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Avoiding Another Hagar Scenario

Forcing the issue usually doesn’t work out well in the end. Perhaps, this is what concerned Abraham about allowing Isaac to accompany Eliezer to find a future wife. Whenever something is not meant to be or not God’s will for your life, there’s a temptation to intervene to alter your destiny. This sense of desperation led Sarah to allow her maidservant Hagar to have a child with Abraham.

Abraham said to him, See to it that you do not take my son back there. The Lord, the God of heaven, Who took me from my father’s house, from the land of my family and my birth, Who spoke to me and swore to me, saying, To your offspring I will give this land—He will send His [b]Angel before you, and you will take a wife from there for my son. And if the woman should [c]not be willing to go along after you, then you will be clear from this oath; only you must not take my son back there, Genesis 24:6-8.

Whether you’re playing the role of an adult, coach, parent or teacher, anytime a child is specifically told not to do something, there’s the temptation to do the exact opposite. The apostle Paul addresses this in Romans 7:13-18. Even when God clearly lays out his expectations in Genesis 2:15-17 to Adam and Eve, the urge to cross this line comes naturally via freewill. Subsequently, Isaac is prevented from taking part in the search of his wife.

Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. She had an Egyptian maid whose name was Hagar. And Sarai said to Abram, See here, the Lord has restrained me from bearing [children]. I am asking you to have intercourse with my maid; it may be that I can obtain children by her. And Abram listened to and heeded what Sarai said. So Sarai, Abram’s wife, took Hagar her Egyptian maid, after Abram had dwelt ten years in the land of Canaan, and gave her to her husband Abram to be his [secondary] wife. And he had intercourse with Hagar, and she became pregnant; and when she saw that she was with child, she looked with contempt upon her mistress and despised her, Genesis 16:1-4.

Learning lessons from past mistakes may be painful at times, but 1 Corinthians 10:1-6 illustrates why its important to live and learn. Whenever you add desperation to human nature, minds don’t think clearly. Especially, if you’re tempted to seek an alternative solution on your own. May the passage above serve as a warning to avoid going outside of God’s will to achieve something you really want. Let go and let God lead the way.

by Jay Mankus

Curiosity and Excitement

When my son Daniel got engaged early this Spring, a sense of curiosity and excitement filled my heart. The curiosity was based upon where and when the wedding will take place. This was followed by the excitement of welcoming Anna into our family as well as looking forward to this special weekend in August. Unfortunately, most Christians don’t look at faith from the perspective of curiosity and excitement.

The girl related to her mother’s household what had happened. 29 Now Rebekah had a brother whose name was Laban, and Laban ran out to the man at the well, Genesis 24:28-29.

When Eliezer informed Rebekah’s family that he was searching for a spouse for his master’s son, a spirit of curiosity and excitement filled Rebekah’s house. Who is this Isaac? What does he look like? Where does he work and what does he like to do in his free time? These are just a few questions that family members ask before their relative gets married.

For when he saw the earring or nose ring, and the bracelets on his sister’s arms, and when he heard Rebekah his sister saying, The man said this to me, he went to the man and found him standing by the camels at the well. 31 He cried, Come in, you blessed of the Lord! Why do you stand outside? For I have made the house ready and have prepared a place for the camels, Genesis 24:30-31.

Rather than become curious and excitement for this upcoming weekend, what if Christians faced each day with a new mindset. Instead of going through the motions of a long work week, believers can start embracing each new day with an eager curiosity and passionate excitement. Perhaps, this is what Jesus meant to express in John 10:10. Living an abundant life that Jesus claims and promises to exist could become reality with a daily sense of curiosity and excitement.

by Jay Mankus

The Lord in Whose Presence I Walk

Children tend to mimic their parents. As babies begin to talk, they will pick up certain words that they hear in songs, listen to in videos or repeat expressions overheard by eavesdropping. The language and words that you speak say something about what’s going on inside your heart and mind. If you don’t agree with me, look at Luke 6:43-45 to see Jesus’ teachings on where words are conceived.

And I said to my master, But suppose the woman will not follow me. 40 And he said to me, The Lord, in Whose presence I walk [habitually], will send His [e]Angel with you and prosper your way, and you will take a wife for my son from my kindred and from my father’s house, Genesis 24:39-40.

If anyone tracked your faith over the years on a flow chart, there will be plenty of highs and lows. The master in the above passage is Abraham who learned faith the hard way. However, near the end of his life, Abraham began to follow in the footsteps of Enoch, walking and talking with God daily. As Eliezer is sent by Abraham to find Isaac a wife, he describes his master as one who walks in the presence of the Lord.

