As I was writing my next screen play at a local McDonald’s, I watched a woman struggling to corral two out of control boys. Each time she turned away, both boys would launch their new Happy Meal toy into the air. One of these cars ended up under my table, reaching down to hand it to one of the boys. This encounter led to a flashback, turning back the clock to when Leanne and I would take James and Daniel to McDonald’s. A little whisper inside of me asked, “where has the time gone?”
Every good gift and every perfect (free, large, full) gift is from above; it comes down from the Father of all [that gives] light, in [the shining of] Whom there can be no variation [rising or setting] or shadow cast by His turning [as in an eclipse], James 1:17.
As a former teacher, I know what it’s like to lose control of an entire class. In my initial years, I would give out busy work to fill up any extra time remaining at the end of a period. These exercises gave the disciplined and focused students something to do, but there are always individuals who seek to extend and push the defined boundaries. As a parent, I understand why computers, television and videos are relied upon to entertain children. Yet, if you use this technique too often, it’s like trying a bribe kids with chocolate.
And it was of His own [free] will that He gave us birth [as sons] by [His] Word of Truth, so that we should be a kind of firstfruits of His creatures [a sample of what He created to be consecrated to Himself], James 1:18.
Thus, there is a tendency to want to speed up time as a parent. To skip the terrible two’s for a more pleasant period in a child’s life. What parents and teachers fail to recognize is that life is about trial and error. When you fail miserably, you try something else to see if it works. One boy may hate being sent to time out while another enjoys being left alone in silent. Each day is a learning experience, an opportunity to improve and perfect the parenting process. Instead of wanting to fast forward to a more enjoyable age, seize each day that you have with your little boy or girl. When you do, you won’t have to wonder where has the time gone?
by Jay Mankus