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Perfect No More

As a youth pastor living in Columbus, Indiana, I spent many hours of my free time attending high school sporting events.  To support members of my youth group, I often traveled to cross country invitationals, cheering on the girls team of Columbus North which was usually perfect leading up to the state meet.  Unfortunately, Kokomo’s team, just east of Indianapolis seemed to have their number, falling a few places short of perfection.  Across town, Ashley was on the fast track to make the Olympics, never losing a high meet until the state finals her junior year, swimming for Columbus East.  Winning all of her qualifying races, Ashley was invincible until 1 bad flip turn cost her, staring at the scoreboard revealed a 3rd place finish, heart broken and perfect no more.

Several years later, I had the pleasure to coach high school golf for 10 seasons.  My first crop of athletes were destined for greatness as one is now a P.G.A. professional and the other is flirting with the mini-tours.  Experiencing growing pains my first 2 seasons, one of my golfers didn’t taste defeat until his senior season.  Sure, John had lost to other golfers in AJGA events, yet he was undefeated in match play.  Playing as an 8th grader, John regularly shocked and surprised seniors.  Strangely enough, John lost his final 2 matches 5 years later, as Goliath was beaten and perfect no more.

The average athlete tastes defeat every season, forced to cope with losing.  Regardless of the level or sport, only 1 team or individual is crowned a champion, leaving every one else a loser.  When trials come, one of 2 outcomes occur: individuals become mentally tough or visibly shaken as confidence and the memory of victory fades.  While perfection is unattainable on earth, Jesus urges his followers to set lofty goals, Matthew 5:48.  The words of the apostle Paul are a good starting point for those looking to pick up the pieces of their ego, Philippians 3:13.  Since you can’t change or control past results, “forget what is behind and look forward to that which is ahead!”

by Jay Mankus

Praying in Vain

Whether you are old, young or somewhere in between, hopelessness can lead people to question what they are doing?  When things don’t go your way, creating a snowball effect, minds might begin to wonder if God really cares about you and your situation?  If these trials persist, doubt often enters the scene causing individuals to begin to believe, “what’s the point of praying?”  “Why should I continue to pour my heart and soul into prayer, when nothing seems to change.”

This is where you will find David in Psalm 5.  In the midst of his circumstances, this servant of God wanted to make sure he wasn’t praying in vain.  Thus, he reminds God of his attributes, character and personality early in the morning.  Using God as a crutch, David realizes the Lord is his last resort, the only force able to transform his predicament.  Tired of seeing arrogant, deceitful, evil and wicked individuals proper, David pleads with God based upon Moses words in the Old Testament.  Not worthy to be called righteous, David rests in mercy, Psalm 5:7, entering God’s presence with reverence and respect.  Prayers like this one inspired the Lord to call his humble servant a man after God’s heart, 1 Samuel 16:7.

Wherever this blog may find you, confidence lies in results.  As soon as you see direct answers and progress, your attitude will improve.  However, if your words offered up in faith return unanswered, one of 3 things may be true,  First, God may be keeping you from something that might steer you away from Him.  Second, God’s timing is likely not aligned with your prayer, resulting in a “not right now” response, Ecclesiastes 3:11.  Finally, there is a chance that someone, something or an unconfessed sin from the past is blocking God’s reply, Isaiah 1:15-17.  Follow the principles of Isaiah 1:18-19 and you will leave vanity for sanity, experiencing a slice of heaven here on earth, Matthew 6:33-34.

by Jay Mankus

The Last Gift

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Since my father’s dad and mother’s mom died prior to my birth, I only knew 2 grandparents.  While my grandmother spoiled me with donuts and money, Grandpa Kautz and I developed a special bond through golf.  In his retirement, he worked part time at Hershey Country Club as a marshal and starter, able to play golf with his friends after each shift.  Before his health quickly faded, my wife and I were invited up for the day to play 18 holes on the East Course, a cherished memory I keep to this day.  A month following his funeral, my Aunt Marcia pulled me aside saying, “Paul wanted you to have this”, pointing to his set of Tommy Armour 845 irons.   Only a few years old, he knew I would appreciate them more than any other relative.  This was the last gift I received.