Blessed (happy, fortunate, prosperous, and enviable) is the man who walks and lives not in the counsel of the ungodly [following their advice, their plans and purposes], nor stands [submissive and inactive] in the path where sinners walk, nor sits down [to relax and rest] where the scornful [and the mockers] gather. But his delight and desire are in the law of the Lord, and on His law (the precepts, the instructions, the teachings of God) he habitually meditates (ponders and studies) by day and by night. And he shall be like a tree firmly planted [and tended] by the streams of water, ready to bring forth its fruit in its season; its leaf also shall not fade or wither; and everything he does shall prosper [and come to maturity], Psalm 1:1-3.

The Psalmist uses an analogy to highlight the blessings of walking in the presence of the Lord. In 1896 Reverend Charles Sheldon published In His Steps which went on to become a bestselling book. Sheldon is the first to record and verbalize the expression: What Would Jesus Do? If you want to learn how to walk in the Lord’s presence, this is the mindset you need to adopt. Meanwhile, when individuals begin to meditate upon and habitually study the Bible, you pick up direction, guidance and insights on walking in the Lord’s presence. As Jesus says at the conclusion of the Sermon on the Mount, “put my words into practice.”

by Jay Mankus

When You Cover Your Day in Prayer

For the first 21 years of my life, I had a tendency to repeat the same mistakes over and over again. While attending the Tentmaker’s Youth Ministry Trade School, I was taught a simple saying that has stuck with me the past 4 decades. “If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.” If you don’t cover your day in prayer, you’re either too busy or trusting in your own abilities to ward off the spiritual forces of evil that exist, Ephesians 6:12.

And the servant took ten of his master’s camels and departed, taking some of all his master’s treasures with him; thus he journeyed to Mesopotamia [between the Tigris and the Euphrates], to the city of Nahor [Abraham’s brother]. 11 And he made his camels to kneel down outside the city by a well of water at the time of the evening when women go out to draw water. 12 And he said, O Lord, God of my master Abraham, I pray You, cause me to meet with good success today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. 13 See, I stand here by the well of water, and the daughters of the men of the city are coming to draw water, Genesis 24:10-13.

Today’s featured passages reveals what can happen when you cover your day in prayer. Eliezer doesn’t trust in his own ability to impress Rebekah with his power and wealth. Rather, Eliezer meditates upon his task, finding a wife for Isaac. Sometime during this reflection, God gives Eliezer specific words to pray for and signs to confirm whether or not he is on the verge of selecting the right woman.

And let it so be that the girl to whom I say, I pray you, let down your jar that I may drink, and she replies, Drink, and I will give your camels drink also—let her be the one whom You have selected and appointed and indicated for Your servant Isaac [to be a wife to him]; and by it I shall know that You have shown kindness and faithfulness to my master. 15 Before he had finished speaking, behold, out came Rebekah, who was the daughter of Bethuel son of Milcah, who was the wife of Nahor the brother of Abraham, with her water jar on her shoulder. 16 And the girl was very beautiful and attractive, chaste and modest, and unmarried. And she went down to the well, filled her water jar, and came up, Genesis 24:14-16.

I must confess that praying is not one of my gifts or strong points. However, when I have covered my day in prayer, I have seen immediate answers to prayer as well as miracles like the healing of my sister Kathie from cancer. If I just took prayer more seriously, God would continue to open doors that I thought were previously locked. May the testimony of Eliezer inspire you to each day on earth in prayer.

by Jay Mankus

Specific Criteria for Finding a Soul Mate

One of my high school Bible classes contained a chapter on Finding your Future Soul Mate. Rather than take a unit test, students had to create a check list of all the qualities they want in a future spouse. One of my former students, Dallas, who took part in this class, used this to help narrow down the women he eventually married. One of my inspirations for this topic came from Genesis 24.

And Abraham said to the eldest servant of his house [Eliezer of Damascus], who ruled over all that he had, I beg of you, put your hand under my thigh; And you shall swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and earth, that you will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I have settled, But you shall go to my country and to my relatives and take [a]a wife for my son Isaac, Genesis 24:2-4.

While modern teenagers will definitely find this portion of the Bible old fashion, Abraham makes an important decision in this chapter. Abraham does not want Isaac to focus on physical appearances and features. Therefore, Abraham refuses to let Isaac go along with Eliezer to avoid any kind of superficial connection. Abraham’s main objective is to find someone who shares common beliefs and core values with his son.

Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him, Genesis 2:18.

