Tag Archives: Anger Management

Let Not Your Anger Blaze

When I first became a full-time youth director in Columbus, Indiana, I was taking over a youth ministry with great student leaders already in place. Prior to my arrival, students named their youth group BLAZ: Bible, Love and Zeal. Subsequently, whenever I see the word blaze, I am reminded of the great memories from the spiritual fire these teenagers possessed.

Then Judah came close to [Joseph] and said, O my lord, let your servant, I pray you, speak a word to you in private, and let not your anger blaze against your servant, for you are as Pharaoh [so I will speak as if directly to him], Genesis 44:18.

However, in the passage above, Moses is referring to blaze in the context of anger. When a servant or an individual with the status of a nobody, questioning people in power can be dangerous. This is why Judah uses the expression “don’t let your anger blaze.” Judah uses this as a way to soften the governor’s reaction by raising a question.

When angry, do not sin; do not ever let your wrath (your exasperation, your fury or indignation) last until the sun goes down. 27 Leave no [such] room or foothold for the devil [give no opportunity to him]. 28 Let the thief steal no more, but rather let him be industrious, making an honest living with his own hands, so that he may be able to give to those in need. 29 Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it, Ephesians 4:26-29.

From a modern perspective, the apostle Paul’s words to the Church at Ephesus provide sound advice about losing your cool. Paul suggests that you should immediately deal with anger. The worst thing you can do is let the sun go down while you’re still angry at someone. This gives the Devil a foothold in your life and opens the door for your anger to blaze and explode. May today’s passage help assist anyone with anger management issues.

by Jay Mankus

When You’re Accidently Going Nowhere

Impatient travelers are nothing new. While Moses doesn’t use the expression “are we there yet,” modern readers can visualize an annoying child asking this question over and over again during a long car ride. When people are hot and tired, tempers often flare which is what happens in the passage below. As complaining and grumbling intensified, the Israelites lost it when someone realized they were accidently going in circles, losing their way in the ever-shifting sand of the desert.

They set out from Elim, and all the congregation of Israel came to the Wilderness of Sin, which is between Elim and Sinai, on the fifteenth day of the second month after they left the land of Egypt. And the whole congregation of Israel murmured against Moses and Aaron in the wilderness, Exodus 16:1-2.

If history tends to go through a series of cycles, don’t be surprised when you find yourself lost in life. Whenever your confidence is shaken, assurance wobbles as where to go and what to do comes into question. I started 2022 with high hopes to write another screenplay and get promoted at Amazon. As the third quarter of this year is about to end, I find myself going backwards. I don’t think I missed the exit I was supposed to get off of, but I’m wandering around in circles like the Israelites.

Moreover, as they go about from house to house, they learn to be idlers, and not only idlers, but gossips and busybodies, saying what they should not say and talking of things they should not mention, 1 Timothy 5:13.

The apostle Paul points to idleness as the reason why some Christians end up accidently going nowhere. When you stop taking chances in life by playing it safe, you may find yourself lulled into a spiritual rut. Meanwhile, you may know exactly what needs to be done, but talk is cheap until faith is put into action. May the words of Jesus’ earthly brother challenge you break out of any bad habit by exercising your faith, James 2:26.

by Jay Mankus

Is There Such a Thing as Righteous Anger?

Anger Management is nothing to joke about, especially for those who struggle to maintain their composure when upset.  Yet, Hollywood created a 2003 film and television sitcom bearing the same name in 2012.  To the average person, there is a belief that getting angry is a sin.  This perception will lead non-believers to criticize Christians, referring to assertive comments, raised voices or certain tones like that displayed by Brett Kavanaugh as inappropriate behavior.  However, is there such a thing as righteous anger?

And Jesus entered the temple [grounds] and drove out [with force] all who were buying and selling [birds and animals for sacrifice] in the temple area, and He turned over the tables of the moneychangers [who made a profit exchanging foreign money for temple coinage] and the chairs of those who were selling doves [for sacrifice]. 13 Jesus said to them, “It is written [in Scripture], My house shall be called a house of prayer’; but you are making it a robbers’ den,” Matthew 21:12-13.

The Bible provides two specific examples to address this issue.  The first occurs as Jesus enters Jerusalem to prepare for the Passover Celebration.  While visiting the temple grounds, Jesus is disturbed by what he sees, a holy site turned into a money making operation.  This offended Jesus, inspiring righteous action, turning over these tables to shut down this shady business.  Jesus explains his reaction in verse 13, God’s house should be a place of prayer not a den of robbers.  Thus, in this case it appears righteous anger is acceptable in God’s sight.

Be angry [at sin—at immorality, at injustice, at ungodly behavior], yet do not sin; do not let your anger [cause you shame, nor allow it to] last until the sun goes down, Ephesians 4:26.

The second illustration comes from a letter written by the apostle Paul.  Most Bible translations of the passage above say “in your anger do not sin.”  However, the Amplified version takes this notion one step further by insisting to get angry when you see immorality, injustice or ungodly behavior.  This is followed by a warning, in your anger do not sin as these emotions might cause you to do something that you regret.  However, the Bible is clear about anger management.  You can become angry at those acts that upset God, but in your anger do not sin.

by Jay Mankus