Ten years ago, I volunteered for a week to serve as a camp counselor at an overnight Christian Camp just south of Reading, Pennsylvania. Due to a weeklong heat wave, a cabin without air conditioning and inner ear infection that lingered the rest of that summer, I never returned for a second year. Instead, my two sons now serve as camp counselors at Camp Cedarbrook. During a de-briefing session over lunch, my oldest son James shared his frustrations of boys in his cabin who never listened to him. Despite repeated attempts, numerous reminders and intervention from veteran counselors, James was unable to change these bad habits. Unfortunately, you can only do so much in one week of time.
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it, Proverbs 22:6.
Unless you are a coach, counselor, parent or teacher, you may not realize that America is on the verge of a parental crisis. After years of appeasing, bribing and spoiling children, basic character traits, courtesy and morals are missing. Instead cell phones, electronic devices and video games are killing social skills, creating a further divide between children and parents. Those individuals who are diligently working to stop this trend have their own obstacles to overcome. Abandonment, death and divorce has led to single parent homes, struggling to provide and raise kids at the same time. Giving a word of encouragement to my son, I replied “you can only do so much on your own.”
Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another, Proverbs 27:17.
One of my favorite passages in the Bible is a small quote from King Solomon. This wise man compares a black smith to being the best person you can be. When human beings enter into an accountability relationship, affirmations point out the good while flaws are pointed through honest assessments. As long as both parties seek the best interest of the other, character is strengthened like iron sharpening iron. For those who feel called into the ministry, you may not be able to win the hearts and souls of those who you love. God doesn’t call everyone to be successful, but faithful. Therefore, if you feel overwhelmed by a lack of progress in your life, remember you can only do so much.
by Jay Mankus