 
Beginning in John 12:20-36, Jesus pulled his disciples aside, revealing God’s plan for his life.  Trying to comfort their souls, Jesus conveys a message of hope, promising the Holy Spirit in John 14:15-31.  Jesus refers to a counselor who serves as a spirit of truth.  Continuing, Jesus makes a comparison to an orphan, vowing to provide relief to those who miss Jesus, John 14:18-19.  This promise became reality in Acts 2:1-4, as the Holy Spirit was poured out upon the apostle.  The man whom weeks earlier denied Jesus, afraid of being arrested or possibly meeting the same fate of Jesus, Peter is transformed by the Holy Spirit in Acts 2:14-39.  Jesus’ last gift provided a confidence his followers did not possess until after his ascension.

As time passed, some began to wonder if a Pentecost like Spirit was still possible.  The apostle Paul addresses this concern in Ephesians 19:1-6.  Verse 2 implies some believers had not even heard of the Holy Spirit.  However, when examining the original Greek text, the verse actually refers to receiving confirmation, a word from the Lord, on whether or not the Holy Ghost has ceased or continues to move as in the days of Pentecost.  Although this debate continues today, with most theologians clinging to the ceasing side, Joel 2:28 promises a mighty conclusion.  This prophet suggests that God’s last gift, will be poured out upon all people.  May you experience the presence of God like 2 Peter 1:3-4.

by Jay Mankus

Believing In Yourself

Photos of Tianlang Guan during his 2013 Masters second round

The 2013 Masters Golf Tournament got under way yesterday, the first major of this season.  Story lines abound with a 14 year old from China shooting 73, 1 over par, Fred Couples, a member of the senior tour carding a 4 under par 68 and a leader board filled with stars like Tiger, Rory and Phil.  However, the most intriguing note from Day 1 at Augusta National is a conversation which took place early Thursday morning.

Former champion Gary Player had a brief chat with David Lynn, a 39 year old from England.  Before walking off the range to begin his pre-round routine, David Lynn received great advice from Gary Player.  “You have to believe you can win this tournament before you tee off!  If you believe you can win, you can do this.”  In other words, if you believe in yourself, success will likely follow.

From a biblical perspective, the same principle applies, Luke 1:37.  If the words of Ephesians 2:10 are true, believing in the One above will motivate you to expect good things to happen.  As your faith increases, the power of God often raises your hope for the future.  Therefore, whether you are participating in a special event or facing a challenging task, place your trust in God, Proverbs 3:5-6, who will increase your internal confidence.

by Jay Mankus

Confidence in Prayer

Prayer is something people do, yet do they truly believe God is listening and will answer?  I go through phases in my life where prayer energizes me, waiting in eager expectation for an answer to my plea.  However, I also go through dry periods where God seems to be millions of miles away, silent and I feel as if I am talking to myself rather than praying.  My degree of intimacy with God influences the confidence I have as I enter God’s presence in prayer.

When an infant is first born, they are unable to speak.  Although, God has built into infants body language, facial expressions and a mouth to scream or cry to get their parents attention.  When babies are hungry, they fuss until they are feed.  As a Christian, part of our prayer life depends upon what we hunger for.  If we hunger for something outside of God’s will, our confidence in seeing answers will decrease.  As our hearts turn back toward the Lord, our prayer life can be rejuvenated, increasing our confidence in God to answer our prayers.

David is considered a man after God’s own heart because like an infant, he knew how to get God’s attention.  Though he questioned God regularly, David never forgot God’s nature.  Sometimes God does not answer our prayers due to a specific thing we have or have not done, 1 John 1:8-10.  James, the half brother of Jesus, is revealed by the power of the Holy Spirit a prayer to regain your confidence in prayer.  James 5:13-20 is a prayer of faith based upon situations you are going through.  If you are struggling with your prayer life, make James’ prayer your prayer.  Confess your sins to God and claim James 5:16 so that you will receive the answers and healing this morning.

by Jay Mankus