Meanwhile, Leah was an afterthought, getting whatever energy Jacob had left over from his daily encounters with Rachel. As each day wore on, Leah began to feel dead inside her soul.

And Leah became pregnant and bore a son and named him Reuben [See, a son!]; for she said, Because the Lord has seen my humiliation and affliction; now my husband will love me. 33 [Leah] became pregnant again and bore a son and said, Because the Lord heard that I am despised, He has given me this son also; and she named him Simeon [God hears]. 34 And she became pregnant again and bore a son and said, Now this time will my husband be a companion to me, for I have borne him three sons. Therefore he was named Levi [companion]. 35 Again she conceived and bore a son, and she said, Now will I praise the Lord! So she called his name Judah [praise]; then [for a time] she ceased bearing, Genesis 29:32-35.

During this time of despair, Leah cried out to the Lord for some sort of help to endure the pain inside her heart. The first answer Leah received was in the form of a son named Reuben. From Leah’s perspective, the Lord has seen her affliction and granted her a sign of comfort. When Leah was blessed with 2 more boys, God removed her pain by replacing it with a Spirit of praise. This is one of many signs in the Bible of a comforting God.

by Jay Mankus

The Crossover Connection Week 20: Idle Cure-The Christian Version of 80’s Rock

One of my college roommates introduced me to road trips. My most memorable weekend getaways were attending retreats or serving as a member of a Lay Witness Mission church revival. Whether I was going to New Jersey, Pennsylvania, Maryland or some other state, the attached you tube album was often the cassette tape playing in my car stereo. As a big fan of rock groups like Boston, the Cars and Yes, Idle Cure has a great mix of ballads and classic rock to make the miles in any vehicle fly by.

O Lord, the Hope of Israel, all who forsake You shall be put to shame. They who depart from You and me [Your prophet] shall [disappear like] writing upon the ground, because they have forsaken the Lord, the Fountain of living waters.14 Heal me, O Lord, and I shall be healed; save me, and I shall be saved, for You are my praise, Jeremiah 17:13-14.

My favorite song on Idle Cure’s debut album relates to road trips, entitled Overdrive. This song has it all with a little bit of the Rocky IV soundtrack, a guitar solo and the fast pace to stay awake while driving at night. Like any band who is on tour for nearly decade, Idle Cure evolved with each of their 5 albums. Perhaps, to meet the changing demands of the 1990’s, Idle Cure eased up on the rock and roll to transition toward what I call Pop Rock. As a new week unfolds, I hope you have time to check out all 5 of Idle Cure’s albums on You Tube.

by Jay Mankus

The Bible’s Version of the Ultimate Gift (Not Exactly)

The Ultimate Gift was a 2006 film directed by Michael O. Sajbel. This screen play was written by Cheryl McKay, which is based on the best selling novel by Jim Stovall. Instead of receiving a typical inheritance, Jason Stevens played by Drew Fuller is forced to work for his. This begins on a ranch in Texas, unaware of how long Jason will be there or what he has to accomplish.

When Laban heard of the arrival of Jacob his sister’s son, he ran to meet him, and embraced and kissed him and brought him to his house. And [Jacob] told Laban all these things. 14 Then Laban said to him, Surely you are my bone and my flesh. And [Jacob] stayed with him a month. 15 Then Laban said to Jacob, Just because you are my relative, should you work for me for nothing? Tell me, what shall your wages be? – Genesis 29:13-15

While Jason is given a series of challenges, approximately a month a part, Jacob has to wait 7 years to receive the love of his life, Rachel. Although Moses does not explain exactly what Laban employed him for or what he did, Jacob’s 7 year courtship flew by like a day in heaven. The movie version of the Ultimate Gift was designed to mature Jason from a spoiled boy into a man.

Now Laban had two daughters; the name of the elder was Leah and the name of the younger was Rachel. 17 Leah’s eyes were weak and dull looking, but Rachel was beautiful and attractive. 18 And Jacob loved Rachel; so he said, I will work for you for seven years for Rachel your younger daughter. 19 And Laban said, It is better that I give her to you than to another man. Stay and live with me. 20 And Jacob served seven years for Rachel; and they seemed to him but a few days because of the love he had for her. 21 Finally, Jacob said to Laban, Give me my wife, for my time is completed, so that I may take her to me, Genesis 29:16-21.

