Wheedling is the process of coaxing, often using flattery, in order to persuade someone to do something or give you something. In the context of marriage, your spouse may nag you over and over again before you finally give into a specific demand or request. The pressure to conform, beaten into submission in this example, can wear on your soul. This act of persuasion often leads individuals to compromise, surrender or yielding to beliefs you formerly did not hold.
He had 700 wives, princesses, and 300 concubines, and his wives turned away his heart from God. 4 For when Solomon was old, his wives turned away his heart after other gods, and his heart was not perfect (complete and whole) with the Lord his God, as was the heart of David his father, 1 Kings 11:3-4.
As my former high school students would say to me while teaching a lesson about King Solomon, “he was a player.” Anytime you have a significant other, you have to ask yourself, “who do I please?” When you have an entire castle full of wives and concubines eager to get your attention, this demand on Solomon’s time must have been overwhelming. Despite being one of the wisest individuals to walk the face of the earth, at some point after getting married multiple times, Solomon finally succumbs to wheedling wives.
But I am saying this more as a matter of permission and concession, not as a command or regulation. 7 I wish that all men were like I myself am [in this matter of self-control]. But each has his own special gift from God, one of this kind and one of another, 1 Corinthians 7:6-7.
Perhaps, the apostle Paul had King Solomon in mind while writing a letter about marriage to the church at Corinth. Paul addresses the question I brought up earlier, allegiance to God or your spouse? While the single life is a lot less complicated, Paul realizes that many feel called to get married. Thus, when or if you do, watch out that you don’t succumb to the wheedling of ungodly beliefs. To avoid making the same mistake as Solomon, follow Paul’s advice in Galatians 5:7-10 so that you aren’t mislead by future temptations.
by Jay Mankus