As the NBA kicks off its pre-season, I am reminded of Dikembe Mutombo’s patented block celebration pointing his finger back and forth as if to say, “not in my house!” Others may recall Tommy Lees Jones’ role in Man of the House, playing Texas Ranger Roland Sharp, laying down the law to University Texas cheerleaders as too what is modest dress and what is unacceptable attire. While those who grew up in an authoritative household, learned quickly as to what was and was not acceptable behavior.
Playing the role as a father is much more difficult than I first thought. I am careful not to be overbearing as my father was, using his experience in the military like a drill sergeant to rule the roost. On the other hand, if I’m too relaxed, I may give the devil a foothold, enabling my children to stretch the boundaries between right and wrong. Thus, I am learning that being a parent takes time, evolving with the times, remaining biblical, yet not exasperating my kids, Ephesians 6:4. The best way to demonstrate a not in my house atmosphere is through consistent Christ-like actions.
After returning from a retreat with my daughter, I was immediately challenged to apply what I learn from the weekend. One of my sons was about to play a video game not suitable for his age. As this game was loading, I was shocked by the initial image on the screen. Without raising my voice, I asked a simple question, “this doesn’t look like a game you should be playing?” Following a slight pause, my son switched this to a football game. Although, I ‘m not perfect and still have a long way to go as a dad, there’s still time to proclaim, “not in my house!” – Joshua 24:24
by Jay Mankus
ExpressYourself4Him 