One of my high school Bible classes contained a chapter on Finding your Future Soul Mate. Rather than take a unit test, students had to create a check list of all the qualities they want in a future spouse. One of my former students, Dallas, who took part in this class, used this to help narrow down the women he eventually married. One of my inspirations for this topic came from Genesis 24.
And Abraham said to the eldest servant of his house [Eliezer of Damascus], who ruled over all that he had, I beg of you, put your hand under my thigh; 3 And you shall swear by the Lord, the God of heaven and earth, that you will not take a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I have settled, 4 But you shall go to my country and to my relatives and take [a]a wife for my son Isaac, Genesis 24:2-4.
While modern teenagers will definitely find this portion of the Bible old fashion, Abraham makes an important decision in this chapter. Abraham does not want Isaac to focus on physical appearances and features. Therefore, Abraham refuses to let Isaac go along with Eliezer to avoid any kind of superficial connection. Abraham’s main objective is to find someone who shares common beliefs and core values with his son.
Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper (suitable, adapted, complementary) for him, Genesis 2:18.
From a practical perspective, one of the best qualities you can find in a future spouse are strengths which compliment your own weaknesses. Perhaps, this is what Moses is alluding to in the passage above. A suitable helper compliments areas which you are deficient in. Subsequently, young people should be searching for these qualities rather than just physical features. May this blog be beneficial in helping find a future soul mate.
by Jay Mankus