From a practical perspective, one of the best qualities you can find in a future spouse are strengths which compliment your own weaknesses. Perhaps, this is what Moses is alluding to in the passage above. A suitable helper compliments areas which you are deficient in. Subsequently, young people should be searching for these qualities rather than just physical features. May this blog be beneficial in helping find a future soul mate.

by Jay Mankus

The Crossover Connection Week 14: The Kings of Punk Rock

When I was in eighth grade, certain rock bands possessed a cult following. Tee shirts from the most recent concerts were worn as a badge of honor, an allegiance to their fandom. Debates broke out daily about which band was the G.O.A.T., greatest of all time. As an entry level novice of music at this time, die hearts tried to persuade me with certain songs and classic albums to join their side. Unfortunately, I never really got excited about music until high school, using lyrics, rhythms and tunes to run faster as a cross country runner.

Now there was a certain man among the Pharisees named Nicodemus, a ruler (a leader, an authority) among the Jews,Who came to Jesus at night and said to Him, Rabbi, we know and are certain that You have come from God [as] a Teacher; for no one can do these signs (these wonderworks, these miracles—and produce the proofs) that You do unless God is with him, John 3:1-2.

During college, one Christian band spoke to my heart like Jesus spoke to Nicodemus. When one of my college roommates introduced me to the Altar Boys, I was immediately drawn to their Punk Rock. The Altar Boys is like a combination of the Clash and David Bowe with their own unique style. The Altar Boys’ Gut Level Music album made me a fan for life. The attached You Tube provides a good mix of original, classic and hardcore songs from the Altar Boys. As you listen to their music this week, I pray that the lyrics will speak to your heart like Life Begins at the Cross. Enjoy this hang banging band.

by Jay Mankus

Is This a Nightmare or is this Really Happening?

I don’t dream as much as I did as a child. However, when I do have dreams, they are often vivid. I’m not sure what causes adults to dream, but stress has led me to have nightmares in the past as if I was living a bad dream. Whenever I read the Bible, current events tend to determine what I learn or pick up from a particular passage. When I think about the words below, the apostle Paul could be talking about right now, 2023 in America.

But understand this, that in the last days will come (set in) perilous times of great stress and trouble [hard to deal with and hard to bear]. For people will be lovers of self and [utterly] self-centered, lovers of money and aroused by an inordinate [greedy] desire for wealth, proud and arrogant and contemptuous boasters. They will be abusive (blasphemous, scoffing), disobedient to parents, ungrateful, unholy and profane,2 Timothy 3:1-2.

As an optimistic individual, I try to see the positive in any given situation. Yet, the older I get, the sadder I become about the spiritual condition of America. When I was a high school Bible teacher, I could make a difference in the lives of my students. Yet now I just have this blog platform, Express Yourself 4Him to determine if what I’m experiencing is simply a nightmare or is this really happening?

[They will be] without natural [human] affection (callous and inhuman), relentless (admitting of no truce or appeasement); [they will be] slanderers (false accusers, troublemakers), intemperate and loose in morals and conduct, uncontrolled and fierce, haters of good. [They will be] treacherous [betrayers], rash, [and] inflated with self-conceit. [They will be] lovers of sensual pleasures and vain amusements more than and rather than lovers of God, 2 Timothy 3:3-4.

One of my former pastors regularly reminded his congregation that “hurt people hurt other people.” Whenever anyone tries to replace God with something else, a void grows in this person’s heart. Paul’s message to a teenage pastor named Timothy is merely the byproduct of hurt, lost and lonely souls. May the words of Jesus in Matthew 18:1-6 help convict community and political leaders. Only when America’s leaders repent and turn back to God will this current nightmare end.

by Jay Mankus

Languishing Language

Prior to Genesis 11, Moses suggests that the earth only had one language. Based upon the account of the Tower of Babel in Genesis 11:1-9, God sent a spirit of confusion upon the people who had gathered to build this great city. Without reading too much into this passage, God essentially created different languages on this one day. Thousands of years later, 7,117 languages exist today based upon the most recent data in 2023.

You shall not add to the word which I command you, neither shall you diminish it, that you may keep the commandments of the Lord your God which I command you, Deuteronomy 4:2.

If I didn’t watch cable news or scan the internet for current events, I wouldn’t have known about the current language war going on across the United States. Children in elementary school are being suspended and a few expelled for not addressing their own classmates by their preferred Pronoun. Meanwhile, parents are being kept out of the loop as confused children as receiving sex change operations without their consent.

