Tag Archives: coping with trials

I Can’t Help You With That

 The realist inside my heart has often led me to deviate from the script, persuaded by bored faces, uninterested glances and sleepy heads.  Perhaps, God has taught me that situations vary in life, different for each individual.  Thus, making a blanket remark or statement to anyone can be construed as inconsiderate, especially to a troubled soul.  Therefore, I have learned to be honest, saying to former students and peers, “I can’t help you with that” when I don’t know.

 

Unfortunately, Christians can come off cold as ice, unattached by responses like, “it must have been God’s will.”  When someone dies, gets diagnosed with a terminal illness or is left paralyzed by an accident, people need your love, prayers and support not a text book reply.  Maybe this is what the apostle Paul was eluding to in 1 Corinthians 13:1-3.  You can have the best personality, multiple talents and good intentions, yet without love you are nothing.

 

Pride is likely involved, puffing someone up in their minds until the frailty of life comes knocking at their door.  When roles are reversed, I wonder how this person will feel if a fellow believer serves up a patented quote from the Bible.  As Job endured heartbreak, trial and betrayal from his friends, Job 8:1-4, I can’t imagine the loneliness and pain he experienced.  If only someone stood up, broke from tradition and sincerely confessed, “I can’t help you with that, but God can!” – Luke 1:37

by Jay Mankus

Blowing Off Steam

When I hear someone try to reenact an event, joke or story, its hard to capture or relive the moment.  This is where Genesis 22:3 falls between the cracks, often skipped over by those studying one of the most famous chapters of the Bible.  In the wee hours of the morning, doing the work of a servant, Abraham blows off steam, chopping wood, trying to contemplate the task God assigns him.

As I meditated on this passage, I am picturing an old man, 100 years old to be precise.  As he barely get’s the heavy axe over his head, Abraham begins to mutter to himself before splitting the logs located on the ground in two.  Using sarcasm, his conversation goes something like this.  “Let me get this straight God; You are telling me to sacrifice the son you promised my wife and I, the same one we waited more than 18 years to conceive, the one who is suppose to be the father of a great nation and now you want me, his father, to kill him?”  Abraham takes his frustration out on each log, fuming and mumbling to himself.

Meanwhile, I see one of the 2 servants awake tries to intervene.  “Master, are you sure you don’t want me to do this?”  Abraham replies with a raised whisper, “just get the camels and donkeys ready for our journey.  We will need enough food and water for 6 days, so do what I ask.”  Shaking his head, the servant makes one more comment before going on his way, “why don’t we just tell your wife?”  “Hush,” Abraham replies, “how can I tell her I am about to sacrifice her one and only son?  No, we leave in one hour, before sunrise.  I am almost finished here.”  Abraham, bends over for a moment, stretching his back, then perseveres using a full moon as light until he has chopped up enough wood for their journey to Mount Moriah.

Jacob wrestled with God, Moses stuttered in God’s presence and Abraham blew off steam by mentally preparing himself for the hardest test man could endure.  If this is bad enough, think about Genesis 22:7 as Isaac asks his father about the sacrifice.  Somewhere along this journey, Abraham came to one of 2 conclusions.  First, either God was going to super naturally intervene like He does in Genesis 22:13 or the concept or resurrection came to Abraham.  At this point, in this weak moment, God took over, similar to Paul’s experience in 2 Corinthians 12:7-12.  Therefore, don’t be afraid to blow off steam, vent your disappointment with God or challenge God’s will for your life.  When you reach the point of total surrender, the Lord will unveil a miracle in your life.  However, at first, you must let go, Matthew 16:25.  God wouldn’t ask man to do something that He wasn’t already considering.

by Jay Mankus

Not A Storybook Ending

Hollywood has made billions off of happily ever after finales. The hero appears to have died several times, only to be miraculously saved, escaping death so that a sequel can repeat the script with more dramatics. Unfortunately, third world nations, the disadvantaged and unlucky have woken up to a not so storybook ending.

As Power Ball numbers come up empty, the silence of good paying job offers continue and signs of mediocrity fill the pages of life, individuals are left scratching their heads. Where is the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow? Doesn’t the good guy win in the end? Why do the wicked seem to prosper without being punished? These are just a few thoughts which run through the minds of those who have not tasted success in recent years.

A dose of reality is often painful, facing the facts that your life hasn’t turned out how you expected it would. In this disappointment, perseverance will either make  or break you. In the gospel according to Tin Cup, “either the moment will define you or you will define the moment?” In other words, how you handle obstacles, setbacks and trials will influence the outcome of your life story. Thus, the next time you endure a not so happy ending, fight with all that is within you, to insure your future will include life everlasting, 1 John 5:13.

by Jay Mankus

The Prayer of An Afflicted Man

Psalm 102 credits the author of this chapter to an afflicted man.  The term afflict means to badly affect, cause problems or make miserable.  In life, several variables can influence individuals to become bothered, distressed or troubled.  Depending upon the degree to which circumstances and or events inflict pain, people often rely on prayer as a last resort.

Thus, the words of Psalm 102:1-9 relate to one’s emotions, desperately crying out to God for Him to make sense of your situation.  Like the powerful scene in Forrest Gump, sometimes there aren’t enough rocks to throw, unleashing the bitterness deep inside of Jenny’s heart toward her father.  Unfortunately, most of us are persuaded by the devil to blame God for failures in life.  According to Ephesians 4:27, similar decisions allow the devil to have a foothold, making matters worse instead of better.

Since affliction is a common occurrence, Psalm 102 is a great outline to use for prayer.  Verse 17 promises that God will respond to the prayer of the destitute, answering their plea.  Therefore, the next time you experience signs of affliction, remember the words of this Psalm.  Whether you are a man or a woman, pour out your heart to God so that your pain will be replaced by the peace of Christ!

by Jay Mankus

All In His Hands

The remnants of 2012 can only be described as life altering for me.  While residents of the New Jersey and New York coast continue to pick up the pieces of their personal possessions, I am trying to recover from an employment hurricane which began with a phone call on January 1st and ended today, New Year’s Eve, losing my job with Amazon.  This storm has eroded my credentials, weakened my resume and washed my vision for the future into the sea.  Like a mangled piece of wood surviving an F-5 tornado, God has stripped away any remaining ego, bringing me to my knees.

Similar to a fool full of non-sense, I believed I could do anything I put my mind toward prior to 2012.  As I tried to take things into my own hands, I failed miserably, coming up empty for position after position.  Some where between coaching and teaching, I had overlooked the truth of James 1:17.  Meanwhile, prayerful hopes of naming and claiming authority over my financial mess proved void of any immediate help.  The image which summarizes how I really feel is found in Luke 15:16.  Just as the prodigal son yearned for food, I longed for closure, yet neither came for each of us.

Thus, I’ve come to the bottom of the barrel at the end of 2012.  Though it seemed to take an eternity, I am reaching out to my senses, Luke 15:17.  Only the Lord, Jehovah-Jireh as Abraham described Him in Genesis 22:14, can provide what my family and I need.  Although my spiritual cup is empty, living water is available, John 4:13-14.  From here on out, my finances, future employment and all that I need to sustain life are all in God’s Hands!  May this lesson be less painful for you than it has been for me.

by Jay Mankus