The reason I added Not Exactly to the title of this blog is that Jacob ended up getting what he deserved, Galatians 6:7-8. The Lord used Laban to teach Jacob an important lesson about sowing deception. When you sow according to your sinful nature, focusing on what you want, you forget what God desires. Subsequently, he Bible’s version of the Ultimate Gift is living the abundant life, John 10:10, which is only achievable by keeping in step with the Holy Spirit, Galatians 5:25.

by Jay Mankus

Family Drama

In this age of social media, thoughts are shared daily in the form of blogs, pictures, posts, tweets, and videos. While I don’t recommend it, dirty language is shared daily which adds fuel to family drama. Before concluding the events of Isaac’s life, Moses highlights one dramatic scene in today’s featured passage. After being duped by Rebekah and Jacob, Isaac is on the verge of having a heart attacked, shocked and stunned.

And Isaac his father said to him, Who are you? And he replied, I am your son, your firstborn, Esau. 33 Then Isaac trembled and shook violently, and he said, Who? Where is he who has hunted game and brought it to me, and I ate of it all before you came and I have blessed him? Yes, and he shall be blessed, Genesis 27:32-33.

Depending upon your mood or mental state, you may overreact. If someone says the wrong thing at the wrong time, you might explode, going off on family members who push you over the edge. In this age of cellphones, videos may go viral whether you like it or not. While some You Tubes may be humorous, others are downright embarrassing, resulting in more family drama. Subsequently, the next family outing will be dicey with many on edge.

When Esau heard the words of his father, he cried out with a great and bitter cry and said to his father, Bless me, even me also, O my father! 35 [Isaac] said, Your brother came with crafty cunning and treacherous deceit and has taken your blessing. 36 [Esau] replied, Is he not rightly named Jacob [the supplanter]? For he has supplanted me these two times: he took away my birthright, and now he has taken away my blessing! Have you not still a blessing reserved for me? – Genesis 27:34-36

The apostle Paul told the Church at Galatia, “you reap what you sow,” Galatians 6:7-8. Although Jacob received the blessing that he desired, payback will come in the form of Laban. Just as Jacob deceived his father, Laban would do the same to Jacob. The rock group Ratt sings about this in Round and Round, “What comes around goes around.” To avoid family drama in the future, start sowing fruits of the Spirit, Galatians 6:22-23.

by Jay Mankus

Wanting Something More than Doing the Right Thing

The one thing I learned from growing up in the Roman Catholic Church was to follow the Golden Rule. This biblical principle comes from Jesus’ interaction with a lawyer in Matthew 22:35-40. While trying to trick Jesus into de-emphasizing one of the ten commandments, Jesus responds with two calls to action. First, love God with all your heart and second, love your neighbor as yourself. This is the golden rule: treating others as you want to be treated.

And Jacob said to his father, I am Esau your firstborn; I have done what you told me to do. Now sit up and eat of my game, so that you may proceed to bless me. 20 And Isaac said to his son, How is it that you have found the game so quickly, my son? And he said, Because the Lord your God caused it to come to me. 21 But Isaac said to Jacob, Come close to me, I beg of you, that I may feel you, my son, and know whether you really are my son Esau or not. 22 So Jacob went near to Isaac, and his father felt him and said, The voice is Jacob’s voice, but the hands are the hands of Esau. 23 He could not identify him, because his hands were hairy like his brother Esau’s hands; so he blessed him, Genesis 27:19-23.

Based upon his upbringing, Jacob was taught to be a decent human being. While Moses does mention that Esau behaved like a typical older brother, Jacob grew up to be the shy child in the family. Despite this sibling rivalry, Jacob didn’t like what his mother was planning. The more Jacob thought about Rebekah’s plan, his conscience got the best of him, fearing the worst-case scenario. From a mother’s perspective, Rebekah wanted this more than doing the right thing.

