Within a 48 hour period, my son Daniel experienced the thrill of victory and the agony of defeat. Last Saturday he placed 5th in the state in Pole Vault earning St. Georges four points. After the final event, his school won the state track title by three points. On Monday, playing in an qualifier for the state golf tournament, Daniel fell 7 shots short. A few bad holes led to his demise.
More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us, Romans 5:3-5.
The apostle Paul writes about the role of failure in life. Disappointment serves as teachable moments. Failure allows suffering to change your perspective on life. If you deal with this in a mature manner, character is developed. If not fits of rage will likely follow. Each failure you endure allows growth to take shape. However, it only depends upon how you respond.
My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever, Psalm 73:26.
No matter what you tell a younger generation, sometimes you have to let people learn the hard way. You can only hold someone’s hand so long. Eventually, you have to let the people you love sink or swim. Shielding children from failure will only hurt in the long run. Therefore, let go and let God use trials to strengthen the people you love.
by Jay Mankus