But the [Holy] Spirit distinctly and expressly declares that in latter times some will turn away from the faith, giving attention to deluding and seducing spirits and doctrines that demons teach, Through the hypocrisy and pretensions of liars whose consciences are seared (cauterized), 1 Timothy 4:1-2.

Unless I’m mistaken, the month of Match was dedicated to Women’s History Month. According to a recent statistic, approximately 52% of the United States are female. Nearly 2% of Americans identify themselves to be trans-gender. Yet, two major companies in the United States honored men who now identify as women in March. Moses warned about not adding to or subtracting from God’s commands. The apostle Paul points to the source of languishing language: spirits of confusion and demons. May God wake up the minds of Americans up with common sense and biblical wisdom before this nation is destroyed like great empires of the past.

by Jay Mankus

Should I Stay or Should I Go Now?

The lyrics of Should I Stay or Should I Go was written in 1981. However, this Clash hit song was released on a 45 record a year later with Should I Stay or Should I Go on Side A. Meanwhile, side B wasn’t as memorable: Straight to Hell. Co-founder of the Clash and co-writer of Should I Stay or Should I Go, Mick Jones was forced to leave this band in 1983. Subsequently, there is speculation that Mick may have been contemplating this for a while.

But [Rebekah’s] brother and mother said, Let the girl stay with us a few days—at least ten; then she may go. 56 But [the servant] said to them, Do not hinder and delay me, seeing that the Lord has caused me to go prosperously on my way. Send me away, that I may go to my master, Genesis 24:55-56.

From a spiritual perspective, one young woman of the Bible was forced to choose between her family or her future. Abraham is the first recorded father in the Bible to play an active role in selecting his son’s future wife. Abraham entrusted the manager of his estate, Eliezer, to fulfill this mission. After praying for God’s blessing on his search, Rebekah walks out toward him immediately following the conclusion of his prayer.

And they said, We will call the girl and ask her [what is] her desire. 58 So they called Rebekah and said to her, Will you go with this man? And she said, I will go, Genesis 24:57-58.

The context of today’s passage is just before a family feast. Eliezer shares his encounter with Rebekah as well as the events leading up to this God instance. After Rebekah’s family grants Eliezer’s requests for her to become Isaac’s husband, she must choose between her family and her future. Rather than deciding for her, Rebekah is asked to decide if she wants to stay a few days to be with her girlfriends or leave immediately. Rebekah chooses the future, eager to begin a new life with a man she’s never met of seen before. This is true faith.

by Jay Mankus

The First Match Maker of the Bible

The Dating Game television show debuted in 1965 with host Chuck Barris. One year after the Bible and prayer was kicked out of public education in the United States, the first orchestrated match maker series was formed. While I don’t remember much about the contestants on this show, I do recall Barris often trying to embarrass guests to entertain audiences. The first mention of match making in the Bible occurs in Genesis 24.

And you shall swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and earth, that you will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I have settled, But you shall go to my country and to my relatives and take [a]a wife for my son Isaac. The servant said to him, But perhaps the woman will not be willing to come along after me to this country. Must I take your son to the country from which you came? – Genesis 24:3-5.

Perhaps, Abraham learned from the trials of his nephew Lot. Rather than allow Isaac to choose his own wife for himself, Abraham gives his trusted servant specific instructions on where to find a potential wife. Worried about letting down Isaac, Eliezer speaks up about the what if’s? This second guessing prepares Eliezer’s thoughts on the best way to find Isaac a wife.

And he said, O Lord, God of my master Abraham, I pray You, cause me to meet with good success today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. 13 See, I stand here by the well of water, and the daughters of the men of the city are coming to draw water. 14 And let it so be that the girl to whom I say, I pray you, let down your jar that I may drink, and she replies, Drink, and I will give your camels drink also—let her be the one whom You have selected and appointed and indicated for Your servant Isaac [to be a wife to him]; and by it I shall know that You have shown kindness and faithfulness to my master. 15 Before he had finished speaking, behold, out came Rebekah, who was the daughter of Bethuel son of Milcah, who was the wife of Nahor the brother of Abraham, with her water jar on her shoulder, Genesis 24:12-15.

Subsequently, Eliezer turns his concerns and doubt into a prayer listed in the passage above. This prayer serves as a screening process for any candidate who doesn’t meet Abrahah’s high standards. Based upon Moses’ account, as soon as Eliezer finishes his initial prayer, Rebekah magically comes forth like a Hollywood movie. May today’s featured passage help you see that God’s timing can reveal Mr. and Mrs. Right.

by Jay Mankus