But he said, Are you really my son Esau? He answered, I am. 25 Then [Isaac] said, Bring it to me and I will eat of my son’s game, that I may bless you. He brought it to him and he ate; and he brought him wine and he drank. 26 Then his father Isaac said, Come near and kiss me, my son. 27 So he came near and kissed him; and [Isaac] smelled his clothing and blessed him and said, The scent of my son is as the odor of a field which the Lord has blessed, Genesis 27:24-27.

Like a politician who gets elected by defaming his opponent’s character with a lie, any individual who is hungry for control and power will do whatever it takes to win. Unfortunately, Rebekah’s scheme to steal Esau’s blessing has been copied, enhanced and multiplied by countless self-seeking people today. Is this due to the removal of the Ten Commandments from public places or merely the byproduct of a fallen world? Whatever the reason, maybe it’s time to reintroduce the golden rule so that doing the right thing will quench any desires to want something more.

by Jay Mankus

Follow the Script

Back in 2021, my screen writing friend Spencer and I committed to reading one famous screenplay per week. The goal and objective was to see how great writers craft award winning films. Depending upon the actors and actresses chosen for major roles, famous ones have the ability to alter and or change their dialog. If you read the screen play for I-Robot, you can tell Will Smith and the director made several changes which improved this Science Fiction movie.

Rebekah said to Jacob her younger son, See here, I heard your father say to Esau your brother, 7 Bring me game and make me appetizing meat, so that I may eat and declare my blessing upon you before the Lord before my death. 8 So now, my son, do exactly as I command you. 9 Go now to the flock, and from it bring me two good and suitable kids; and I will make them into appetizing meat for your father, such as he loves. 10 And you shall bring it to your father, that he may eat and declare his blessing upon you before his death. 11 But Jacob said to Rebekah his mother, Listen, Esau my brother is a hairy man and I am a smooth man. 12 Suppose my father feels me; I will seem to him to be a cheat and an imposter, and I will bring [his] curse on me and not [his] blessing. 13 But his mother said to him, On me be your curse, my son; only obey my word and go, fetch them to me, Genesis 27:6-13.

In today’s featured passage, Rebekah acts like a Hollywood director, going through her plan with her son Jacob. As this rehearsal plays out, the main actor begins to have second thoughts, doubting that he’ll be able follow the script. Rebekah takes charge as if to say, “if this doesn’t work, I’ll take full responsibility. ” While Moses doesn’t mention any nervousness, stuttering or sweating, Jacob follows Rebekah’s script perfectly, deceiving his father just as his mom had planned.

So [Jacob] went, got [the kids], and brought them to his mother; and his mother prepared appetizing meat with a delightful odor, such as his father loved. 15 Then Rebekah took her elder son Esau’s best clothes which were with her in the house, and put them on Jacob her younger son. 16 And she put the skins of the kids on his hands and on the smooth part of his neck. 17 And she gave the savory meat and the bread which she had prepared into the hand of her son Jacob. 18 So he went to his father and said, My father. And he said, Here am I; who are you, my son? 19 And Jacob said to his father, I am Esau your firstborn; I have done what you told me to do. Now sit up and eat of my game, so that you may proceed to bless me. 20 And Isaac said to his son, How is it that you have found the game so quickly, my son? And he said, Because the Lord your God caused it to come to me. 21 But Isaac said to Jacob, Come close to me, I beg of you, that I may feel you, my son, and know whether you really are my son Esau or not. 22 So Jacob went near to Isaac, and his father felt him and said, The voice is Jacob’s voice, but the hands are the hands of Esau. 23 He could not identify him, because his hands were hairy like his brother Esau’s hands; so he blessed him. 24 But he said, Are you really my son Esau? He answered, I am. 25 Then [Isaac] said, Bring it to me and I will eat of my son’s game, that I may bless you. He brought it to him and he ate; and he brought him wine and he drank, aGenesis 27:14-15.

There are some people who make their living on social media today, using scripted videos with the ability to go off script if necessary. Rather than working a typical 9-5 job, these creative entrepreneurs are spending their time doing what they enjoy and or love. However, like Jacob and Rebekah, sometimes you have to take chances in life. Perhaps, risking failure is an integral part of success, seeing what you’re capable of achieving and what’s beyond your abilities. Scripts serve as a boundary line with the Holy Spirit as the ultimate guide, Galatians 5:25, to lead you away from evil and toward what the Lord desires.

by Jay Mankus

Which Witch is Real

Watching the Wizard of Oz as a child introduced me to the concept of witches. Lynam Frank Baum wrote the Wonderful Wizard of Oz for children which was turned in a movie years later by writer Noel Langley. The Wizard of Oz uses free will to convey that witches can be good or evil. As I grew up, shows like Bewitched made witches less evil by using comedy. Modern series like Charm took a more serious examination of black magic, curses, and spells. This leaves me to wonder, which witch is real?

When Saul inquired of the Lord, He refused to answer him, either by dreams or by Urim [a symbol worn by the priest when seeking the will of God for Israel] or by the prophets. 7 Then Saul said to his servants, Find me a woman who is a medium [between the living and the dead], that I may go and inquire of her. His servants said, Behold, there is a woman who is a medium at Endor. 8 So Saul disguised himself, put on other raiment, and he and two men with him went and came to the woman at night. He said to her, Perceive for me by the familiar spirit and bring up for me the dead person whom I shall name to you. 9 The woman said, See here, you know what Saul has done, how he has cut off those who are mediums and wizards out of the land. Why then do you lay a trap for my life to cause my death? 10 And Saul swore to her by the Lord, saying, As the Lord lives, there shall no punishment come to you for this. 11 The woman said, Whom shall I bring up for you? He said, Bring up Samuel for me, 1 Samuei 28:6-11.

The prophet Samuel compares witches to someone similar to Whoopi Goldberg’s character in Ghost, Oda Mae Brown. The fortune teller in the Bible uses a seance to call upon the Spirit of Samuel. Based upon how the Witch of Endor reacted, she seemed surprised that this actually worked, suggesting she wasn’t always truthful to her clients. Yet, like the popular television show Crossing Over, some people do have the ability to call upon dead spirits. What’s their secret? Is it tapping into the spiritual realm mentioned in Ephesians 6:12 or have witches evolved over time?

And when the woman saw Samuel, she screamed and she said to Saul, Why have you deceived me? For you are Saul! 13 The king said to her, Be not afraid; what do you see? The woman said to Saul, I see a god [terrifying superhuman being] coming up out of the earth! 14 He said to her, In what form is he? And she said, An old man comes up, covered with a mantle. And Saul perceived that it was Samuel, and he stooped with his face to the ground and made obeisance. 15 And Samuel said to Saul, Why have you disturbed me to bring me up? Saul answered, I am bitterly distressed; for the Philistines make war against me, and God has departed from me and answers me no more, either by prophets or by dreams. Therefore I have called you, that you may make known to me what I should do. 16 Samuel said, Why then do you ask me, seeing that the Lord has turned from you and has become your enemy? 17 The Lord has done to you as He said through me He would do; for [He] has torn the kingdom out of your hands and given it to your neighbor David. 18 Because you did not obey the voice of the Lord or execute His fierce wrath upon Amalek, therefore the Lord has done this thing to you this day. 19 Moreover, the Lord will also give Israel with you into the hands of the Philistines, and tomorrow you and your sons shall be with me [among the dead]. The Lord also will give the army of Israel into the hands of the Philistines, 1 Samuel 28:12-19.

Perhaps, the best example comes from my own personal experience. When I attended the University of Delaware, there was a coven just off campus. I had heard stories but couldn’t verify these until one conversation while walking to my next class. I complemented a stranger who had the boldness to openly display and carry a Bible in her hand. This young woman’s response still strikes a nerve today: “I read it every day so that I can pray against everything in this book.” To answer my original question, God gives every human being daily choices via free will. Yet, to committed, dedicated and practicing witches, there’s a good reason why Samuel banned witchcraft to prevent curious souls from dabbling into demonic and spiritual forces of evil.

by Jay Mankus